Puberty. Sex. Life ?, for girls Options

[jambaJUICE]

*edited to match the FAQs in the boy's lockeroom.
Okay, Let's clear things up.

Please add to this if you have anything to add to it, whether it be comments, questions, or more answers.

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pu·ber·ty (pybr-t)

n.
The stage of adolescence in which an individual becomes physiologically capable of sexual reproduction.

What are signs of puberty?
At the age of as early as 9 to as old as 17, you'll go through changes. ( Obviously )
[*]You'll notice that you have pubic hair (pubes) down there.

• With most girls, they'll have vaginal discharge (cum) -- dont fret if it's yellow or clear or white. That's normal. Haha.

Notice I said "most," (that doesn't mean all girls will.) Some girls would just get their period and have vaginal discharge afterwards. "Usually" girls will develop vaginal discharge 1-3 years before they get their period.

Har har har.

OMGZ I LYK JUST GOT FREAKISHLY TALL!
Chill out. It's just a growth spurt. Some girls will grow 3, 4, 5+ in. taller, and sometimes you'll experience growing pains. If that's the matter, then you have to go to your mom or whatever and get some tylenol and wrap up whatever bones are aching, such as your knees. In my observations, i've noticed that most growing pains occur in the knees.

OMG I AM SO FAT. I JUST GAINED blahblah POUNDS!
Yeah and? You're growing up, you're gonna eat more. Plus, your period makes you eat more.

Either way, you probably will grow somehow whether it be height, weight, whatever.[/size]

Menstruation?
wtf is menstruation?
Menstruation is your period.. duhh.
Your period is basically, you going into your "womanhood."
Yeah, you'll get boobies. Haha.

What happens to you when you get your period?
Some things would include :

• Cramps. Some girls have it bad, others won't ;
  What are cramps? Cramps are those pains you get on your lower belly, or lower back. It's basically stating that your body is exercising it's birth muscles. The more pain you feel during cramps.. probably the harder it'll be during birth. Heh.

About the cramping thing...i was told it was pain from the blood clotting...thats why they tell u to exercise and move around becuz it gets the blood flowing again. Also if u drink less caffine it helps out with cramps. and those playtex heating patches really work for me too.

Ways to ignore, or weaken the pain of cramps ;

• Breathing Exercises. Count to 8. Inhale. Exhale
  
  
  
  
  
• Think happy thoughts.
  
  
  
  
  
• Exercise. You may think that your period makes you incapable of being active, and athletic, but you never know. It might give you an extra boost . In fact, running helps quite a few people get over cramps.
  
  
  
  
  
• Take midol and rest.

-Actually.. It's cramping mainly because your uterus is pushing out all the old tissues and the egg you didnt fertilize in that month.. Also, as for the pain.. People have different tolerances of pain so to one person even bloating could feel like the coming death to them and to others the worst pain and cramps, they may feel hardly anything.. It all depends on the person. ^-^ But I liked the topic.. Learned stuff I knew (my family is full of nurses -.-;) Thanks!

for the cramps part, you should add that using a hot water pad (i think) is very helpful. if you don't have one, a regular water bottle is fine too. the water should be very hot, but not boiling.

and for those of you that are worried because you are 14 or 15 and haven't had your period yet...DON'T WORRY! nothing's wrong. some girls have it late...some girls have it early. it just varies. so...stop worrying!
PMS PreMenstrual Syndrome/Stress ( correct ?) Some girls have it. Others dont.
Yeah isn't that weird how it's "pre," meaning before? Hehe.
Sometimes PMS comes, before, sometimes during, sometimes after, sometimes not at all, sometimes throughout the whole process. Its really funky sometimes.

Actually, I was taught in health class that it is ONLY before. But you can experience the symptoms at any stage of your period.

Ways to deal with your PMS;

• Breathing Exercise when you're pissed.
  
  
  
  
  
• Try to keep calm, and be optimistic no matter what. Even if you feel like you're depressed. The happier you are. The least chance of PMS. Plus, if you always look on the brighter side, you're period will last for a shorter amount of time. && you won't be called a bitch .
  
  
  
  
  
• Ignore anything and anyone that irks your arse off. If someone is taunting you, bugging you, bitching at you. Ignore them. And put a smile on. Sounds hard, seems hard, I know. But it's kind of worth it. Esp. if the anyone is your parents .

