"juss friends", is anybody able to do it? Options

[SpedMonkee]

well i broke up with my gf the other day. we were going out for about 5 months... it still hurts abit to think about it... she wants to still be friends with me, but i told her at the time, because i was pretty pissed off and upset and a bit confused, that i didnt want to be. now, only two days after, i want to be friends with her. but i dont know if i want to be friends with her so we could be friends.. or because i still want to be with her.. because i do...

[PinkTrash]

That happends to me everytime. Its like, once you cross the friendship line, you can't go back ><" me and my ex used to be best friends, now it seems like we hate each other and its so tragicc.

[DixieDaCutie]

^^ ahhh desperately hoping that won't happen to me...

when me n my bf broke ^, it was kinda awkward @ school, so yea- we pretty much avoided each other. after a while it all kinda passed, n now we're pretty close again [as friends]...gl~!!

[naiverucee]

my friends that went out for over a year broke up and they are like freaken awesome friends still. Also i still remained friends with like ... a semi boyfriend. so it IS doable. Just depends on like time you konw? to wash away the awkwardness so ya.

[yellowgurl]

its okay things will get better

[xldubaliciousx]

I have seriously not held another ACTUAL conversation with any of my ex-boyfriends for at least 6 months. Yeah, I mean small talk is cool. But never under the surface.. I don't know what to tell you. But if I were you I would try to talk to him. Just as friends. Otherwise, you will regret it.

[LittleLulu]

ok see my EX boyfriend...and i..(HAH see that grammer alex? ) broke up a long time ago..we said we'd still be good friends. but then he started going out with my best friend..and i got really mad at him. then as time past we're friends now=) so everything's good

oh n p.s he got dumped by my best friend toooo. =)

[CrazayChristian]

It's...akward being friends after a break up. It's reason #632 (yes I have over 700 reasons) I don't take too many girlfriends.

It CAN work, it's just hard.

[enyceXaddiction]

happens to me ALL THE TIME. every relationship i end up not being freinds with them 4ever. its a weird thing.

[lKVNiiKINKYl]

Never had anyone but I think it all depends on how you break up.

[berry_lickable]

i dont usually become friends with my exes. as they say though "friends could be lovers but lovers cant be friends."

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

there are only two exes ive had that im not friends with anymore the first, is cos he THOUGHT i was cheaintg [ i wasnt and i never would] and called me a slut and the second one was cos of him trying to rape me. i hope he dies.

anyways usually a day or two after we break up i'll just say hi to them and keep a conversation up its awkward at first but im an easygoing person and yeah.. it goes good after.

[sadolakced acid]

it can work out.

after all the hating and stuff is over, me and my ex get along (relativley) fine.

[*anubis*]

it just depends on the person you were with though.

i've got two perfect examples of me with my two ex's.

my first ex, i've known since for about 8 years now (since 2nd grade) and, after we broke up, we've still managed to be really good friends (could be even better). but while we were in our relationship, we weren't that close.

but my second ex. we were always all touchy-feely in our relationship. after the breakup--it was just horrible. at times we'd ignore each other and at times she'd be mad at me for the weirdest reasons. so we went from being so close in our relationship to just--flat out nothing.

so my rule of thumb is, the closer you are to someone in a relationship, the harder it is to remain friends afterwards.

[The-Mach-Hare]

ive remained friends with a lot of people ive gone out with. its really not that hard if you feel mutual about some things

[biglamchops]

That's rough.... The only way that's possible is to spend some time away from each other. It's the hardest thing to do...but if you guys want to be friends...its the only way. It'll never be the same but you have to accept that fact. I haven't been able to yet to become friends with my ex...but...Time will tell...

[sheepy]

that is quite interesting, i was in the same kind of situation. cept we dont talk anymore, but we're different cus it wasn't mutual. he liked another girl..but yeah, i see it happen.

[Azn_Angel13]

uh... this happened to me. i broke up wif mai bf for the reason to be friends and the way he's been acting .... and then we didnt stay as friends. he disses me a lot in front of his friends, crowds of pple. he starts being a jerk to me. yeah... how do u juss overcome not hating each other?

[dfly112]

always happens... its juss the shock of it all afta a longg relationship... it juss feels awkward to talk to that person for a while... but start up small talk n u'll b friends again

[Bobblehead425]

happend to me. we broke up and didnt speak to eachother for about 4 1/2 months but now i guess we're friends....just not as good as a friend he used to be i guess lol

[lilJdawg]

Yeah, it happened to me. I don't really give a fck'. If they want to be friends then they would talk to me. Try talking to him, like about anything. If he doesn't want to talk back then don't even gotta' try. He doesn't want to be your friend.