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 May 9 2005, 10:28 PM
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Why is it that when a guy likes a girl, he gets all shy when he's around her? (Vise versa) I'm not saying this applies to ALL guys and girls, just some.
I wanna see what all of you think... |
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May 9 2005, 10:37 PM
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 Perfectionist, Loner, Confident, Mysterious, Imperfect, Kevyn Group: Member Posts: 370 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,095 |
It all comes down to one thing : Intimidation.
Attractive girls intimidate men..I'll admit it. I've had my moments...ironically for me though...girls tend to make the first move on me, but I do nothing about it. It's quite sad knowing there's a girl that's had her eyes on me for the whole school year, at rallies, lunches, walking across the quad at campuses. Yet I do nothing.....what do I say??? What do I say when I'm so intimdated??? (Sorry Kim -_- ) Also, there's a lack of experience with females...especially when the male hasn't dated very much. He tries to search for the things to say but because he's so nervous and inexperienced with women it tends to come out wrong, or he just bundles up in a ball..) And lastly, some guys are just very shy in general...especially if they haven't been raised around females during their young years. Or is very sheltered inside. Approaching a girl and talking to her can be a very scary thing for some guys...rejection is a huge factor and what not, and for attractive females...they just intimidate men. It's funny to see sometimes... that's why people stick to online dating and talking online / meeting people online..but I've never went that route. Eventually I had to own up to myself and approach a girl...such as life. If a man can't approach a girl...how will he handle the biggest burdens life has to offer? -Kevyn |
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May 9 2005, 10:37 PM
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I suppose they might think that they might make themselves look like a fool and embarass themselves infront of the person they like.
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May 10 2005, 12:27 AM
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im really shy around the girl i like. it sucks. im too scared of rejection. oh well...
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May 10 2005, 12:34 AM
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Fear of rejection. Have you ever seen the movie the villiage? Not that great of a movie, but there is a line tlaking about how hes afraid to touch her because he doesnt want her to be able to tell how much he wants to touch her. Its all a fear of rejection. People are protective of their feelings. So yeah.
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May 10 2005, 08:56 AM
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i do that too. i dont know why, it gets annoying but i do
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May 10 2005, 02:49 PM
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 memories live FOREVER<3 Group: Member Posts: 1,150 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 132,793 |
SO true. acctally thats the reason how i screwed up my last relationship. this guy i liked was totally outgoing and thats what i liked about him and when he finally asked me out he hung out with me every sginle day, but...he was different he was SO different (shy) and i ended up breaking up with him cause of that
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May 10 2005, 03:07 PM
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QUOTE(Kneuklid Romance @ May 9 2005, 7:37 PM) It all comes down to one thing : Intimidation. Attractive girls intimidate men..I'll admit it. I've had my moments...ironically for me though...girls tend to make the first move on me, but I do nothing about it. It's quite sad knowing there's a girl that's had her eyes on me for the whole school year, at rallies, lunches, walking across the quad at campuses. Yet I do nothing.....what do I say??? What do I say when I'm so intimdated??? -Kevyn  eh, I agree, hot guy intimidate me, because I thinkg I'm ugly, and I mean I'm not THAT ugly but I'm nto exactly a princess...so ya...I'm MUCH more comfertable talking with a normal to ugly guy than a hot one, same with girls actually but obviusly that doens't matter nearly as much. I don't want to have a hot bf, I want to have a bf tha'ts not ugly...but not hot, just kinda, imbetween...so he's nice to look at, but not intimidating. hmmm |
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May 10 2005, 03:11 PM
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hehe i think its the fact that the girl or guy is frightened by the fact that they're even around the guy or girl they like. They are scared that they might not be able to impress them or they are scared of how to impress him or her. heh ei ono
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May 10 2005, 04:41 PM
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I guess since they don't look as them as a "friend" anymore then theres really nothing to talk about and so you're afraid you might make a fool of yourself.
