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I need boy help!, My friend wont let me go out with a guy!
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post Jun 18 2005, 08:18 PM
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My friend like three guys, I like one of them. She doesnt do anything about her crushes, and she told me not to date that guy, she told me to turn him down if he asks me out. what should I do if he does? I dont want to ruin our friendship, I know no boy is worth that but still, is she out of order, or am I? ermm.gif
 
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post Jun 18 2005, 08:50 PM
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ur friend is selfish, go out with the guy. Forget your friend if she is that selfish since she aint gon do ne thin about her guys.
 
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post Jun 18 2005, 09:40 PM
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she's being selfish... and if he DOES ask you out, then she still has those 2 other guys anyway huh.gif
 
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post Jun 18 2005, 10:15 PM
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tell her she cannot control you, and she really has no right and your not taking something from her, because she obiviously never had it
 
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post Jun 18 2005, 10:18 PM
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shes your friend; but she should not be the one telling you who to date and who not to date just because one of the guys you like she likes too. thats not fair. Tell her that.
 
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post Jun 18 2005, 10:33 PM
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0h goshness.. drama . Anyways, girl, even though she's your friend, she's not acting like one, if she claims all the guys she has a crush on is hers. Which btw, is totally unFAiR! Personally, i wouldn't listen to her.. Because she hasn't really done anything to even let them know she likes them ...(well that's just me). But on the reals..yea your riight sayin "no boy is worth losing a friendship", but you know, don't let her make decisions for you and your life. Because simply its YOUR LIFE, you can do anything you want to. haha So, yea i would say "yes" to the guy, b/c you like him..and you shouldn't hide that kind of feeling just for your friends selfish sake. [erm..sorry kind of harsh]. So yeah. But just a warning..if she does get mad at you for sayin "yes" to the guy..tell her,
-don't start drama!
-its my decision not hers [in the nicest possible way]

or just plainly talk it over is the best..but if she's still mad from what you did, she was never a friend . aiight hope i helped!! ^.^
 
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post Jun 18 2005, 10:49 PM
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i think if she's a true friend then she wouldnt be so selfish and tell you who to date or who not to...... she basically doesnt care about what you think...... and who you wanna go out with is your decision.... she cant tell you what to do
 
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post Jun 18 2005, 10:53 PM
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say that if he asks here out she has to say no...and see how she feel sbaout that
 
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post Jun 18 2005, 10:54 PM
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well; if he really does ask you out first of all, you should say yes and just tell your friend that you two actually like each other, and she could stick with her other two if she is that desperate.. _dry.gif i dont see a point of hogging three guys that dont seem intrested.
 
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post Jun 18 2005, 10:56 PM
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wow no offence but 3 PPLZ!!!!! omg tell her to go for 1 guy n if 1 of em askes u out go 4 it
 
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post Jun 19 2005, 01:17 AM
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thanx peoples _unsure.gif
 
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post Jun 19 2005, 01:24 AM
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The friend is being selfish. She cant have every guy she likes to herself. If you like that guy and he ask you out then go for it. You have a mind of your own and dont need anyone telling you what to do. And if she was a true friend she would respect that.
 
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post Jun 19 2005, 06:05 AM
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she's not a friend if she can say that to yooh. someone needs to put some sense into her head. who does she think she is, asking yooh to turn down other ppl like that? i mean, if she does like him, she'd want him to be happy, and if he does ask yooh out, it means that he believes being with yooh would make him happy. so she'll let yooh. actually, she cant let yooh, because its not in her control at all, she cant stop yooh from going out with a guy yooh like and likes yooh back!
 
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post Jun 19 2005, 11:46 AM
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She's totally out of line. There's a complete difference between situations in which she's in a relationship, and she doesn't want you to help her boyfriend cheat on her (which she shouldn't be worrying about in the first place) and a situation in which she likes THREE different boys, none of which she's garunteed to get, and tells you that you're not allowed to like him.

What if he likes you? Then she never had a chance with him in the first place. If he asks you out, you should go out with him. She may see it as you ruining a friendship, but if he asks you out before her, then he never wanted her as much as you anyways, and even if he ends up going out with her, he's still going to feel attraction for you. If she's stupid enough to try and limit your relationships with boys, then you don't need to try and heed her.
 
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post Jun 19 2005, 01:16 PM
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Your friend is out of line. First of all, since she isn't dating any one of the guys, therefore she cannot set restrictions on them. Tell her honestly that if you like him and he's going to ask you out then you will say, "yes" and go out with him. Tell her that she's being selfish and inconsiderate. If the guy asks you out, go for it.
 
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post Jun 19 2005, 05:50 PM
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Dayyyhuuumm...you're friend is seriously messed up. She has NO RIGHT to say who you can/cant go out with. and if he likes you, and not her, then, go out with him. She's so out of line and messed up that really, if i were you, i would say to hell with her.

that sounded mean. but i would.
 
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post Jun 19 2005, 06:21 PM
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she's being selfish. if she's your friend she should try to be happy for you no matter how hard it is.. just go out with him biggrin.gif
 
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post Jun 19 2005, 06:36 PM
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So? It's not like she's your mother, is she? Evenmore, she has no relation with the boys.

YOU and only you can control yourself. [Except for authority figures, you know?]
 
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post Jun 19 2005, 08:00 PM
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Wow, I hate it when that happens. But seriously, if she never does something about it and just sits on her butt and thinks about them and doesn't even like talk to them, that's really dumb. If the guy asks you out, you should go out with him anyway, because I real friend would not hold a boy against your friendship. Goodluck =]
 
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post Jun 19 2005, 08:01 PM
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Since when the hell is she telling you what to do?
 
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post Jun 22 2005, 08:30 PM
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thanx
 
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post Jun 22 2005, 10:58 PM
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no offense, but you're friend's kind of selfish there o.o she has to learn that she can't get EVERYTHING that she wants. besides, she doesn't even do nething to her crushes! if the guy likes u, i say go for it, if she's your friend, she would understand
 
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post Jun 22 2005, 11:07 PM
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thats a hard one, but you gotta figure out whats important to you. Does she really REALLY like this guy? If she's crushing other guys than i'd say probably not. Maybe you should go for it. i mean maybe nothing happens between you and him, then everyones ok right? It all really depends on you and her, and of course you know her, and we don't so the call is yours. Just don't wind up loosing friends over boys. cuz trust me, boys come and go, but your girls are the ones that are there forever (if they're truly your friend) and friends care about what you want. It seems you care about her feelings. but if she doesnt care enough about yours then you shouldnt be worried about hurting her. But like I said your the only one that can make the choice, It shows how nice of a friend you are that you didnt just go for it, you asked for advice...go you...seriously!
 
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post Jun 22 2005, 11:19 PM
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Don't worry about this until he actually asks you out because you might be having a nervous breakdown when it may never happen. If he does and if you really think you can pursue a successful relationship with him, just accept.

If your friend has a problem with it, maybe she's being too controlling of you and you should just talk to her about it. If she can't handle it, perhaps you should reconsider your relationship with her.
 
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post Jun 22 2005, 11:19 PM
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simple:

she's not acting like a friend nor does she seem like it so therefore if you go out with this guy it won't ruin your so called friendship with her.
 

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