i can't believe this..., my b/f is a dork! Options

[gothicdork]

ok basically my boyfriend is just giving me problems but i'm willin to put up with him and his crap.

here is the convo we had today.

D3C3PT10N: HAHA your a dork
gothicdork87: yeah but i love you anyway...
D3C3PT10N: lol
gothicdork87: and you wont say it back?...
D3C3PT10N: lub ya 2
gothicdork87: *hug.* its nice to hear you say it......
gothicdork87: i felt like i was losin you
D3C3PT10N: bah battery
gothicdork87: .....you know you sayin it back once in a while is nice... even if my nephew is there....with you
gothicdork87: that's why i've been crying....as immature as that is
gothicdork87: u can say somethin u know
gothicdork87: u know u pissed some people off yesterday
gothicdork87: because i've been crying over this...
gothicdork87: I have to call something with you.....
gothicdork87: ALEX!!
D3C3PT10N: have to call something with me?
gothicdork87: no shawn wants to speak with you
D3C3PT10N: and who did i piss off and like i care , they can be pissed at whoever they want
D3C3PT10N: im not scared of titty lol
gothicdork87: i'm trying to say that i'm goin to call an ultimatem.....alex
D3C3PT10N: call an ultimatem ? what
D3C3PT10N: what the hell are u talking about?
D3C3PT10N: just say it
gothicdork87: that i'm tired of us fightin with each other i'm tired of feelin like i have to fight for your attention
D3C3PT10N: then end it
gothicdork87: no i'm too stubborn and i want i to work alex
gothicdork87: it to*
gothicdork87: ending it would be like lying to myself alex....and like i was lying to you
D3C3PT10N: wouldnt be lieng
D3C3PT10N: lien
D3C3PT10N: lying
D3C3PT10N: w.e
D3C3PT10N: would be saving u from pain
gothicdork87: i'm willin to feel pain to love you alex....because you matter to me that much i dun know if you feel the same way about me alex but you have my heart
gothicdork87: youve had it since i first saw you
D3C3PT10N has signed out. (6/9/2005 6:59 PM)

this is the general convo we had today....and i cn put up yesterday's convo... if you guys want to read.

[technicolour]

omg honey, i am soooo sorry. same thing happened to me, sorta. he's right, hate to say it, but if you did break it off then, well, you might be a bit happier? it sounds to me, that he doesn't want to, gulp, be with you, gulp, anymore. i think you really would be saving yourself.

im sorry if those were the words you didn't want hear.

[topsyturvy]

^ Agree with sprinkle-the-stars. Wow, your bf sounds like a jerk.. It seems like you love him way more than he loves you... The best thing to do is... end it, i guess. You're putting way more effort into this than he is. You deserve someone better!

... Sorry

[kill me please]

kitsune-chan (gothicdork) yes dear i feel so sorry for you. whats been going on isnt right. oh, i know her from school if youre wondering. her bf is spending more time with her nephew then her.. they are like trying to see whos better at video games and knowing about cars. basically shes being ignored. i told her she should make this topic to try and get some opinions on here. but i see she didnt really tell you the whole story... gothicdork... you should tell them everything. i do not want to give advice because i feel what i say.. is no good. eh i suck at this. and figured this way is best. please post it all.

my serious opinion: if it was me.. he'd be gone.

[gothicdork]

ok....I'll tell the whole story......about all of this. Basically....I've been having problems trying to spend time with him, because him and my nephew are so much alike with liking cars so much. And you know...it doesn't bother that much that he's into cars because it's something he was into before I got with him. It's his personal hobby so to speak. But sometime i feels as if i have to compete for his attention with my nephew and I approached him about this. Now while we both said and did some pretty immature things i apologized. I mean I would like him to tell me if he was feeling the same thing so I told him how I was feeling.