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May 10 2005, 06:45 PM
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if ya really outgoing, you'll prolly go and flirt with the guy u like. it's weird though, once u admit to someone u like them, u juss get shyer. and if they don't like u, they avoid u too. it's weird huh? i m really shy around mai crush. i always am.
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May 10 2005, 06:48 PM
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as many people have said- its merely the fear of rejection
plus no one wants to make an idiot out of themselves infront of someone they like- they have to be 'cool' and such plus some people aren't experienced so they don't really know what to do |
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May 10 2005, 09:39 PM
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 This bitch better work! Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 13,681 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 28,095 |
hmm...maybe because they like her and they are embarrassed?
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May 11 2005, 12:31 AM
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QUOTE(Kneuklid Romance @ May 9 2005, 7:37 PM) It all comes down to one thing : Intimidation. Attractive girls intimidate men..I'll admit it. I've had my moments...ironically for me though...girls tend to make the first move on me, but I do nothing about it. It's quite sad knowing there's a girl that's had her eyes on me for the whole school year, at rallies, lunches, walking across the quad at campuses. Yet I do nothing.....what do I say??? What do I say when I'm so intimdated??? (Sorry Kim -_- ) Also, there's a lack of experience with females...especially when the male hasn't dated very much. He tries to search for the things to say but because he's so nervous and inexperienced with women it tends to come out wrong, or he just bundles up in a ball..) And lastly, some guys are just very shy in general...especially if they haven't been raised around females during their young years. Or is very sheltered inside. Approaching a girl and talking to her can be a very scary thing for some guys...rejection is a huge factor and what not, and for attractive females...they just intimidate men. It's funny to see sometimes... that's why people stick to online dating and talking online / meeting people online..but I've never went that route. Eventually I had to own up to myself and approach a girl...such as life. If a man can't approach a girl...how will he handle the biggest burdens life has to offer? -Kevyn wow. you have said it well |
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May 11 2005, 04:04 AM
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 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
fear or rejection and intimidation. kneuklid romance has said it very well.
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May 11 2005, 04:40 PM
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 Call me Lauren d=] Group: Member Posts: 278 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 113,118 |
I think its that they're so freaking nervous around eachother that they stop acting like themselves..
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May 12 2005, 06:48 PM
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lol i'm shy too... but when I asked my first ever gf out, I kinda just... turned my brain off and asked her out and she said yes... but then again, we did talk every now and then but whenever we did I talked kind of like a robot lmao. ...Im a moron so it was easy for me to turn my brain off lol but it probably wont work for you other smarter people. In other words, I didn't really think about asking her out... it just sort of escaped from my mouth during mid-conversation and after all my friends and her friends kept telling us we should go out.... So basically, you should just go for it!
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May 13 2005, 10:16 PM
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nooooooooo wayyyyyyy mann!! lol this one boy that likes me was real open, in a way to flirt alot, i never thought he liked me b/c i thought that was him, a guy who would flirt alot, but then he really did like me and flirted w/ me to get my attention -- i mean he flirted to the farthest [[woahh not that far lol]] ... with me im not as open but it always turn out that the boy i like will always know lol
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May 13 2005, 10:58 PM
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URRRAGH!!!! i have no idea why i do that!!! i get so tense when i'm talking to him or w/e, and our convos go like this.
him:hey guess what me: what him: i went swimming yester day me: oh cool him:ok g2g me:BYE him: BYE thats not really being shy, but everythings so fast, but when i am shy, he'll say somthing funny, and i REALLY DO THINK ITS FUNNY, and i laugh a real laugh, but our comes this fake laugh. |
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May 14 2005, 07:41 PM
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I guess in both situations...either want to mess up...or make a bad impression....
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May 14 2005, 10:20 PM
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 Bonjour Group: Member Posts: 278 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,449 |
probably because their worried about what they think, or if they like them and they cant think of the right words to say. (ive been there)...lol
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