Getting over someone?, How... Options

[MeanBastard]

I just got out of a 1 year relationship and I find that getting over that person that I love is hard as hell. She and I are still good friends, but everytime I talk to her hurts so bad. I don't want to ruin this friendship like how I ruined the relationship, but I don't know how to get over it. Post your expeiences?

[cookieskater2]

For me I was first mad at her...so I sorta ignored her...then we became friends again and I couldn't really bare it like you, knowing that it's not the same...but I never got over it...later on, I just told her I still loved her and we actually got back together and have been together now for 9 months. I dunno really what else to say. I've never really gotten over this girl I guess.

[timeflies51]

My story's a bit different. Mine was simply a crush at first. After two months I found out he didn't like me... But here I am, seven months later, loving him more than ever...

*sigh* I've given up even trying. I'll get over him when I get over him.

[left_alone]

You can only heal by time..

Or you could simply forget about her..but that is pretty hard to do.

I know replacing someone isn't what you need right now, but that isn't what I'm suggesting. Maybe you should just start searching for another person that will stay commited to you.

Love hurts. I know...

[CrazayChristian]

It's been 2 years, and we never even went out. I just got to know her, and..well yeah.

2 years of me trying to get over her, and so far, I've failed.

Prayers, Time, and friends.

That's how you heal.

[technicolour]

Over time it should eventually fade but sometimes it's hard as hell. You have to keep yourself busy with other things and not think about her. Work out...read [ha ha]...watch movies..write a book...go to hawaii.... I just kept myself busy, and my mind on other things.

[yummy_delight]

i'm over it. but it took me a few months. ironically, it took me longer than the total amount of time we were together. anyways, i think time heals all. i'm finally over it.

//edit//come to think of it, i'm probably not over it. i saw him for the first time in a year and a half and i went through all the trouble of trying to look smoking hot. and then we barely said two words to each other. for some reason this bothers me. i didn't expect him to come crawling back. i was expecting... i don't know.

yeah okay great way to make me rethink my whole life.

[mouse_3k]

it is hard as hell but u will get over it. I got over my first love by just losing contact with him for a while and finding another love which I just found so its been about a year before actually getting over my first love. Since I am over him, We talk now and we are friends still.

[sheepy]

it's extremely hard. and you'll think it'll be easier for me because my guy kind of 'cheated' but it really isnt. well at first we started talking because i really didnt want to ruin the friendship. but after a while i realized, friendship? mhmm yeah, not to mention he was a sucky bf, he's not a very dependable friend. soo.. i completely do not talk to him, but i dont ingore him. i mean if i see him, i'll talk. yeah.. i don't know. it was extremely hard, and at times i still wonder if i like him or not. oh well.

[inthemudhole]

There isn't really a set way how to get over somebody. It really depends upon the people involved and how the relationship went.
I know this has already been said and always will be said, but you just have to wait it out, I suppose... see what happens and see what comes next.
Good luck with that.

[banthisaccountno...]

I don't really know... I still haven't gotten over my last girlfriend, and it's been.. 2-3 months since she broke up with me.
Time heals, I hope.

[Smilessss]

i broke up wit sum1 dat i really like... and its not easy fo him to heal up or get ova...and fo sum reason...i thot i had gotten ova it...but i realized dat i havent...

[xaznxehgix]

coming out of a 7 year relationship....the best advice that i can give you...is time...it takes a lot of time!

[gotahemmi55]

he's exactly right on the time thing, but there's something else. Be careful about the "friends" part. It can cause your feelings to come right back, even if his/her's don't and that can make being around that person almost painful. I'd step back, take my space for a while, and then try to be friends if I was you.

[*danielle_x3*]

i recently got out of a 13-month relationship. i thought that i'd be fine . . but the next day he got a girlfriend. it hurt real bad. i thought to myself, "wow, that was fast". it made me think that he thought our relationship was a joke. eh, but i try to forget about it, but that's pretty hard. only time will heal.

[enyceXaddiction]

well obviously you cant just go i wanna get over her and get over her. since it was an 1 year relationship its going to take time. or maybe you'll never even get over her. you never know. it takes time. or get involve with someone else, that helps.

[MrElsewhere]

i got out of a 11 month relationship a few months back. It hurt like f*ck to even see her for like 2 months. But after that it just started getting less. *shrug* time took its effect, i think.

[aznhunnie6o1]

The easiest way for me to get over someone is to hate them... But you don't wanna do that... Just try.. avoid her and go out with your friends. Have fun, eat icecream, pig out. I dunno.. Sorry about the break up...

[cleec]

The only way to somewhat get over someone is to start crushin' on someone new

And even then, you are never completely over the person. The reasons why you liked them so much in the first place don't just disappear because you two didn't work out, but that's just something you have to learn to deal with. Move on, it will get easier.

[REBELnDISGUISE]

I just got out of a 1 year relationship and I find that getting over that person that I love is hard as hell. She and I are still good friends, but everytime I talk to her hurts so bad. I don't want to ruin this friendship like how I ruined the relationship, but I don't know how to get over it. Post your expeiences?

I agree...it is something difficult to get over. I never would've been able to until I met someone knew. It takes time, but you'll never truly be over 'em.

[Mizz Rizza]

getting over someone isn't the easiest thing to do
im sure she's sad about just about as much as you
and both of you guys will be sad for a while
all i can say is give it time
it's hard talking to them
but think about how she's feeling

i guess it's kinda hard for me to giv advice cuz i dont know why you guys broke up : /

[*Azarel*]

OMG TSZ HO. :[


'kay, I suck with advice.

[ag3nt_sm17h]

I wish I could help more, but until then I'll give you all that I can give...

SMILEYS!

[jennyjenny]

Ugh,
I want to know this too.

well, my friend got dumped buy this guy she's been dating for almost... 9 months? Or 7? And a month later she got asked out by this guy and they went out for a month and he dumped him, and i don't think she realized what she had.

And now she's a mess and it just seems like there's nothing I can say that's good enough because she just can't get over him.

So any advice about what I should say?

[xldubaliciousx]

Hmm.. Getting over someone is tough. I agree. I don't really know how. But for sure do NOT try going out with someone else. I tried that.. And yeah I thought I would distract myself and therefore get over them quicker.. But ah it doesn't work that way.