I'm thinking that maybe one or two things maybe bothering him right now since it's so close to father's day. A couple years ago before I met him his father commited suicide..because he was very depressed. And i think that may have something to do with alot of what he's doing right now. My nephew and him are spending abunch of time together when he comes down to visit with me and I think that maybe it wasn't selfish of me to atleast want abit of time alone where it is just us together.


I've talked to my mom, his best friend, and a guy that I know he looks up to. My mom and the guy he looks up to told me not to do anything rash and that maybe since he has just turned 21 there is a new range of emotions that he is trying to sort out. This i can understand completely. My mom said that maybe he is trying to deal with a range of emotions he may have never felt before. His best friend said that maybe.... I shold try to approach this topic with him again and tll him that i'm tired of all the fighting (which isn't very much..) because its not helping with my emotional health or physical. The guy said to just wait to talk to him where I can try to get him alone and talk to him abou this in person to better judge his emotions.

[sammi rules you]

how long have you guys been together?

[megan_x3]

Your boyfriend, i think needs spaces between you and him about things. You guys shouldn't be fighting .. atleast I think. You need to talk to him about it and discuss the problems. Even though maybe he will be ignoring the situation that is happening, you may need to even though he is. Talk to him over it. Work it over with him.
-Megan

[aznhunnie6o1]

Haha... he's not a dork.. a dork is a whale penis....

ANYWAYS.
Aww... don't be sad... my boyfriend doesnt like holding my hand at school..... and believe me.. it makes me feel like $h!t...

I know it might be hard for you.. but it seems like he doesnt like you that way... so you should just break it off.

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

omg honey, i am soooo sorry. same thing happened to me, sorta. he's right, hate to say it, but if you did break it off then, well, you might be a bit happier? it sounds to me, that he doesn't want to, gulp, be with you, gulp, anymore. i think you really would be saving yourself.

im sorry if those were the words you didn't want hear. 

^ agreed, it's ashamed that a sweet guy is so hard to find in this world. but their out there somewhere =\ im so sorry hun, it's best if you broke it off with him .i can't say that he's not good enough for you, cause i can't prove that. but there are other fish in the sea. good luck

[xlaydee_v]

omg honey, i am soooo sorry. same thing happened to me, sorta. he's right, hate to say it, but if you did break it off then, well, you might be a bit happier? it sounds to me, that he doesn't want to, gulp, be with you, gulp, anymore. i think you really would be saving yourself.

im sorry if those were the words you didn't want hear.

i agree. my friend is in the same situation and because of it she's been cutting and its so obvious yet shes denying it..

[..:loveee.NuTTii]

Well, when he's with you nephew does he seem genuinly caught up or is he trying to ignore you? I agree with your mom-don't do anything too rash. A little time out maybe? And if you find your happier that way break up. You need to do what's right for you. You can't always be competing for your boyfriends attention.

[dragyn]

He signed off without saying anything back?

If you've talked to him since then, and he apologized, I might re-think it, but your boyfriend sounds like a d**k.

You seem like too sweet a girl to be caught up with someone who's not willing to love you back the way you're loving him.

You're willing to put up with pain to be with him, and he doesn't even try to discuss it with you.

Give him a little time. Everyone goes through phases. I'm going by what I know. But if he doesn't work out his priorities, drop him, doll. You're better than any boy that doesn't give you attention.

[Shattered_Hope]

I think you should break it off with him...the guy actually suggested it too
I mean....when it comes to the part when you have to compete for his attention...then you know...that it needs to end. I'm sure there's a whole ton of other guys out there who will treat you like you deserve. I think you should end it because he just..doesn't care for you as much as you do for him.

[EmmalieV]

From what he said he wants to end it , hes a jerk.

D3C3PT10N: then end it

Thats not somehting a guy would say if he didnt want to end it.

[THiS__CHiCK]

How sad. Blah I didn't get it when I first read it but its all good. Aww Sorrry girl.

[Rachel]

Obviously your boyfriend is a d**k. He also obviously doesn't want to be with. Remember the line where he said "So end it". Yeah that means he wants to break up.

