dammit. Options

[EmmalieV]

I called my boyfriend and asked him why wasnt he going to work , he told me that he just wasnt cause he didnt want to. Im like wouldnt the manager curse you out hes like well yeah I guess so.

Then I call my friend and she tells me my boyfriend was fired and he told her before he told me , meaning he lied.

I hate people that lie especially people who i love

[*mipadi*]

Maybe he was just disappointed in himself, and didn't know how to break it to you. Or maybe he was waiting for a better time to do it.

[technicolour]

Don't you think you should confront him about it?

He lied. Does he know you know?

[yummy_delight]

I hate it when people lie, too.

Maybe your boyfriend just felt really ashamed that he got fired. If I were you, I'd confront him about it and ask him why he felt like he had to lie. Communication is really important in a relationship.

[*mipadi*]

Communication is really important in a relationship. [/font]

That's sprinkle-the-star's line.

[technicolour]

Yes, it is my line. I wasn't going to write it big until I got more info.

But Emmalie (sorry If I spelt your name wrong) you should talk to him about it. I mean, you can't build a relationship on lies, can you?

[*mipadi*]

But Emmalie (sorry If I spelt your name wrong) you should talk to him about it. I mean, you can't build a relationship on lies, can you?

I think it's a bit harsh to say it's "built on lies" at this point. One lie does not make a relationship "built on lies". Now, if the guy "stretches the truth" often, then yes, he is a liar; but if he otherwise is trustworthy, there might be a good reason for this lie. Losing a job can be rough, and he might also feel ashamed, and is worried that you will see him as not a good provider. Maybe he's trying to work something out with his boss, too.

A lie is not always a lie. I mean, yes, if you don't tell the truth, you are lying, sure; but there's a different between a lie done maliciously, and one done because a person hasn't quite figured out how to break the rough news to you.

[technicolour]

No, but he lied. Girls don't like it when a guy, especially their boyfriend lies to them.

But usually, those who lie, tend to do it more. Thus the reason I put the 'built on lies' thing. But I see what you're saying...

[rx_azngirl]

maybe he didn't want to disapoint you or something, but i think you should be a little mad because he lied to you.

[silver-rain]

Yeah, I hate it when my boyfriend lies to me too...
But perhaps you should talk to him about it; maybe he was a bit ashamed he was fired and didn't want you to know?

[oXMuhNirvanaXo]

wow cant help you there

[*brownsugar08*]

^what was the point of posting then?

[shortiiex]

he is lying because he cares or he was going to party with other girls while he was "at work"

[ishowernaked]

^^ what was the point of posting then? (to brownsugar lol)

[pinayprincess]

what a loser... tell you bf, [comfront him] teel him you want a honest relationship

[*salcha*]

what a loser... tell you bf, [comfront him] teel him you want a honest relationship

Um, I think that you should be softer with him, so you dont make the relationship worse.

[inthemudhole]

I honestly don't think it is that big of a deal.
I mean, judging from the information you have given us, this isn't something he does very often. And also considering the situation, it's a sensitive one to some. Maybe he's quite ashamed or embarrassed, and maybe he was waiting for the right time to tell you.

I honestly don't think you should worry. I guess if it bothers you a lot, then you should confront him about it, but to be honest, I don't think it's a huge issue if this is the first time he's ever lied. Everyone lies from time to time, you know.

[visualfusion]

what a loser... tell you bf, [comfront him] teel him you want a honest relationship

Wow, I feel sorry for whoever's gonna be your boyfriend

There are things that some people are just not comfortable telling... But if it doesn't affect you directly, don't try to force him into telling you and/or why he's doing all this. As long as he isn't a chronic liar... There's no need to worry about this.

[xchrystizzle]

yea, i think he was just dissappointed in himself, so he didnt want to admit it to you yet =/

[*mzkandi*]

Meh, people lie, you've lied, I've lied, we've all lied over the littlest things at some point our life. Just ask him why he did.

[maia_dc]

I guess he just didn't want to make himself look lower in front of you. It seems that it's not like he meant to hurt you by it, so I think you should let it go.

But yes, lying is hurtful...

[HoodieObsessed]

I wouldn't blame him too much, he probably jsut didn't know how you would react. He was afraid that oyu would get angry or something and was too frightened to tell you perhaps. I bet he would've eventually.

Don't judge him to harshly for it, no one's perfect. Just tell him that next time you'd prefer him telling you instead of lying and that you promise if he does you won't explode at him and there's no reason to lie.

[elaboratedream]

don't think too much of it. he was probably just disapointed in himself and he didn't want you to think less of him... he would have told you eventually.