Our Friendship :-(, Please help ASAP, only 5 1/2 days to fix |
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 May 25 2005, 04:37 PM
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Newbie  Group: Member Posts: 8 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 121,074  |
Alright, here it is. Last year I was helping a girl named Andrea get over the fact that my friend JJ never really liked her and it was all a lie. As I helped her, I became one of her best friends and grew attactched and now I like her. I had someone tell her for me nearly 8 months ago and then she started ignoring me and avoiding me. LAst Week was the first time shes said anything to me besides hi in 3 months. I wish she would like me just a little or even that we could just get our friendship back. I USED TO BE HER BEST GUY FRIEND for crying out loud. Please help me. :-(
P.S. From what her friends tell me, she doesnt like me, and I dont care. I'd like her too, but I mainly just want our friendship back. Also, Please Reply ASAP with help. I only have 5 1/2 days of school left to solve this, otherwise i'll go through a whole summer suffering.  I mainly just need ideas on how to approach her with out freakin her out. But other advice will be appreciated. Thanks 
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May 25 2005, 04:47 PM
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 i luv kyle Group: Member Posts: 64 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 32,135 |
I have had the same situation where I avoided my best guy friend because he liked me. I would say, that during that time, I just wanted the basic relationship back, and no strings attatched. Maybe that is what she wants. Go up to her, whenever you see her, and tell her that you miss the fact that you used to be friends, and that you want to go back to the way things were. The only way she would get freaked out is if she really doesn't like you in that way and she wants you to leave her alone. But I seriously doubt that. Go with what your heart says.
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May 25 2005, 06:10 PM
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 Grrrrrrr Group: Member Posts: 801 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 123,696 |
just go and talk to her. tell her that you just went her friendship nothing else. If she doesnt want that then i would have to say that she isnt worthy for your friendship
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May 25 2005, 07:16 PM
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 sheryl Group: Member Posts: 120 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 142,179 |
make the first move of talking to her, but i don't think she counts as a real best friend if she avoids you.
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May 25 2005, 07:25 PM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
are you completely over her? if you are then by all means try to repair your friendship, if you're not...there's no point because you'll just end up liking her again and again and she'll avoid you again and again...
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May 25 2005, 07:52 PM
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 Unlock the Darkness Group: Member Posts: 305 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 17,967 |
QUOTE(chii @ May 25 2005, 8:25 PM) are you completely over her? if you are then by all means try to repair your friendship, if you're not...there's no point because you'll just end up liking her again and again and she'll avoid you again and again...  I concur. Talk to her ONLY if you're completely over her. |
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May 25 2005, 08:20 PM
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Newbie Group: Member Posts: 8 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 121,074 |
QUOTE(shereyol @ May 25 2005, 8:16 PM) make the first move of talking to her, but i don't think she counts as a real best friend if she avoids you. I think she just avoids me because shes embarrased. Thats what some people are guessin with me. 
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May 25 2005, 08:25 PM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
Well.....if you really wanted to get her attention....approach her...tell her how you feel and all that...and tell her you want your friendship back....and be honest about your feelings....but...to be honest with you.....the friendship won't be the same....
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May 25 2005, 08:56 PM
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 hi. call me linda. Group: Official Member Posts: 8,187 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,475 |
Ok, that happened to me too... I ignored a good friend because he liked me but I didn't like him back. We lost about a year of friendship because of that. I suggest just talking to her. With me and my friend (we're good friends again now), we just started talking one day, and our friendship started again.
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May 26 2005, 10:26 PM
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Newbie Group: Member Posts: 8 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 121,074 |
Well...today was abnormal, she was wearing a shirt that said, "Lets Be Friends"
 Anyways, Im gonna try to find a way to aproach her tommorrow.
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May 26 2005, 11:09 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 212 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 59,075 |
yeah.. the best way is just talk about it. be open. be friends again. just TALK like yall once did. itll come back hopefully.
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May 27 2005, 12:58 AM
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 Call me Lauren d=] Group: Member Posts: 278 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 113,118 |
Think about it.. Why HAS she started to avoid you? Maybe she likes you and she's scared of her feelings. Or maybe she really does want to be friends. The only way to find out is to approach her calmly, when she's alone. And talk.
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May 27 2005, 03:09 AM
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 I'll never be who I was again.. Group: Member Posts: 2,886 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 77,981 |
I kind of did that to someone before..
Try talk to her..Don't wait for her to come up and talk to you..You have to make the first move if you want her to talk to you.. |
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May 28 2005, 02:03 PM
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 Member Group: Member Posts: 14 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 144,362 |
Neckochan's right you just can't sit around and wait for her to come up to you. Caz who knows when that would be. Just walk up to her and say that you hope that you guys still have your friendship and that if it makes her more comftable if you'd stop likeing her. then you'll stop liking her. i know it's pretty weird going up to her like that but u need gutz kid
 more power to ya
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May 28 2005, 10:50 PM
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 *scribble scribble* Group: Member Posts: 1,314 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 119,610 |
just go up to her and tell her that you just want to be friends like the good old days.
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