More Symptoms That Might Occur..
Excessive Eating Habits - Either before, after, or during, you`ll experience some weird eating habits. You'll either WANT FOOD SO BADLY. Or feel like you're not hungry at all, or you just can't stop eating. Hunger pains, hunger callings, whatever you want to call it. Just eat. Don't go all anorexic. & eat healthy. Don't pig out on all that greasy food. Hehe.
&&Most girls crave chocolate, or something sour .
(If you're odd, like me, you'll gain 5 pounds, and end up losing it when you're periods over. )
-Breaking Out - Yes. Sadly, some girls who never break out. Or girls that do break out. End up.. Breaking out. Waka waka. Just sleep well, and hopefully it'll go away.
-Smell - Oh dear God.
PLEASE MAKE SURE THAT YOU TAKE YOUR SHOWERS
Some girls contract a bad b.o. during their periods. Yuck. Yuck. Yuck.
If you're young, and haven't started using deodarant. Start using it.
* & remember, if you catch a stanky whiff of yourself, everyone around you has been smelling it for the past 10 minutes or so.

Some ways to take care of your body.

• Do not be a lazy oaf. Get up an exercise. Being lazy won't help at all.
  
  
  
  
  
• Eat healthily. Some chocolate, and junk/fast food is okay occasionally. Just not all the time
  
  
  
  
  
• ALWAYS SHOWER & Use deodarant, but it'd be a good idea not to use deodarant at night, because deodorant makes your armpits darken. I suggest that you take a shower, in which you wash your hair at night, then in the morning take a shower -- without wetting your hair, then apply deodorant.
  
  
  
  
  
• Carry extra pads. and change your pad. Unless you use tamps, then you carry extra and change accordingly.
  
  
  
  
  
• For more ways, you can Check Out The Boys FAQs

Bras
I'm too shy to ask my mom about bras.. and its so embarassing to ask the sales lady.
Never fear, you have the Sizing Calculator here! *You'll need to know how to use a tape measurer. Please don't use a ruler, or one of those measurers that you're dad uses.

Wearing Bras to Sleep..
Supposedly, wearing bras to sleep gives you the chance of getting breast cancer (yeah what doesn't?). However, wearing bras to sleep will ENSURE the great risk of you getting veins on your boobies when you get older. (And crossing your legs will pop veins giving you ugly legs when your older, too.)


PUBES
Hah, the neverending question of pubes
You can trim, wax, shave whatever.
*if you shave.. i think you're supposed to shave towards the hair, not against it. I guess. and if you shave the wrong way. Don't freak out if you get all these red bumps. It's not herpes. Just skin irritation. Use aloe vera.

Facial Hair
Omg.. I think I have a mustache. / UNIBROW O.O
Yeah yeah, it's facial hair sweetie. Everyone's got some whiskers, just some girls have it darker/more than others. But one thing's for sure. DONT SHAVE IT OFF. some girls shave it off/wax it off/tweez it off, or get that nair stuff. Don't. It'll just grow back more embarassing than before. If you are REALLY embarrased by it. There's this sally hansen lip bleaching stuff called Creme Hair Bleach For Face that you can get at a local drugstore, like Sav-on, Osco, etc. Not so sure if it works or not.
But if you must insist on something else. Ask Sally

HOLY SH*T I JUST GOT MY PERIOD WHAT DO I DO?!

• Wash up.
  
  
  
  
  
  
• Tell your Mom.
  
  
  
  
  
  
• CHANGE UNDERWEAR
  
  
  
  
  
  
• Put on a pad.
  
  
  
  
  
  
• By all means, Stay calm.

Breast Cancer

also we should let girls know after they hit like 16 or something to learn how to do breast self examinations so they can detect breast cancer earlier. but we shouldn't scare them, either. 1/8 women get breast cancer, and it rarely happens before the age of 20.

symptons:
-A lump is detected, which is usually single, firm, and most often painless.
-A portion of the skin on the breast or underarm swells and has an unusual appearance.
-Veins on the skin surface become more prominent on one breast.
-The breast nipple becomes inverted, develops a rash, changes in skin texture, or has a discharge other than breast milk.

and i found a breast cancer self-examination on the internet:
1. IN THE SHOWER Fingers flat, move gently over every part of each breast. Use your right hand to examine left breast, left hand for right breast.
Check for any lump, hard knot or thickening. Carefully observe any changes in your breasts.
2. BEFORE A MIRROR Inspect your breasts with arms at your sides. Next, raise your arms high overhead.
Look for any changes in contour of each breast, a swelling, a dimpling of skin or changes in the nipple. Then rest palm on hips and press firmly to flex your chest muscles. Left and right breasts will not exactly match - few women's breasts do.
3. LYING DOWN Place pillow under right shoulder, right arm behind your head. With fingers of left hand flat, press right breast gently in small circular motions, moving vertically or in a circular pattern covering the entire breast. Use light, medium and firm pressure. Squeeze nipple; check for discharge and lumps. Repeat these steps for your left breast.

