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[teeners4]

it's my birthday today. and im sick. stayed at home the whole day and missed school.

the close group of people i hang with (5 best friends) NONE of them phoned me of asked if i'm okay. after school when they came online they're like "u werent at school today." then after we kept talking and they're like " oh right it's your birthday. happy birthday"

one of them totally forgot and the other one was like "it's your birthday?"

i just feel so neglected.

i dont know what i did wrong in life. i mean sure i've been a bitch. and i DO believe in karma... but honestly. noone remembered?

and it's so weird. cause everyone else (even ppl i dont talk to) phoned me or msg me and said HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!

why are my most reliable, trustworthy friends acting like this?

yea i needed to vent. i know i did a topic like this in another forum

but have you ever felt this?

feel neglected.......
i'm beginning to question....

what did i do wrong?

[Kneuklid Romance]

what did i do wrong?

You did NOTHING wrong...being bitchy is all apart of human emotions...and believe me EVERYONE's been that way at least once in their life. But don't blame yourself please, you did NOTHING wrong.

But to have your friends forget your birthday is quite disturbing, but perhaps they are very busy with their own lives? This is a very selfish society and friendships crumble because of things like this. I find it very apalling to have read that people you dont talk to as much have wished you a happy birthday.

...it's your day and since it's your day you have no right to question yourself because you are only human. You aren't perfect, you have your emotional situations, and you probably had a good reason to be that way. People just don't become bitchy for no reason. (Well, most of the time at least.)

I've talked to a lot of people about birthdays and they've told me, "it's just another day." So perhaps they thought the same thing? Or just too busy to think about your birthday...I don't know...

...but if you are willing to take it another step you can question them in forgetting your birthday, and as to why..?

But I'm going to let you in on something...I don't even know my own mother's birthday...that's because we don't get along well, AT ALL. So you're not alone on that aspect of having somone forget it's your birthday.

Hang in there, don't blame yourself, you are only human and you have a lot to offer your friends...it's their fault they forgot...and that deserves questioning...

....OR maybe they didn't forget? Maybe when you get home tomorrow you'll find a belated suprise birthday party for you? ^_^ I hope so at least.

-Kevyn

P.S. - Happy birthday ^_^

[aera]

sometimes people dont callbeacuse they dont know youre sick. it's okay. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

[WrathOfOnigo]

First off HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!

2nd.. your friends are so horrible to do that to you! Obviously they don't appreciate you as much as your other friends do! You shouldn't consider them your closest friends if they forget your own birthday.

[pinayprincess]

++happy birthday!

well not really... people knew me pretty well b/c i was always outspoken about myself... but that f*cked up of your friends, matter of fact, YOUR BEST FRIENDS to forget your birthday

[Ballpointpencil]

Call me weird, but I don't think it was that horrible of your friends to forget. Not a good thing, but not as evil and demonic as it seems some people are taking it. Is your party today? Have you been talking about it? I mean, unless your friends are super organized, they probably don't have your b-day written down on a calender that they see every single day, nor memorized. Some people can memorize stuff. Others can't. I couldn't even tell you my kid sister's birthday, much less my best friends' birthdays, not because I don't love 'em or because I am wrapped up in myself, I simply have a bad memory (something that, at least in my experience, in a rather common thing with teenagers).

[Kneuklid Romance]

sometimes people dont callbeacuse they dont know youre sick.

....but it wouldn't hurt to call to check on that person...especially if they are sick. That's when I would probably call the most...

...But I guess that's just me...>_<

-Kevyn

[FoOd]

Not everyone is perfect. Sure its horrible that your friends forgot about it, but we are all humans and we tend to forget stuff.

Just let this whole event slide, but not without bitching to your friends about it.

So then I won't feel guilty on this,

Happy Happpy Birthday to you!

[multifaceted]

first off HAPPY B-DAY~!

next- is a birthday really that special? you dont feel any different do you? and people can forget over a year ya kno. we are all human. unless you are miss perfect

[HoodieObsessed]

hah, I'm feeling like that right now kinda...

