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 Jul 5 2005, 12:34 AM
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 07 isz coming  Group: Member Posts: 333 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,490  |
hey!! ... my bf's great n all, but i nvr find myself thnking about him. i think i still like my ex [we're like best friends now], but i dunno if he likes me @ all....who noz. i haven't really made up my mind, but i dont think its fair 2 my bf that im not totally devoted n into him as much as i should be...
question~ is it worth it to ditch my bf 2 find out if theres anythin left w/ my ex?? anyy advice greatly appreciated~!! thanks!!  1 35 here...goodnight~ |
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Jul 5 2005, 12:38 AM
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i think you should first think about your bf..
do you still love him? you still think about the relationship between you and your bf first.. |
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Jul 5 2005, 12:40 AM
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 naïvety Group: Human Posts: 1,303 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 488 |
Wow... how can you call him your bf if you're not 100% devoted to him?
 Yes, it's worth it. Because even if your ex doesn't have a thing for you anymore, you won't have to be clinging onto your current bf. |
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Jul 5 2005, 01:09 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 258 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,101 |
well just think, if it doesnt work out with your ex, remember that you ruined any other chance with your bf :)
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Jul 5 2005, 07:01 AM
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 pish stick! Group: Member Posts: 104 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 118,033 |
go with the person that you are most comfortable with.
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Jul 5 2005, 08:41 AM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
you should just break up with your bf since you're not totally devoted to him like you should be. well if your ex is your ex, i don't think that there is anything left.
but it's up to you |
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Jul 5 2005, 11:46 AM
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 My name's Katt. Nice to meet you! Group: Member Posts: 3,826 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 93,674 |
QUOTE(limanman @ Jul 4 2005, 11:38 PM) i think you should first think about your bf.. do you still love him? you still think about the relationship between you and your bf first..  Exactly. If you're still thinking about your ex, obviously you're not ready for another relationship. Tell your boyfriend you need a little space to think. Sort things out and decide whether you want to just be friends with your boyfriend or continue a relationship. Slow down and think things out. Like I always say, DON'T RUSH |
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Jul 5 2005, 12:00 PM
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 TOISU!! Group: Member Posts: 1,996 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 92,516 |
Hmm.
Take the chances of cheating.  Flirt with your ex without your bf knowing and see if he reacts. Just keep it on the dL yah know. If he doesn't like you. Then just stay with your bf.
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Jul 6 2005, 10:29 AM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
Even if you aren't sure if your ex has feelings for you or not.....you should be fair to your boyfriend and end it because for one, you still have feelings for your ex and that you don't find yourself thinking about him that much and you're not even devoted to him as much as you think you should be...
 Do both yourself and him a favor and just get it over with. |
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Jul 6 2005, 11:26 AM
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Well I think the real problem is the fact that your not competely into your boyfriend currently. And if that is the case then you need to break it off with him because its not fair to him or yourself.
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Jul 6 2005, 12:11 PM
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 show me a garden thats bursting to life Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 12,303 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 115,987 |
^ I agree. If you aren't devoted them then whats the point?
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Jul 6 2005, 11:53 PM
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 :] Group: Member Posts: 86 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 162,876 |
agree with mzkandi
i wouldve said something like that but too lazy to type |
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Jul 7 2005, 01:35 PM
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 im addicted to my car<3 Group: Member Posts: 635 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 92,236 |
maybe youre really better off alone for a while?
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Jul 7 2005, 03:42 PM
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 The Eurasian Concert Master Group: Member Posts: 484 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,826 |
Well first think if you really like him or not, then take it from there. You should break it if you're not putting everything into your relationship, becasue it makes it not worth it.
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Jul 7 2005, 05:20 PM
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hmm wow interesting. before you current boyfriend continues to have more feelings for you maybe you should spare him at least the embarassement (sp) or hurt that he may go thru. life..its all about taking chances. if you like your bestfriend maybe you should talk to him about it..so you wouldn't get your feelings hurt either if he isn't interested in you that way. sometimes its just better off as best friends...i've been there. but if you talk to them about it it'll get a lot of weight off your shoulders. if anything..good luck!