I'm *insert age here,* and I haven't gotten my period yet
Don't worry about it, you'll get your period soon enough. In fact, the longer you do without your period, the better. More time of childhood. No bitching. No having to wait till it's done to go swimming. No dealing with pads or tampons.

I just got my period... It's really whack.
I'll have it for 3 days. The next time I'll have it for 10
Deal with it. You're period won't be normal for another 1 - 3 years -- in other words, just like you, you're period develops as well. Meaning, you won't have your period like the average 3-5 days and such, until your period has accustomed itself to your body. Most of the time, your so-called "final" period time, is the time it elapsed during the first few months or so, when you first got your period. Kind of confusing isn't it?

I'm so young. And i have my period. Nobody else in my class has it. I don't want anyone to think I'm weird.. What do I do?
It's okay. Don't be ashamed of your period. Just act normal. You're still the same person.

OH SHIT MY PERIOD BLED THROUGH
AHHH OMG. My period missed the pad ! ( Yes that's possible. That's why it's more convienient to wear longer sized pads. *Just make sure it doesnt stick out from ur undies* Sometimes it better to wear a bigger pad. Most girls are ashamed of wearing big pads, and try wearing smaller ones. Don't be ashamed. )
In a situation where you bled through. Go to CODE RED. Hit the bathroom stalls. Change your pad. & tie a sweatshirt around your waist. Don't have a sweatshirt? Simple. Find a pack of ketchup. Stick it in your pocket. If someone asks what happened. Say you say on ketchup & if they ask anymore. Pull out the ketchup.

If that doesnt work. Just go to the nurse's office.
OR if you want to be cautious. Carry around an extra pair of pants with you in your backpack. Hehe.

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sex (sks/secks)

n.

1. The property or quality by which organisms are classified as female or male on the basis of their reproductive organs and functions.
2. Either of the two divisions, designated female and male, of this classification.
3. Females or males considered as a group.
4. The condition or character of being female or male; the physiological, functional, and psychological differences that distinguish the female and the male.
5. The sexual urge or instinct as it manifests itself in behavior.
6. Sexual intercourse.

I am still a virgin so I can't answer what it is like to have sex.

But, this is just my opinion of sex...

If you're going to have sex. DON'T BE PRESSURED INTO IT.
& Always use protection.

However.. I discourage the practice of any kind of sex under the age of 17.
Yeah sure you're curious. But at least wait it out till you're 17.
& Even if you can't control your hormones. Wait till you're at least 15 to do any kind of sexual relations. ie. oral sex, etc.

Does it hurt when you have sex?
-It depends on the girl. Some say it hurts like hell, others not at all. For me-it barely hurt, I was sore the day after. Also, USE PROTECTION. Condoms are your best friend if you are sexually active, esp. if you're not on birth control.

"does it hurt when you have sex"
-it depends on the girl. some it hurts like hell, others not at all. for me-it barely hurt, i was sore the day after. also USE PROTECTION. condoms are your best friend if you are sexually active, esp. if you're not on birth control.

Good Job on the subject!
here something hopefully nobody has said it, if so just ignore!
- Putting two condoms does not help from pregnancy or stds.  Could make it worse, condoms could break!

Misc..

FOR CONDOMS::

dont place em in ur/urbf's wallet. it will not work properly.

Yeah, even though this is the girl's lockerroom.
Some girls might be precautious, and might carry a condom around.
Keeping condoms in wallets will deactivate the condom because of the heat it contracts. There's a topic in the boys lockerroom somewhere that elaborates more on this.

Masterbation
Yeah masterbation is a sin. But if you aren't of a Catholic, Christian, or whatever faith, you can pursue whatever fantasy you want.

According to my faith, Masterbation is a sin. Why? Because "in a way" it's considered, sex to one self. Spiritually, I suppose you're no longer a virgin because you had "sex to one self" before marriage, meaning you also sinned. However, physically you're probably still a virgin.. unless you broke your cherry .

And yes, handjobs, blowjobs, fingerbangs, etc. etc. are all forms of SEX.

Yet again, there's a topic about this that elaborates more in the boys locker room, and if you disagree about what i put on masterbation, whether it being a sin or not. There should be a topic about it in debate, i think.
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Hah, yeah, I was bored.

*IF THIS STILL AINT HELPFUL you could try beinggirl.com. Haha, I remember going there when I first got my period.. like 2-3 years ago -__-

This post has been edited by Frankie: Jun 27 2005, 11:37 AM

[jyim]

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[jue]

yes.. condoms are the best thing when it comes to sex

[shortvi3tlaydee]

my teacher said never leave a condom in a hot area especially a wallet or something else cuz when u use it... it might break O_O

[kimmie2204]

oh man..........i really hope the cramp thing about giving birth isn't true.....i use to have the most terrible cramps.....like i couldn't get off the floor and crying kind of craps........finally my doctor put me on birth control and well now they have gotten better.......but i really dont want to have a hard time having kids.......that would suck ass!

