Do your parents approve? Options

[*Azarel*]

So, how many of your parents actually know about the relationships that you have? Do they approve of your significant other? How did you break it to them?

Me, my parents didn't know about any of my relationships. I really want my mom to meet and approve of Justin, though; in fact, I've been wanting to tell her for some time now. I just don't know how to bring it up. Any advice?

[xlaydee_v]

lols.. when i have a boyfriend, i dont tell my mom or my dad.. cause its kinda akward. but they do eventually find out so w/e lols but i don't like it when they bug me about it but they don't mind. even though i am only 12. lols

anyways.. i dont know what to do in that situation. lols. sry

[Nicolatofu]

mmm.. well if she's really judgemental on your relationships.. it may be better that you casually bring up a friend coming into town (He's visiting you soon, right?) and that you'd like her to meet him. Then, after she gets a good vibe from him, you could say that you've liked each other and that you're thinking of starting a relationship. That way once she sees that he's more than a friend, she will already know him and she won't freak or anything.

My mom has only met one of my boyfriends. And I couldn't help that.. he was a son of my brother's coworker.

[_sarcastic_]

my parents doesn't really know either, i wanna break it to them too and don't know how

[inthemudhole]

I don't tell my parents about much of anything like that anymore, so yeah... I just keep it to myself and if they find out, then they find out.

Advice..
Hm.. Just tell her everything good and how extremely happy you are about how everything is going with him. Keep it light and friendly, but then slowly... add hints that it's a more than a friend situation. Or you could just tell her straight-forwardly instead of hints.

Bah. I suck at advice.

Good luck.

[vampireduster]

dad will meet him this saturday. he freaked about the age thing.
mom said that i would have to meet him first before he takes you anywhere

[ItzOnlySydney]

casually tell my mom my dad doesn't HAVE to know and my mom just usually doesn't say anything when i tell her lol.

[sweetest-emotion]

yea both my parents know about my bf. i just kinda said, "mom, dad, me and santino are a couple" and they were like "oook..." but they're really kool about it, and it helps that he's such a sweetie and a gentleman, that for our first date, he came to my door, and shook my dad's hand and said where we're goin and all that. i'd say just as long as the guy's polite and shows care and respect for you and your family, then no worries, just say hey mom dad, i've been meaning to tell ya that me and (name) are going out now, and i want you to meet him and see how great of a guy he is. its no biggie, and ur rents will appreciate it so much.

[sammi rules you]

i would advise on not telling her right off the bat that you met him on an online forum......i tried asking my mom to meet one of my online friends, and it did noooot turn out well..

my mom approves of my current boyfriend. she's a little disturbed by the fact that he wears women's (and a couple of my) pants and shirts, but...she's gotten used to it.

[aera]

ive never told them because of their reaction. but maybe just sit her down and tell her everything and ask her to not get mad and to approve of him.

[CrazayChristian]

Ha...If my parents hadn't blown thier chance with my first girl...

See, I think I told my mom, who thought it would be funny to tease me a little. I was not in the mood or age to be teased this way. And then my dad has to come in and ask me stuff. So, now I can't tell them cuz they just talk too much about it. I don't like talking much about my like social life and what not ya know?

You could tell her, or you could tell some friend that might tell your mom.

All depends on how you go about it.

[silver-rain]

Well, I don't tell my parents about my relationships, they just find out. With my first boyfriend, I just kept on talking about him and my parents didn't seem to mind since it didn't seem to be affecting my school work. But with my current boyfriend, my parents saw us out on a date (...) and they don't not approve, but they don't approve either. They're ambivalent I guess.

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

Well I did tell my grandmother once (she's like my mom, since my mom doesn't live with me) she didn't believe me niether did my dad all they said was "riiiiiiiight"

[ANG33ZY]

Of course they don't know.

But I never been into a relationship. lol

[*Azarel*]

mmm.. well if she's really judgemental on your relationships.. it may be better that you casually bring up a friend coming into town (He's visiting you soon, right?) and that you'd like her to meet him. Then, after she gets a good vibe from him, you could say that you've liked each other and that you're thinking of starting a relationship. That way once she sees that he's more than a friend, she will already know him and she won't freak or anything.

