Reasons for cheating? Options

[*Azarel*]

To be honest, I never could figure out why people would cheat on their significant other. I mean, if you're going out with someone, doesn't that mean you care about them? Or why even go out with them if you're not faithful at all? Why not just break up with them and go for the other girl/guy? Anyone care to share why people cheat?

Yeah, just came to mind today -- a friend apparently can't decide whether he wants to cheat or not. And he knows that I hate cheaters. Like no other.

[*mzkandi*]

Funny you mention this Anna because I was talking with a bunch of my girlfriends about this the other day. Our conclusion was this: From a tennage point of view, alot teenager havent experience what real love is. Just when they think they have found it they catch that their eyes are wondering toward someone else. Rather than let the person they think they are in love with go they go see if something can be made up of the other potential relationship. I dont know, just a theory. That doesnt explain those who just like to have someone else on the side just to have them. I guess for a majority of people, even when they are out of their teens, is if they arent married then they are fair game. But then again cheating is becoming a common thing in marriages. *SIGH*

[hi-C]

You bring up a good point, Anna. Like Kiera said, it might be a lack of maturity. It's not that he or she doesn't care about the person, it's that when someone cheats, there is a sign that something is latently wrong with the relationship for someone to stray. There's always a method to the madness. And people hang on to relationships because, well, it's always nice to have that stability, the knowledge that someone is there. Being "alone" scare the *crap* out of people.

[literemix24]

Yup, like everyone else said, its probably just immaturity. Usually a lot of kids, are looking for the "better" things. They're trying to see if that "other" person is better than the one they're w/ now. Did that just make sense? lol

[xlaydee_v]

i agree with everyone else. its because of maturity and they're not exactly satisfied with what they have.. wow. lol that's retarted i feel like stabbing players i got cheated on with two girls. gosh. wdf? and he's still doing that shit.. i guess

[_sarcastic_]

they're just not happy with what they already have until they lose it forever. they probably like the excitement of cheating and trying not to get caught at the same time, maybe it turns them on. i just find it immature

[aera]

i dont think it really hasanything to maturity... i think it has more to do with understanding and appreciation. many cheaters dont understand what it's like to love, to truly love someone and how much their actions can hurt someone. they cant appreciate what they have in front of them and cant see how good it is. someone can be immature and understand this.

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

Sometimes, when people don't see each other for a long time. They feel the need to have the same affection in return. And so the hunt is on.

[heyyfrankie]

maybe they do it because they want more sex or just want to feel loved and needed by more than one person. i dont' quite understand it myself.

[bbyunique]

i feel the same as you Azarel. I could never figure out why either. in some cases it has to do with maturity in other cases it has to do with ego when it comes to guys. most guys i know that do cheat, feel good about having several girls and look cool. i just find it plain disgusting. other cases it is need of feeling loved, needed and wanted by several people. but that whats family for and friends, why would you want another lover? just ughh. your suppose to treasure your body and not share it with a million people. but that's my opinion.

i have alot of guy friends and annoying acquaintances. and half of them say this "why stay with one girl, when you can have so much more good P**sy?"

when will you guys get it through your head its not quantity that matters, its quality. being a player/cheater gets you no where when your older but sad, alone and miserable. i know because my uncle is like that.

[dani41790]

I'm guessing that most people cheat on their boyfriend/girlfriend, because they aren't happy with them, or they like another person but still want to keep their boyfriend/girlfriend.

[banthisaccountno...]

I think most people cheat because they are unhappy/bored with their current significant other, so they find someone else to do their "stuff" with, trying to keep it a secret from the other person so that person doesn't get hurt.

that was a confusing run-on sentence

[*Azarel*]

because they aren't happy with them

Then why stay together?

[thorn_hailweb]

the one reason i always guessed that people cheated on each other was because of the fact that someone in the relationship is a low-life coward and uncomfortable and unsure about themself. nothing says unsatisfied, self concious, lying pig then a cheater.

[daintyme]

i think people cheat because they "get caught up in the moment". i know it sounds cliche'd, but think about it: when you get caught up in the moment of say, dancing or singing or eating, it feels good and has a rush and it's hard to get out of it.

this is coming from a girl that's never cheated.

[curiousperson]

I geuss everybody is right when they say it is getting caught up in the moment. But i think it is wrong how movies make it seem as if cheating is o.k. if you are in love. Most people do not fall in love within 1 day, enough time to brake up w/others and stop cheating b4 it begins!!! there is always time.

[thorn_hailweb]

I geuss everybody is right when they say it is getting caught up in the moment. But i think it is wrong how movies make it seem as if cheating is o.k. if you are in love. Most people do not fall in love within 1 day, enough time to brake up w/others and stop cheating b4 it begins!!! there is always time.

agreed. and people will forever go on not understanding that.

[*Azarel*]

i think people cheat because they "get caught up in the moment". i know it sounds cliche'd, but think about it: when you get caught up in the moment of say, dancing or singing or eating, it feels good and has a rush and it's hard to get out of it.

But that's exactly what I don't understand - my friend, today again, was trying to convince me that if I were in his position, I'd do the same thing.

I could only tell him, "My friend, when I was with Eddy, after he cheated on me, I stopped trying so hard. I had crushes on other guys, but I never considered cheating. And some of them I really liked. In fact, I almost got with one of them after Eddy and I broke up. So you really don't know me. I'm loyal."

Is it just that cheaters don't have a conscience? A sense of right and wrong? How are the even able to just disregard how other people feel? I don't believe being "caught up in a moment" is worth anything; I think it's bullshit, to be quite frank.

[xquizit]

to get even.

[MetalChick77]

because they're horny.

[EmmalieV]

Maybe the relationship isnt stable enough , all guys cheat (most) , because dont think with their brain but their penis.

Now , dont get discouraged , im sure justins great ( even though this has nothing to do with justin) , guys wants something diff , a diff flavor or maybe in the spur of the moment.

I cheated on my 2 ex bf´s and it was spur of the moment.

=/

[smilz2dasun]

*sighs* i'm not really sure and i wish i knew.

all i know is that my boyfriend is probably cheating on me at this exact moment.

[souldreamers]

hrmm I've cheated. It's so funny because when I was like 13 - 17 I had that perspective of.. "I would never cheat on my bf. How could anyone ever do something like that?! It's just SO WRONG!.. and yada yada yada." But ehh I've been with my current bf for almost 5 years and I've had tons of temptation thrown at me. And one (or two)... was just too much to resist. It was an affair to remember.. Anyway, to keep with the topic here.. ppl cheat for many reasons. To have sex with someone else, because they're interested in that other person, to get even, to have fun, to feel needed, to drown their sorrows.. blah blah. I think more sexually active ppl just tend to cheat more. I know it's wrong, most ppl do. But it doesn't stop them!

[miss barnes]

i cheated because i liked them both

[BrokenDream]

People probably cheat because they want more girlfriends/boyfriends and they think they don't have enough. Or maybe because they don't think their current boyfriend/girlfriend is good enough for them.

And plus, I have never cheated.