[jambaJUICE]

my teacher said never leave a condom in a hot area especially a wallet or something else cuz when u use it... it might break O_O

yeah, the condom deactiviates[sp?] if it's been left in a hot area, like a wallet.
and even if it looks like it's still okay, it's most likely going to break, and even if you don't see it break, it probably did.

[mznina]

bravo..well done!

[crashingg]

oh wow that took a lot of time to read through this.. but it was worth it.

[Shygurl51]

It's true you should never leave a condom in a hot area. My sister had on in he wallet with her money and she left her purse in the car in the sun and well it exploded and got all over her money and stuff. I thought it was funny She didn't

[miix-tape]

wow...that is great info. it really helps the kids who are around the puberty age. n yea...i have irregular periods sometimes. now i know y. thanks. ^.^
n yea PMS come BEFORE the period. u call it cramps if its DURING the period.

actualy, pms doesnt just come before your period. cramps are the pain in your body from the "wall" (that would be all the blood) & the un fertalized egg being relised. PMS is more the bitchy/moodyness, bloating, & hunger that comes with this lovley act of life.
for people who have really bad cramps, there are things you can get to get rid of it (depending on how light/heavy you are) it's not ment for this, its actaly birth control. but it's a shot that you can get in you butt/arm every 3 months. it's not the healthiest, but it might fit some girls better. i never want to stop using it.

[imtoosexyforme]

some people say that bananas is good for cramps, i havent tried it yet....

[katherine15]

I have a ?! im messing around with this guy. and i care alot about him and he says he cares about me but i dont think he does so should i stop messing with him or should i talk to him or what please help me!

[macb]

yes.. condoms are the best thing when it comes to sex

the best thing when it comes to sex with 1 partner (bf/gf) is the birth control pill in my opinion

[macb]

I have a ?! im messing around with this guy. and i care alot about him and he says he cares about me but i dont think he does so should i stop messing with him or should i talk to him or what please help me!

depends on what you mean by messing with him. and depends on how old you are. you don't really know him yet, so you could stick around and find out more before doing anything with him

[slowtyper]

nicely put

[BrokenDream]

Wow.

Thank you so much for explaining those topics about the important stuff. I was always wondering about alot of that stuff.

[khmerxlove]

This is really good info!  I didn't know about the cramps being your birth muscles excercising before...but if you have cramps more often, wouldn't that mean your birth would be easier?  I mean, if you excercise them, they would be more flexible and it would be easier to give birth...

interesting point.... i read somewhere if you exercise those muscles it makes your "special" times more intense.... dont ask me.... i dunno if its true.

[thorn_hailweb]

the best thing when it comes to sex with 1 partner (bf/gf) is the birth control pill in my opinion

depends on what dosage your pill is at. i think both condom and the pill are effective. the condom is a must though.

and not to gross any of you youngsters out, but if you're having sex and even if you are using a condom it will be better if he pulls out of you before he cums. there is always pre-cum but doing this will help.

[thorn_hailweb]

depends on what you mean by messing with him. and depends on how old you are. you don't really know him yet, so you could stick around and find out more before doing anything with him

i agree with finding out more about him before messing around. if you don't know that much about him i don't think you should be 'messing around' so quickly because at that point no guy will really give a shit. guys have a tendency to say sweet things to get what they want in the end. watch out.

[xquizit]

I just found this. Way to explain it all with humor. Steph, you're awesome. Now please come back.

[hott_n_luvin_it]

well ... that was informative

[justlikehell]

yay... finally got to the end! In other news, I read somewhere that orgasms make cramps and pms not quite as bad... I was also told by a friend that chocolate hits the same nerves that orgasms hit... So basically... Chocolate really does make your cramps go away... so when you crave it while on your period, have some freakin chocolate!

[xourzest]

what if u don't have ketchup

[*suddenly she*]

what if u don't have ketchup

carry a tomato.

[crashingg]

^^ hahahhha

i hope more and more girls will read this topic! it answers lots of questions!!!

[AnorexicAngel]

Wearing Bras to Sleep..
Supposedly, wearing bras to sleep gives you the chance of getting breast cancer (yeah what doesn't?). However, wearing bras to sleep will ENSURE the great risk of you getting veins on your boobies when you get older. (And crossing your legs will pop veins giving you ugly legs when your older, too.)

holy moley! i didn't know that! ::takes off bra:: ::uncrosses legs::