I really don't know how she'd respond since I've never told her that I've been in a relationship before.. She chastises and lectures me all the time about the type of guy I should go out with and marry - and Justin fits everything she's ever told me. But there's one thing I'm afraid of - she won't approve of him because he's white. My mum's never been racist or anything from what I can recall, but this almost exact situation happened with one of my friends..

Advice..
Hm.. Just tell her everything good and how extremely happy you are about how everything is going with him. Keep it light and friendly, but then slowly... add hints that it's a more than a friend situation. Or you could just tell her straight-forwardly instead of hints.
Bah. I suck at advice.
Good luck.

I kind of want to straight-up tell her right off the bat (well, not really I guess) but I have no idea how to go about doing it. Thanks for the luck though, I'll need it.

i would advise on not telling her right off the bat that you met him on an online forum......i tried asking my mom to meet one of my online friends, and it did noooot turn out well..

Well, duh. Haha - we already figured we were probably just going to tell my mum that we met through mutual friends.. I really don't tell mother dear about the people I meet online; they go ape shit crazy. But I've met up with quite a few people irl from online.

[_sarcastic_]

i kinda know how you feel, i've been meaning to tell my mom about my bf but can't bring myself to. i was suppose to tell her yesterday but i chickened out.

just break it to your mom slowly, drop hints, she'll get it soon

[topsyturvy]

^ Agree.

1) smile all the time - they're bound to notice
2) hum happy songs and skip around the house
3) stare into space with a dreamy smile during mealtimes / family gatherings
4) constantly check your cellphone like you're expecting SMS from someone

haha.. all these worked for me.

[xFaith]

IF i have a bf, and i say IF :P, ill not tell her.. and she doesnt aprove, i decide who i want, and not she :P

[nhj_2006]

i introduce him to them as a friend and we just keep hanging out everyday and i guess they just have to assume that we are going out...

[gothicdork]

My boyfriend I met through X-box live on halo 2. Yeah I'm a game freak but you know its nice to meet someone who shares a common bond. the first time I met him he was in a bad mood and we we're playing a game of hide and seek juggarnaut. I he was and I wanted to know how he got into the spot that he did...so he was kind enough to show me.

And needless to say the person (juggernaut) found us while he was trying to teach me how to get up there killed us both and I apologized alot. He was liek eh dun worry about it. After that I just starting playing some custom games with him and other people from our clan. We have this whole inside joke about the spring, summer, winter, and fall line of thongs (long story...dun ask).

And after a while of talking to him...we were liek hey lets go out.Then we did and when he came back home he came to visit me that Friday......and since then my parents knew that we were going out. they were abit uneasy about it first but they eventually came to like him.

So I would have to say.....just let your mom find out adn even though she may be uneasy about it at first, She'll have to trust you with doign the right thing by choosing the right guy thats right for you not her.

Ok enough said sorry I got a bit long winded there but had share mine I suppose. I wish you the best of luck with however you decide to break it to your mom.

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[Ballpointpencil]

Well, my parents didn't know about my first boyfriend, which doesn't really matter because I broke up with him after a week. :/ My second boyfriend... it was a very childlike relationship. The only time I saw him was between classes, he wouldn't even eat lunch with me. My parents knew about him, but we didn't even go on dates, so I don't think they really cared.

But, Kevin, on the other hand, they definitely know about. He's been my friend for years, so they knew him, they just didn't pay a lot of attention to him until we started dating. I think they like him, actually, especially Mom. She even offered to be a work reference for him when he was applying for a job at a book store, because he helped us paint the house. ^_^

[heyyfrankie]

i don't tell my parents about any of my relationships. whether it be like a relationship or just my friends because they always have something bad to say about everyone. v__v;

[dani41790]

Well my mom knows of some of the boyfriends i've had. She's only approved of the one I have now though. For telling her, I just said "mom i'm going out with Aaron now."

Um maybe you can just ask to speak with your mom privately and start a conversation about you having a boyfriend and then casually bring up that you have a boyfriend already. Maybe you can wait till later to tell her that you met him online.

[*mzkandi*]

As long as he takes care of me and spoils me rotten, yes they approve.

[MetalChick77]

I don't tell them...because i bet they wouldn't approve, no, i know they wouldnt.