...like I'm on msn all the time so hwen my freinds come on, I'm usually on, so that's how I organize when I'm gonna see them on the weekends. well, lately (as in like three months in a row) Iv'e been trying to organize stuff with like all my freinds EVERY WEEKEND for like three months, and NON of thme seem to have time! like I inited over one of my freinds last wekeend and she couldn't come, so I phoend my other friend on saturday and invited her over any time, for any amount of tiem she wanted, to go ANYWHERE, and aperently she had to clean her room that day...CLEAN HER ROOM? you mean I'm not mroe important than a CLEAN ROOM? and she's one of my best freinds!! gosh, aperently I need to vent to, lol. anywya, I calle djessica after thatr and she had homeowkr. great. so I'm left all alone. again. just like every single week before that. sitting in fornt of the computer doing nothing. being. bored.

bah.

jsut like all my weekdays, all my weekends, doing absolutely nothing, getting brain damage from being so DAMN BORED! not to mention the nagging worry that if my frieinds are SO BUSy so that they can NEVER find time for me do they even WANT to be with me? maybe I'm stupider than I thouhgt, ugly stupid annoiyng and boring, no one would want to be with me anyway, I don't even know why I try. probably my hair turns them off.



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HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!

[yellowgurl]

im sorry you had a bad birthday.. but like ppl say .. they prolly didnt no you were sick.. and also even if they did remember maybe they were worried to disturb you or maybe they had lotsa hw. People are born to forget, if you were their frd. you would forgive theem.. and i mean honestly, how many ppl remember each others birthdays unless you put "1 day till my bday " on your msn scrname or sthin. I dont really remember unless they are really my close friends. IN the end i still say happy bday

[yukichan]

Happy Birthday!!
ya that happened to me before..my close friends didnt call me when i was sick..but my not to close friends were like are u ok?and all that.. hope you feel better..

[dani41790]

Happy birthday!

Aww i'm sorry that happened to you. I'm pretty sure you did nothing wrong. Maybe they were kind of busy and just forgot. I don't know. It's mean what they did. Makes me wonder if they really are your friends =\.

Well um to answer your other question, yes i've felt neglected many times from my family but not my friends.

[someflipguy]

Friends do that shit to you. Its the ones that remember that are your true friends.

Happy Belated Birthday.

[brand0n]

happy birthday :)

im sorry about u and ur friends. maybe they just had a really busy schedule

or maybe u never even told them ur bday?

[_sarcastic_]

i don't think anything like that happened to me before.
but *hugs* happy belated birthday

[kimmie2204]

damn and i thought one of my bdays sucked........dont worrie about it.....some people are forgetfull......dont think the world is getting back at u for some evil that u've done! so cheer up buttercup! HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!

[aNg3LBaBi3]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!! im sry no one remembered. no one ever remembers mine. i barely ever get anything. only from my sweetheart, boyfriend. other than that i dont look forward to my birthday. i never do. im like, oh its my birthday, wow i turn a year older. im still trying to get use to looking forward to things, although its been 4 yours since i've gotten things from my babe. my family rarely gave me anything. im about to have another. haha. i feel neglected from everyone except my babe. i have few friends, cuz they're all backstabbers!!

anyways, your friends shouldnt have forgotten though, unless you didnt tell them. cuz i was friends with a friend for two years, and i never knew her bday! haha. i would of been hurt and offended just like you. but everyone forgets things. cheer up, its your bday. so go out and treat yourself.

[misskentucky]

Well, happy bday!!

and, I'm feeling the exact same thing right now.

[ghjgfkgfk]

Call me weird, but I don't think it was that horrible of your friends to forget. Not a good thing, but not as evil and demonic as it seems some people are taking it. Is your party today? Have you been talking about it? I mean, unless your friends are super organized, they probably don't have your b-day written down on a calender that they see every single day, nor memorized. Some people can memorize stuff. Others can't. I couldn't even tell you my kid sister's birthday, much less my best friends' birthdays, not because I don't love 'em or because I am wrapped up in myself, I simply have a bad memory (something that, at least in my experience, in a rather common thing with teenagers).

i agree. i don't think your friends meant to hurt you because some of friends forget my birthday but i didn't care because i'll probably forget theirs too.

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

Who knows maybe they really did forget. O_O

[heyyfrankie]

yes i have felt neglected before but never on my birthday! and i cannot answer your second question because i don't know you but i do hope that you had a good birthday.

[ichiban]

im really sorry .. a lot of people forgot it was my birthday too until i reminded them .. eh. dont worry you didnt do anything wrong, your friends are just being stupid.