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Jul 7 2005, 06:01 PM
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 memories live FOREVER<3 Group: Member Posts: 1,150 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 132,793 |
if you dont like your bf then you have to broke up with him. its even worse for him if you dont like him and cont. to go out with him. firts make sure if you like him or not. and your ex...hmm...after if you do break up with your bf ask your ex if he still lieks you adn tell him you liek him maybe somehting will happen again.
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Jul 8 2005, 07:19 PM
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CHYEAAHHH MAN Group: Member Posts: 1,255 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 168,013 |
Personally I would stay with him because I'm one of those people who would never take risks...but if your a wild child then you should take that chance. Maybe one of the best things of your life will happen...
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Jul 8 2005, 11:41 PM
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07 isz coming Group: Member Posts: 333 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,490 |
wow thanks everyone!! gahh it turns out my ex still likes me... n im still deciding how i feel. gonna go on a double date tomorrow w/ my bf-- i know it's not fair to him, but im gonna see if my feelings for him are still the same when im around him.
 hopefully things'll wrk out~
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Jul 9 2005, 02:58 AM
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 Call me Lauren d=] Group: Member Posts: 278 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 113,118 |
QUOTE(DixieDaCutie @ Jul 8 2005, 9:41 PM) wow thanks everyone!! gahh it turns out my ex still likes me... n im still deciding how i feel. gonna go on a double date tomorrow w/ my bf-- i know it's not fair to him, but im gonna see if my feelings for him are still the same when im around him. hopefully things'll wrk out~Ahhh.. Double date WITH your boyfriend there? Good luck with that. Hopefully it will clarify your feelings. But whatever you do don't pursue your ex-boyfriend till you dump your current boyfriend. It's only fair. |
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Jul 9 2005, 12:53 PM
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CHYEAAHHH MAN Group: Member Posts: 1,255 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 168,013 |
QUOTE(DixieDaCutie @ Jul 9 2005, 12:41 AM) wow thanks everyone!! gahh it turns out my ex still likes me... n im still deciding how i feel. gonna go on a double date tomorrow w/ my bf-- i know it's not fair to him, but im gonna see if my feelings for him are still the same when im around him. hopefully things'll wrk out~I think the double dating thing is a good idea...but a bit akward |
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Jul 10 2005, 02:44 AM
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 ..hawaiian pride.. Group: Member Posts: 40 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 84,150 |
you shouldnt lead your current bf on... and who knows? your ex might still like you? i mean, how did you guys break up? if it was over something small and stupid, who knows, maybe he still likes you
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Jul 10 2005, 02:59 AM
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07 isz coming Group: Member Posts: 333 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,490 |
i read over all of everyone's advice, n decided to dump my bf...hope it was the right thing to do.
guess it's too early to tell~ my ex knows how i feel about him, so not much left for me to do...except for wait. ahhhh *the tension of waiting builds* do ya think i made the right moves?? after i dumped my bf, he told me he still loved me...>_< gahh i dont think he knows what love is tho...
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Jul 10 2005, 03:24 AM
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 Like i care. ♥ Group: Member Posts: 780 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 124,706 |
You were not really in love with your bf.. so dumping him was the best, and most honest thing to do.
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Jul 10 2005, 10:05 PM
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 Go to Tahiti, and make out with a native. Group: Duplicate Posts: 914 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 10,267 |
if you dont know what your ex thinks, talk to them. its pointless to leave a person your with and not know what will happen with another. you could break up with your b/f and this other kid not like you and then your b/f wont want you back and then your screwed. you just have to think about it.
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Jul 10 2005, 10:07 PM
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 jiyOunnn~ Group: Member Posts: 692 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 109,706 |
QUOTE(K!$$ @ Jul 5 2005, 12:40 AM) Wow... how can you call him your bf if you're not 100% devoted to him? Yes, it's worth it. Because even if your ex doesn't have a thing for you anymore, you won't have to be clinging onto your current bf. i agree. just take time and think. hard lol |
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