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 Jun 26 2005, 05:16 PM
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 <3  Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493  |
my bf has been really overprotective lately, whenever i talk to my guy friends online he always asks me what i'm talking to them about or are the my ex. and the thing that really bugs me is then whenever i'm out with my friends (mostly girlfriends) he wants me to call him every 2 hours. he makes sure that i stay away from any guys when i'm with him.
it's driving me insane at times, i don't know what to do. are any of your bfs like that? 
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| *x____duckii* |
Jun 26 2005, 05:36 PM
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Well, I never had a boyfriend, to begin off with.
But since this is bugging you, then you should try talking to your boyfriend about this and ask him to stop being so overprotective. If he continues to act this, way, then you might as well dump him because, well, who wants a stalkerish boyfriend who won't let you be happy? |
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Jun 26 2005, 05:37 PM
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hes clingy --- well hey at least hes thinking about you lol..but tell him to chill
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Jun 26 2005, 07:08 PM
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purple ponies (self deleted 12/30/06)
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Jun 26 2005, 07:14 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 6,953 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 52,702 |
maybe your parents paid him to do that
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Jun 26 2005, 07:23 PM
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 The Texan Group: Member Posts: 430 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 136,431 |
Sounds like he's not confident you like him.
Set him straight, let him know you're faithful. It might calm him down. We guys have an extreme paranoia complex. EXPECIALLY insecure ones who are scared to lose that they have. He might not be very confident in himself. If he bugs you then just say "Do you trust me?" If he says yes then say "You're not acting like it" If he says no, well, I sense a smack down comming down. Just talk. COMUNICATION PEOPLE!!!! |
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Jun 26 2005, 07:51 PM
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<3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
i talk to him everyday, and i tell him that he can trust me, he says he does. but still continue to do what he does. i'll probably try your ^ way
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Jun 26 2005, 08:27 PM
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Eh, he's probably jealous and thinks that you'll start to like the guys you hang out with. Tell him to trust you, and you wouldn't do anything to hurt him.
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Jun 26 2005, 08:46 PM
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 show me a garden thats bursting to life Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 12,303 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 115,987 |
He probably wants to make sure you aren't going to cheat on him. Think of it this way, at least he's caring about you enough to make sure you're not hurt, in trouble.. etc. etc [insert a bad situation].
But. If you really want him to stop then talk! Communication is Key in a relationship. If you want yours to work then talk. Hope i've helped. 
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Jun 26 2005, 08:56 PM
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well...my bf gives me a lot of freedom whem i'm hanging out with my friends...even with with my male friends..but of course i need to tell him that what kind of friends i am going to hang out with
well for your situation, i know it's a bit annoying coz my ex-bf did similar things on me too...i think you should try to let him know what you think and ask for his confidence on you |
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Jun 26 2005, 09:41 PM
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 naïvety Group: Human Posts: 1,303 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 488 |
QUOTE(Shortiiex @ Jun 27 2005, 8:14 AM) maybe your parents paid him to do that ^ LOL! Overprotection is inconfidence on his part. This has nothing to do with you. Think about it.. He's jealous. What leads to jealousy? The thought that he didn't have what others had (to do with you). And that's insecurity. Talk to him once and only once. If he doesn't listen the first time, he'll never listen. Then, if he ignores you, threaten to dump him. Who wants a stalker boyfriend? |
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Jun 27 2005, 12:45 AM
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mood: content Group: Member Posts: 2,063 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 42,325 |
You should definitely definitely talk to him. I know that's my solution to almost everything, but seriously, it just sorts everything out. Errr, if he seems dangerous you should talk to him over IM though. o_O Don't want anyone getting hurt! Tell him that he doesn't need to worry and that you're not cheating...
Are you? >_> Lol, jk. =) |
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Jun 27 2005, 06:45 AM
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<3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
i've spoke to him about this, he says he does trust me, but it really doesn't seem like he does. i give him all the freedom he likes, he gets to hang out with girl who are his friends, and i don't get to hang out with my guy friends.
now he's asking me if he can go hang out with one of my girlfriends alone because he has nothing to do. is he asking too much? |
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Jun 27 2005, 08:20 AM
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smack him upside the head, and then tell him he's irritating the shit out of you.
blunt, to the point, and effective. That is how you handle guys. ^.^ |
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Jun 27 2005, 08:47 AM
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That blows.
Mine isn't that bad, I don't guess. He doesn't like when I talk to certain guys and he's said he doesn't mind if I talk to a few on the phone, though I know it still irks him. He hates it when they hit on me or whatever, but I guess that's pretty normal, right? Idk. Overall, he's pretty easy about it all, though if I don't like someone for whatever reason that may be, he's ready to pounce on them. Haha. |
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Jun 27 2005, 02:35 PM
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My friend Emma used to have a boyfriend like that, and he got really abusive. I've heard before that way overprotectiveness usually turns into abuse. I dunno. My boyfriend isn't like that, so I don't got any experience to draw from.
Um. I guess just talk to him and if it continues, then dump him. It would suck to have a boyfriend that doesn't let you have any fun. |
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Jun 27 2005, 04:23 PM
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<3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
^i know he's not the abusive kind, i hope he isn't anyways. he's just too clingy at times. like i've said in the above posts i've talked to him, he just doesn't listen.
and now he wants to hang out with one of my girlfriends because he has nothing to do, and i've got to work and summerschool. 
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Jun 27 2005, 08:24 PM
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QUOTE(_sarcastic_ @ Jun 27 2005, 5:23 PM) ^i know he's not the abusive kind, i hope he isn't anyways. he's just too clingy at times. like i've said in the above posts i've talked to him, he just doesn't listen. and now he wants to hang out with one of my girlfriends because he has nothing to do, and i've got to work and summerschool. Dump him, dump him, DUMP HIM. 
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Jun 28 2005, 06:26 AM
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<3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
thanks for all your help
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Jun 28 2005, 07:34 AM
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 BiGdRaGoN31 Group: Member Posts: 463 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 2,585 |
hes gotta give u some more space, every 2 hrs? hah damn, if u dont do da same to him, maybe he shouldnt do that to u, but it does show that he cares.
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Jun 28 2005, 11:31 AM
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 Blasian, Asian, INVASION! Group: Official Member Posts: 4,288 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,769 |
my bf is tite. Just the fact that if I talk to another guy on the phone for like 30 minutes, he would ask "Why did they call", "Who are they", etc. But he has every right to since im more overprotective over him...
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Jun 28 2005, 04:58 PM
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 je suis une noix de coco <33 Group: Member Posts: 1,242 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 62,768 |
you need to talk to him
and make him understand that you really like him & you aren't going to cheat on him but that the same time, you need to tell him that you have guy friends too and its unfair that you can't talk to them |
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Jun 28 2005, 09:18 PM
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 Hi! I'm Dani :) Group: Member Posts: 5,637 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,369 |
You really should talk to your bf about that.
And yes my bf was over protective at one point. I was talking to a good friend of mine who happened to be a boy and my bf used to question whether or not there is something going on between us. I talked to my bf about it and told him that if he continues to act like that, then i'll end the relationship since realtionships involve trust. It worked. |
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Jun 28 2005, 09:53 PM
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<3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
i've been with him for nearly a year and he just suddenly started to act overprotective. i've spoken to him about it, he's starting to back off abit, so that's good
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Jun 29 2005, 03:57 PM
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 You can't keep running from what you're trying to find. Group: Official Member Posts: 5,030 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,096 |
lol i totally agree with CrazayChristian
 i've heard even though guys might not seem like it from the outside, they can be very insecure, maybe sometimes even more then girls, surprisingly 
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