Friendship Trouble Options

[AnonymousGirl589]

I'm having some problems with my friendship. Please help me out. Me and "Michelle" have known each other since the 2nd grade. So that's like 8 years right there. When we went into high school last year, we met a girl named Kayla and Katie. Kayla and Katie were friends just like me and Michelle. Let's just say that none of us are friends with Katie anymore. So since then Kayla started hanging out with me and Michelle. Lately they've been hanging out alot. They go out like every weekend. And I haven't gotten invited. Like for example Kayla asked me if I wanted to see House of Wax and I said yeah. And then like the next week she's talking about her and Michelle saw it. And they didn't invite me! I wouldn't have minded if this happened just a few times but it's been happening alot and it's getting me really upset. And Kayla was talking about going to Hawaii this summer. And well I put the pieces of the puzzle together and I found out Michelle is also going! Michelle is one of my best friends and I feel like I'm losing her. I know as you get older your friendship with people starts to dissintergrate but I don't want to lose her. What should I do about this situation?

[--x who0ps]

uhmm.. well.. if she really was your best friend, she wouldnt be doing that to you.
im not sure if you should talk to her about it, cause i remember i kinda had the same situation as you except that i was michelle, but the thing was i didnt want to be that other girls friend anymore. and that girl talked to me about it saying she thinks she's losing me. and it jst got annoying
but you should try i think. if she gets annoyed, jst back off.
ask her why the heck she's like excluding you from everything.

[pinayprincess]

talk to her... the same thing happened to me, i was drifting away from my best friend b/c i lost her from my bf she had the chance to talk to me about it -- have the chance to talk to your best friend

[_sarcastic_]

talk to her, tell her what's going on. if you don't she'll never realize it, you don't want to lose your bff that way. ask her why she's not inviting you to the outings

[clarissa]

dude. i have the same exact problem. my friend since second grade.. ever since she moved to a different school, i feel like i've been replaced. we only talk to each other like.. once in a month or two. we can only see each other at parties. it sucks, but we've all moved on.

[Just_Dream]

Mmm yea talk to her about it. If Michelle's that great a friend, she should at least invite you along. If Michelle doesn't realize what she's doing and starts blowing you off more, then perhaps it's time to move on. Just have her as a regular friend... I mean people eventually grow apart, that is true. There will be plenty of people walking in and out of your life--only the truest ones will remain forever by your side, as you would for them.

As for Kayla... Maybe she wants to steal Michelle away from you. What you must understand is that when people have best friends or childhood friends and end up losing them, they try to find another, as quickly as possible. It's kind of like.. when two people are in a relationship and once they break up, they're on the rebound... Does that make any sense? Tell them both how you feel and if they still exclude you, then you should move on and find other friends to hang out with.

[aera]

tell her how you feel. its kind of the same with my friends. when someone has a party, they invite some people but they dont like somebody so they dont invite them. but then they find out and get really upset because some of their friends were going and didnt invite them. some of them told me that they were feeling left out and asked me why i didnt invite them. it wasnt my party so i told them i didntwant to invite them if the person didnt want them at the party. if you want to go, you should ask kayla instead of michelle.

[dancingkait]

i had the exact same thing happen to me too. i was best friends with this girl "betty" since the moment i was born pretty much. she's a year older and our parents were great friends since elem. school. so she visited me in the hospital after i was born. so anyways we were inseperable for years. spending a weeks together jumping houses back and forth in summer. then two years ago we both moved up to a higher level dance group. she met someone new there. this girl "susie" literally stole her from me. and she completely changed. i finally talked to her about it last year and now we're getting closer again. but we grew apart.

i'd say start inviting them both to things, you plan it. if you talk to her don't make it sound as if you're ordering her to hang out with you (i know you wouldn't on purpose but things happen)

[Shattered_Hope]

The only way you're going to be able to solve this is if you talk to her about it...if you don't soon...then it will be too late...and you'll end up losing your best friend...

[AnonymousGirl589]

Thanks guys. I'll talk to Michelle about it. I just need to find a time when Kayla isn't there becuase she's like always there.