[CrazayChristian]

He sounds like he just plain doesn't take this relationship as seriously as you do.

I mean, it sounds like (Faint of heart, stop reading now)






He just doesn't feel what you feel. He's in it to be in it. I don't know a guy who would just easily throw away something that meant so much to him away like that. He obviously doesn't sound like he's "mature?" enough to be in a serious relationship.



(Faint of heart restart reading)

It could just be what you said, he's emotional and bottling it up and it's getting to him.

[_sarcastic_]

he already says to end it, no guy who is into the relationship would say that, you're holding on the a relationship that is going no where, like the saying goes 'it takes two hands to clap'. he's not interested why are you putting yourself through all this misery. so to save you all the heartbreak and sadness end it now.

[*mipadi*]

The thing about relationships is, they take two to make it work. You can't make a relationship work if you're always putting all the effort into it, and relationships shouldn't be a lot of work--they should be something nature. If the other person isn't willing to meet you halfway, there's not a lot you can do.

[Smilessss]

aww imma srry.... dont wry ur not da only one... dat also happened to me b4 and i knoe it must've really hurt... imma sry.... ::comfort yoo::... *^_^*

[gothicdork]

I'm going to wait until this friday to talk to him. My mom is makin us all sit down and talk...including my boyfriend...she wants to get to the bottom of this whole thing. Obviously it spawned from a misunderstanding of something that my brother had told him like tuesday night. So he's angry at me and won't talk to me, but I want him to tell me that he's angry at me you know. I'm tired of being kept in the dark about how he feels. He isn't the type to be able to deal with botttling up his feeling...he just doesn't seem like it. He's too emotional.....for that type of stuff.

I know it takes some sort of compromise with a relationship and that's what i want to talk to him in person about. I want to truly get to the bottom of this. and know once and for all how he feels about me. I'm tired of being in the dark if he's pushing me away than I know its not good to do that because its only hurtin him to do that....I know because I used to do that...and in the end I found out that it isn't healthy. I used to do all the stuff that he's doing now..

He wasn't always like this... We've been going out for almost two months now.. He wasn't always like this....I dun know anymore

[XaZnX07]

awwwww thats so sad i am so sorrry

well if you love him , then i guess you have to be strong and fight it , if you love him enough you would figure out whats happening and when you get the facts what your boyfriend is feeling and wants, then make your choice of being with im any longer or breaking up with him

i wish for the best for you


.:tony:.

[sheepy]

oh wow, im sorry dear.
i've been through something similiar to that. pain, is pain, and in love, we tell ourselves that we deserve this pain. for them, right?
well pain's not worth it when you're the only one trying in the relationship.
and if he says he loves you like that, it just doesnt sound very sincere.
i'm sure, there are guys out there that can treat you way better.

[gothicdork]

hey you guys sorry I haven't like answered in a while. I've been busy trying to reason things out with him... I think I may call a siesta on this relationship. It's just causing so much to me that I really dun need specially with alot of the crap he is doing now. Oh and btw he is 21 and i'm 17..........*sigh*

Yeah my boyfriend is a jerk and major a-hole. he is acting so immature and to tell you guys the truth its pissing me off. there is just so much shit that he's doing and to see a side of him where he is like this is scaring me. about a week ago we had a talk and it is the convo that you see I posted here at first. and when his ex-best friends girlfriend had accidently called him because she was trying to call her friend whose number is very similar that its easy to get them mixed up, she asked him about how we were doing...(my supposed b/f and i). he told her that things wren't going very well and that we had broken up...that I wasn't his type. He was over here this past sunday and its funny that I didn't know anythign about this....when we were making out.

I'm going to talk to him about this and see what's going on here. I need some straight answers from him and if he denies this then its over i'm so fed up with this. it's not worth it anymore.
Tell me what yo guys think.

[_suzie_]

drop him immediately, he does not care for your feelings, harsh as this sounds, and he doesnt deserve a nice girl like you.

pleeeeeease realise this before the reality hits u like a brick