Online Relationships, Are they healthy? Options

[*Kathleen*]

Okay, so I have this friend who has been going out with her boyfriend for three years. The problem is, she has never met him. Yeah, it's an online relationship. I mean, they talk to each other on the phone, they go on webcam together, they send videos to each other, and etc. He's planning to come over here to see her in June, and they might see each other again in October when they travel down to Texas to a Rennaisance Festival. The thing is, she's always sad and whatnot because she's always thinking about him, and how she never gets to have a normal relationship. The question I pose to you is: are online relationships okay? Are they healthy? I mean, do you think they'll work out once they meet each other?

[hair products]

I have a friend who met someone through online and they're doing lovely.

[angel-roh]

i met justin online too hahahahaa...but we end meeting each other in reality~~ haha and im officially dating him~~ we've known since 6 years^^;; hehe newais... yeah^^sometimes it's not healthy...but yeah heh...i'll post up again...it's jus my mind is all completely blanked out... and tired of thinkin' cus i was thinkin' too hard in mariel's topic...did i spell her name right? princesstkd^^

[cutielilsuga]

from my opinon a online relationship is never healthy due to the point you don't see him...and you don't know what he is doing also....like it isn't even like a relationship since she didn't even meet him in person....so to me it doesn't even count in my book of dating....haha but what do i know i've done it before but it never works out due to not being able to see each other

[phatty]

in my opinion, i dont think it's healthy. cause meeting a person in real life and meeting a person online arent the same and you dont really know how they REALLY are, yano?

[conster]

i personally think online relationships are fake... but if ur friend and her bf feels different from how we feel, i guess its okay

[*Kathleen*]

I dunno...I was just wondering what you guys think, because I mean, you guys post all the time on forums just as they do. They've known each other for so long - they both like to think they're practically married!

[brian_deegan]

hhhmmmm...ive never been in one but my best friend has and he got cheated on by her and she admited it to him....and he was so hurt over it...me...i think its not healthy at all....and i couldent bare the thought of not seeing my g/f for 3 years....

[*Kathleen*]

Aww...that's so sad. Yeah, my friend always suspects him, and him her, but they're quite truthful to each other, and I think it depends on the people involved...

[whomps]

my uhhh cousin's uncle.. which means my uncle's brother got married to a woman he met online..

[*Kathleen*]

...and how did it work out?

[whomps]

uhm. they're married.. and they loove eachotherr anndd.. they live in china. that's all i know :D

[*Kathleen*]

Oh hehe...well that sounds like it worked out well.

[malenky_koshka]

online relationships...well...as long as your ABSOLUTELY SURE that the d00d ur going out with isnt some desperate man in france who is fat...etc.. yea. andif they send eachotehr webcam, well...thats the next best thing to seeing eachother. and if theyre gunna meet eachother, then i guess thats good. i think it would be awkward though. you know? never being able to hug or kiss...that might not be healthy. you know? the ....ermm...longing, right-o.

[NawtyLilAznChic]

i met tha guy i date online too but i also have met him in reality, im not sure bout ur situation cuz lyk, yea they talk on tha fone n c eachotha on cam but u dont noe wat hes doin, he can have an actual gf, he can b actin all nice n w/e, there r sum really smart twisted ppl out there that noe how do that n mess wit ur mind...but then again its 3 yrs, it should b ok i guess? ..

[*Kathleen*]

See, that's what I'm worried about...I feel bad for her because she's always suspecting that he does, but I think it depends on the person. Three years is a long time, and he's saved up a lot to go visit her. I mean, yeah...heh.

[anna_banana08]

i was in an online relationship about two yrs ago. didn't work... i don't think it's healthy cos you get too confined to the internet to meet other guys.

[F_L_I_P]

i was in a relationship when i was in 6th and 8th grade. i was alone in valentines then my online friend from CA called me so i was like "thats long distance im in CA" i was jus saying that in my head though. so we talked for 2 hours but now i dont even have connections to her.

[Winter]

I think an online relationship is alright. I mean so many people met online, fall in love and get married.

They have to have faith in each other. And also webcam so that you know for sure the other person isn't a 49 year old fat pervert. And call each other. It might cost a lot to call, but just hearing his voice would be worth it. :D

I think it's really great that they've lasted for three whole years. In an online relationship, that's considered quite long. They should just meet up! Who knows, they might really hit it of in real life. It never hurts to try.

I mean, I was in an online relationship. I lived in Malaysia, and he lived all the way in Maryland. But he was saving up to fly here. And being the stupid person I am, I broke up with him. It was stupid and I know it now but it's too late.

[psychoticangel]

Hrm... i think, in some circumstances, online relationships may be a prob. Coz there are those type of people who value physical romance more than the emotion. And the relationship being online, the need for physical intimacy just can't be granted ASAP. And... stuff happen. One party complains about it and the other gets mad as to why he/she is complaining. Then, the scientific theory of the "Big Bang" happens. Then the relationship's a bye-bye.

But there are other circumstances however, when both parties are willing to make the best out of what little thing it is they've started. Despite of how difficult it may be, or how far the distance is, as long as both the guy and the girl are willing to go through the consequences of an online relationship and are REALLY serious, i think theres a big possibility for the relationship to work out.

Hmm.. but you know... even in real life situations... when a partner is far from the other... loneliness will always fill the parties involved. Coz you'll always want to feel the presence of the one you love beside you. So yeah... if your friend really loves her bf... and vice versa... and they want things to work... I'm sure they'll be fine... but the sadness you see in her, it'll always be there as long as she's far from the guy.

[dani41790]

hmm im not sure if its unhealthy or not

[candylizious]

i also have a friend who met his gf online.. and theyre getting married soon.. as long as they really love and trust eachother.. itll work out..

[anna_banana08]

it's really hard to maintain an online relationship... =S

[SpyGurl04]

I say AVOID ONLINE Relationships AT ALL COSTS.

[illushun_eyez]

well, ask yourself that question? what do you think? here what i think. i think online relation can be unhealthy because most people cant ahndle depression however there are the positives to it. as in most people dont have anything wrong with it. so, what im trying to day is that itz all up to the couple. if they are dealing with it then itz okay. and yes itz healthy. if itz hard for the couple even though if itz only one of them going through the struggle then it wont. everyone iz different. so, if your friend is okay with it then there is nothing ot worry about. everyone finds happiness in many places. so, to me it all depends on them.