Abusive Boyfriends Options

[lilJdawg]

i think you should end it. later on, you will get hurt really bad.

[cmgchica717]

no man should ever ever lay his hands on you. Leave and get out of this while you can. That whole act he puts on after he does hit you is just that...an act. He starts to cry himself and says baby I didnt mean to do that Im sorry that will not happen again, i know...my dad use to do the same thing to my mom. Love should not have to hurt and this is obviously not love. Do yourself this one favor and leave him. Its going to take alot of courage to leave but you look like a tough woman. Take your daughter and get out of this relationship, you should not be his doormat dear.

Good luck to you, keep your chin up

[lulu424]

u suck

[xtransatlanticis...]

didn't you ever have those sessions in middle school where the guidance counselor came to everyone's fifth period class and talked to you about this? dump him. this could end up with you dying.

[abcdefg123]

you should seriously end it. forget about him. if he really loved you he wouldnt hurt you like this and he wouldnt rape you. i saw on tv once, there was this lady, her husband almost killed her. he was all nice when she married him but he became violent. he raped her and really abused her. and left her for dead, after he set her on fire. if you dont end it, that may happen and i'm sure you dont wanna go through that, so close to death.

[JustAnotherTeena...]

END IT

[tchotchke]

... this was a while ago. Are you still with him?

[angelshortipnai]

gah, i REALLY think u should end it..i mean, it CAN get WORSE....he can actually get arrested for that u know?

[xoxvietbabyy]

I think you should end it, but who knows what he'll do if you do end it?

[yukichan]

this topic was started a while ago..hu brought this back up?
anyways what happened?

[x0xpaulax0x]

about every persons reply sucked!!
not to scare u or anything but i don't really think there is much that u can really do cus if u send him 2 jail that will make him even more mad and if he gets parole (sp..?) he might come after u again and (not to freak u out or anything) kill you. If u got counsaling or even therapy u dont know if that will help. I think you should really talk to him about this because if he continues to do this he might not think you care that hes abusing you and he'll continue to do that.


luv ya,
Paula & Tatiana

[literemix24]

I think that you guys should talk this over, if this doesn't stop, i think the best thing to do is to..end it.

[nothingless]

you have a baby. you don't want someone like him in your babies life. you can much better than a scumb bag like him. if my boyfriend even laid a finger on me, i would punch him in the face. no joke. i've done it to other guys who get in my face, but luckily i found a guy who is sensitive around me. cries alot.. not a P**sy.. but still.. :)

[iiloveyou637]

iii suggest you end it because he hurts you even more like getting a knife and cutting your head off or something. and guys aren't supposed to hit girls!!!!

[Fallen Fairy]

no you shouldn't take that from him or from anybody
leave before its too late

u suck

wtf?

fallen fairy

[pixamelon]

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[sheepy]

well.. it doesnt matter if you love him, becus if he hurts you then he really is not worth it.

[enyceXaddiction]

doesnt this belong in the relationship section?

[beambitious]

run away and take ur daughter go distant and then call him and try to talk to him and see what happens....i dunno u could try that

[WickedDreamer]

A bruise can be covered with foundation and a broken arm will heal. But, what happens when it's your life he takes?

[CloudNine]

Okay. First off I've been in a similar situation and my closest friend is in one now.

The most dangerous part of a abusive relationship is when you leave. He thinks that if he can't have you then nobody will. You need to get your stuff and leave when he's not there- go to a friend's or family member's house or go to a shelter for abused women.

Every abusive relationship is a vicious cycle- you get into a fight and are hurt, he apologizes and tells you how sorry he is, he kisses up to you, tension once again builds, it keeps building, until another fight happens. This cycle gets worse and worse.

My best friend was sent to the hospital last year when her abusive boyfriend Jared punched her in the face, leaving a scar above right eye where his ring had hit her. He has punched her, kicked her, and thrown her down. My other friend and I have tried to protect her as much as possible, I've even yelled at Jared (I'm not afraid of any man lol.) He is a complete control freak to the point where it's okay for him to hang out with his friends but it's not okay for her to spend the night at a friend's house. He reads any of her letters, questions her, etc. This is a abusive boyfriend.

Abuse comes in two forms- physically and mentally. Both are never the fault of the woman being abused. It's very difficult to leave because you truly do feel you love him but let me say this- No man should ever make you cry, hurt you, and abuse who you are. Most girls in a abusive relationships have low self esteem so they feel they need to be with that person but trust me when I say it'll only get worse.

My sister was abused and he would rip the phone cords out of the wall so she couldn't call for police, he would beat her in front of their child, etc. And another thing, if he abuses you over stupid things, can you imagine what he would do to your kid when he/she keeps nagging or bugging him? Abuse is almost always learned through your parents- the boys take after their father. It's a horrible cycle.

Just get away from him, no matter what your brain keeps telling you. If it was real love, then you wouldn't question it.

[CloudNine]

...have you watched "No one would tell" ...?

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0117191/

watched that in class. seems like your kind of situtation; but I find you naive and full of idiocy if you're still with him.  watch that movie. just not with him.

It's called fear, not idiocy or being naive honey. It's definately not uncommon for abusive men to stalk the women even after the woman has gotten out of the relationship. They will threaten family and friends and they will do whatever it takes to get that woman back. My sister's two friends were killed when they were in high school. The girl had broken up with the abusive boyfriend, he went to her house and shot her. Her sister tried to help however he shot her and then he shot himself. This happened in the San Fernando Valley if your interested in looking it up. Haven't you ever watched the movie, "Enough"? It's very similar to how an abusive relationship is.

[*anubis*]

once or twice is forgivable--but multiple times--you can't tolerate it much longer.

you have to end it.

[iheartjohn]

Who brought this topic back?


Well, most of you know that I am already engaged to another man. And the guy that this topic is about has a restraining order against me and Geena.


Thanks for your supportive comments, most of you. Any mod feel free to close.

[rx_azngirl]

End it fast! And give him some help.