smoking, smoking is bad Options

[REBELnDISGUISE]

okay i have this friend that smokes but i spend hours on the phone talking to her to stop smoking but she doesn't listen she said its permited...she only smokes when shes upset and shes upset a lot...she never listens and i love her to death but she won't listen to me..please help =[

smokers are gross...and it's true what they say...Kiss a smoker is like licking an ash tray...and trust me...don't try. Not fun

im sorry, from my view i can only see two choices
either communicate or threat her

but, threating is a really bad idea, she might take it seriously then u lose a friend

in the end, u still have to communicate better with her right?
i know its hard...just keep trying, dont give up

[AnnahhbeL]

talk it out with her. tell her what smoking does to her. try to cheer her up.be a good friend and tell her that smoking isnt gonna help. it never does.besides its bad 4 you

[sheddingtears]

express your caring for her...
but dont force her to do anything.

[Mr. Slowjamz]

i agree with everyone else ......its kinda usless to ask the guy or whatever to quit smoking ....it would either cause the problem to go worse ....or even break your friendship ....and just for smoking ?? .....well i can tell you that one of my best friends smoke ....and were still good friends ....but that doesnt mean i smoke .... i hate smoking ....especially ruining these vocal chords .....?

[yupimchuck]

obviously theyre doing it because they want to.
you shouldnt try to stop them, itll only make the situation worse

[SillyCourtney]

Well..

1. It's their choice. When they're lying in a hospital bed with cancer say, "Wellll, it was your choice ya know."
2. It she smokes because she has depression.. or she gets "upset".. why are you worrying about her smoking?? Give her better advice and tell her to take some depression medication. Maybe then she might stop smoking because she finds the depression meds make her feel better anyways.

I think that should solve it.

[blogdeleted]

if all else fails, begin looking for a new girl 2 hang out with.

[ashlierae__x]

I'm going to tell you what she's proabbly thinking.
I'm in your friends situation.
One of my really good friends has been bugging me
to quit. I've tried. I really have. It's addicting. I
love her to death and would never want us to not
be friends. I get irratated when she digs it into my
skull that i shouldn't. I'm not retarted. I know what
it does to me. I've cut down alot. I think I'm almost
to my quitting point. It's taking me almost one year
to just smoke like 1/2 times a day. It takes time. Don't
threaten her. Don't try and stress her out much. Thats
when i start again. When I stress. Some things I would
want my friends to say to me is. I just want you to stop.
I love you and I don't want somthing bad to happen to you.
I'll be there for you no matter what. Not. Stop or our friendship
is over. Your stupid for doing that. why do you do that stop.

[elaboratedream]

tell herhow you feel, but give her time... quitting is gonna be hard so don't pressure her too much. that might make it worse...

as for the intervention idea, those suck. my friends did that to me (but it wasn't about smoking...) and it just caused a relapse...

[gotahemmi55]

i know what you mean, it's hard to watch good friends, at first they just do it to act cool, thinking they can quit whenever they want, but they just keep doing it until they are up to a pack a day, and they can't stop anymore.

I have 3 friends that it has happened to, makes me sad

[dorischu]

Be frankly, if u r one of the smoker. You will know its hard to quit it. Caused I'm smoke too. Well, unless there is something/matter to force her quit (example like get any serious sickness or having child ..), otherwise its very hard to get her quit it.

Take some time on it, maybe she will take your advise.

[Chii]

... Let her smoke. It's her effing choice. Stop forcing your opinion on her. You're not being a good friend by not respecting her opinions. If smoking helps her, so be it.

how can smoking help her friend when it's slowly going to kill her?

Tell her that smoking kills, and you don't want to see her chances of living a long and happy life go to waste. Then give her some statistics, or better, give her the shock effect. Actually SHOW her pictures of what happens to you when you smoke..

And if it doesn't work, seek help. There are tons of hotlines out there that'll help you.

yeah, show her the effects of smoking. the lines in your lips, the different cancers she can get, the warts that can grow in your mouth and throat, the wrinkles, and all that. i never was interested in smoking but after i saw those pictures i vowed never to smoke. ugh, it's so gross.

plus, not only does it eat away at your life, but it eats away at your money because they price of cigarettes is rising and the cigarette smoke stinks up your clothes and she'll need to do all this washing to get rid of the smell which she probably won't do.

smoking is so gross

[Paradox of Life]

how can smoking help her friend when it's slowly going to kill her?

Exactly. It's her choice if she wants to die that way. If that's 'helping' her, back off.

Okay. I have a friend that smokes as well and he is REALLY close to me. I'm trying hard to make him quit (he's trying harder) by giving him a CD for every month he goes without smoking. I don't care how much that's going to cost me because it matters a lot to me that he's healthy. He also has will to stop smoking for HIMSELF.

Maybe you should ask your friend if smoking is what she really wants and try to coax her out of it without threatening her.

[megan_x3]

We can't really tell you what to do, or just let her smoke. If she doesn't quit and thinks that smoking can make her have no more pressure or depression, then let her smoke. It's her choice. Whether than, you can either tell her that if smoking is really want she wants.