first kiss, ...still hasnt come |
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first kiss, ...still hasnt come |
Jun 8 2005, 12:52 PM
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so my boyfriend and i have been going out for 6 months on the 13th of this month. (he is going to be 18 on the 26th of this month and i am 16). we havent kissed yet. one of my friends (i shall name her mary to protect her "innocence" lol) and well she doesnt believe we havent kissed and she says no matter what i say she thinks we have and im just not telling her. she said there is something seriously wrong with my bf. i disagree. she also said that she has discussed this with our other friends and they all agree with her: my bf and i should kiss and soon. she said that kissing and touching shows signs of affection and that you love each other. we do all the touching (...not like that like, hand holding or cuddling) we just dont kiss. it doesnt bother me that we havent kissed but everytime she mentions it she makes me feel like i should be doing it with my bf. plus, ive never kissed yet so maybe im nervous and am just putting it off o.O
any comments? or tips maybe on how i should engage in such an act? |
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Jun 8 2005, 12:59 PM
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![]() Call me Lauren d=] ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 278 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 113,118 |
Well six months is a pretty long time. But I don't think its THAT much of a big deal. Maybe you're more EMOTIONALLY attracted then physically..
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Jun 8 2005, 01:00 PM
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![]() livin up to the name. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 1,594 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,539 |
That means he respects you.
Dont listen to your friends. &Do what you think is right. |
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Jun 8 2005, 01:02 PM
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![]() Like i care. ♥ ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 780 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 124,706 |
If your not ready to kiss yet, dont. you have a nice bf, he respects you and doesnt want to push it..
Dont listen to your friends, thats stupid. you dont HAVE to kiss or do something, as long you are happy with the current status of your relationship its fine :D |
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Jun 8 2005, 03:42 PM
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![]() biglamchops ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 262 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 149,977 |
I was just like him. He's probably the nice type. Wouldn't hurt a fly, very shy, basically Mr. Nice guy. If you want to kiss him...go for it..he'll kiss you back..but he's probably self conscious like i was about kissing you for the first time. I'd say...kiss him. He probably wants to but doesn't know when the right moment is. So basically...he probably the type to never make the first move. And if you are too then you 2 will not be kissing for a while...which can be a good thing. Not rushing things i mean.
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Jun 8 2005, 04:07 PM
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You shouldnt fall into thr pressures of your friends. You guys will kiss when you are ready and believe me its best that way. Its makes it more special and memorable when its a spontenous act that just happens rather then doing it just because your friends think you should.
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Jun 8 2005, 04:15 PM
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![]() <3 ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
don't let your friends pressure you into kissing, you should do what you think is right and when the time is right. talk to her about it
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Jun 8 2005, 04:36 PM
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QUOTE(_sarcastic_ @ Jun 8 2005, 5:15 PM) don't let your friends pressure you into kissing, you should do what you think is right and when the time is right. talk to her about it ha talk to her about it. what you are saying is what i was saying but she just, i guess i have to telll her its my business and she doesn't need to worry about (and doesnt need to tell everyone else about it) she is very stubborn so i guess that is like evidence right there that i shouldnt listen to her -- thanks guys |
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Jun 8 2005, 06:22 PM
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they shouldn't be pressuring you to kiss your b/f. its YOUR b/f, not theirs! if you're not ready, and he doesn't seem to care, then enjoy each other's company and wait until the right moment. engaging in physical contact isn't what makes a relationship work---it's how you feel about the person that really matters.
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Jun 8 2005, 06:26 PM
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Don't worry what your friends think.
Only kiss if you're ready Yep. Maybe your boyfriend respects you. (: |
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Jun 8 2005, 07:53 PM
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if you're not ready yet, don't do it.
i'm 16 too and i haven't had my first kiss yet either hehehe...still waiting for it to come |
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Jun 8 2005, 07:59 PM
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WWMD?! - i am from the age of BM 2 ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 5,308 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 8,848 |
well, that's a pretty long time...but you kiss whenever you want. it would be much better to have a really special kiss with someone you love at an age later than others than to have a really sucky kiss with some jerk at a young age (like me..:P)
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Jun 8 2005, 09:16 PM
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![]() Tasty. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 471 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,784 |
thats..umm....weird? yea why haven't u guys kissed????? wow, i'm 17 and me and my bf kissed even b4 he asked me out! 6 months????? holy crap. u guys gotta look at your relationship. cuz 6 months is well enough time to engage in that kind of behavior. lol. wow, we've been goin out for like 1 month and already he's ready to take my top off! lol. (yea, TMI there, sorry) well i dunno, just like look at him and lean in. or flat out ask him why he hasn't kissed u. i dunno its a weird situation there. i dunno why u wouldn't have kissed yet.
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Jun 8 2005, 09:57 PM
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![]() jiyOunnn~ ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 692 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 109,706 |
go with your instincts.. and your friends cant control you. do what you feel. and if you want that kiss. GO FOR IT!
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Jun 8 2005, 10:33 PM
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![]() whaaaaaaat? ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 2,293 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,660 |
do u want it?
if u picked: yes: then u can make the first move and give him a peck, and then turn it into something more romantic, like a make-out session. if u picked: no: tell ur friends to be quiet because they don't understand that ur relationship with ur bf is not a physical attraction, but more of an emotional understanding of each other. tell them that the two of u just aren't into the whole making out thing and just respect each other like that. something like that. |
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Jun 8 2005, 10:45 PM
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![]() i <3 peter ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 350 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 147,825 |
It's sweet that you two haven't kissed yet. ^^
Don't pay attention to what your friends say. You'll treasure the kiss more if it's really the right time. <3 |
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Jun 8 2005, 11:08 PM
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![]() boo ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 5,512 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 71,765 |
Your friends can't really tell you what to do. If you think you're ready, go for it. You guys ahve been together for 6 months, if you're ready, I'm sure he will be too.
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Jun 8 2005, 11:13 PM
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Patient is a virtue. I prefer waiting then to rush. Just think about. If a relationship goes quick, a broken relationship goes quick. Friends can sometime help you and sometime they can put pressure. It up to you to make that decisions. That's my opinions.
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Aug 9 2005, 11:33 PM
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lol thats okay ^^ kiss whenever you guys feel its right. like me and my bf we've onli been going out for a month, and we havent kissed yet. its kinda weird sometimes cause when we hang out in groups my friends are like "are they making out???" but we havent even kissed yet haha but today he walked me home and i think he wanted to kiss me, like the look u know? but then i was like smiling and im like what?? and hes like nothing then he hugged me haha. i think i ruined it for him now i feel bad haha but today was a BAD DAY cause i had like chapped skin around my lips and i had a breakout today, and i was wearing a t-shirt 4 times my size with guy shorts so yea.. but we cuddle all the time and stuff
haha so overall, do it when it feels right, u dont have to kiss right after a week or anything |
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