2 problems., Not sure if I will work out. |
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 Apr 23 2005, 05:06 PM
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 Ne0 Is The One  Group: Member Posts: 1,348 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 24,349  |
First Problem:
Well. This girl came over to my house and we were discussing about some stuff. She is the sister of my brother's friend. So anyways, we were talking and had a pillow fight (she started it) and all that stuff. Later, she came onto me and before the day ended, she kissed me a few times. That was about a couple of days ago. She however is younger then me. (she 15 and im 18). Do you think I can have a relationship with a girl 3 years younger then me? I ask a few friends about this and they say it can work out if you do like her and she likes you. Second Problem The day after she kissed me, one of her classmates told her he likes her. Well, she also likes him before me and so she couldn't decided between me and him. She only kissed me and I see that she feels she wants to be with me but then not sure what she will decided because she hasn't. I got to know her better and she seems to be a nice girl and someone I can care for. What should I do about this problem? |
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| *stephinika* |
Apr 23 2005, 05:23 PM
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well i think i'd get to know her better firstly and make sure that you guys do like each other. the age difference shouldn't matter too much but be careful since you're 18 and she is still a minor.
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Apr 23 2005, 05:30 PM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
For your first problem...age difference is not a big deal.
If you like her...ask her out. Tell her how you feel about her and it might help her decide. 
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Apr 23 2005, 05:32 PM
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 Yea Yea. Group: Member Posts: 837 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 79,366 |
the age issues isn't a big deal... yea u shud spend more time with her and... don't worry about the other problem bc if she doesn't pick you, you just gotta move on and if she does pick you everything's good
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Apr 23 2005, 05:44 PM
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Ne0 Is The One Group: Member Posts: 1,348 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 24,349 |
QUOTE(stephinika @ Apr 23 2005, 5:23 PM) well i think i'd get to know her better firstly and make sure that you guys do like each other. the age difference shouldn't matter too much but be careful since you're 18 and she is still a minor.  My cousin also said to be careful since im 18 and she a minor. |
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| *mzkandi* |
Apr 23 2005, 06:29 PM
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I dont really see your ages as that big of a difference, but her parents might. I think you need to take the time out to get to know her better first to determine whether you guys can be a couple
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Apr 23 2005, 06:33 PM
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Ne0 Is The One Group: Member Posts: 1,348 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 24,349 |
QUOTE(mzkandi @ Apr 23 2005, 6:29 PM) I dont really see your ages as that big of a difference, but her parents might. I think you need to take the time out to get to know her better first to determine whether you guys can be a couple Her parents know my parents so forth because my dad drives her and her friends and my brother to the same school. However she don't want to tell her parents and I don't because she then would be forced not to date. But for now, it just something between me and her. We get along well for the last couple of days that we spend together. It been nice and she knows what kind of person I am and I know what kind of person she is and that we can have a good relationship if she choice so. |
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Apr 23 2005, 07:25 PM
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if the two of you know each other very well like you said. then go for it. age doesn't matter.
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Apr 24 2005, 10:31 PM
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age does not matter as long as you two like each other. as for the second question, ask her out and let her decide.
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Apr 24 2005, 10:53 PM
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i agree that age shouldnt matter. considering that my bf is 2 years older than me. its great, but we've known each other for a while and we are really close. i'd say get to know her a little better first.. and see if shes someone that you'd want to spend all of your time with.
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Apr 24 2005, 11:15 PM
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1st Problem: Age is not a problem, my best friend did the same thing and they had a decent relationship, the question is tho how much can you connect on with a 15 yr old? (I dunno that just my question)
Moving on.... 2nd Problem: Talk to her, get to know her better, and you should just tell her the truth, that you like her, maybe it will all work out for the best... |
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Apr 25 2005, 08:45 PM
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Ne0 Is The One Group: Member Posts: 1,348 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 24,349 |
thx for all your opinions.
In the end, our relationship ended and we are now just friends. Still, this did help me in somewhat about what I should do and realized that this relationship could have worked out but in the end, she said that she don't want to continue it and I accepted that from her. Im just curious as to why she would hit on me and in a week, dumped me... Oh well.. Life is hard but I can live on and find someone in the end. |
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Apr 26 2005, 12:00 AM
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gRaCiE Group: Member Posts: 350 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 96,997 |
she's so young. there's a difference between seventeen n twenty and fifteen n eighteen cuz she's still really immature. but watever floats ur boat. talk to her n just get ot know her better. u could still be with her if u keep talking to her more n more n then the relationship can build from there.
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Apr 26 2005, 12:36 PM
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it will never be cos of just 1 kiss, i think if u really want her.. go for it.. there's actually no rules violating as long as they weren't together when u kiss.. do your best, win the rest. haha
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Apr 26 2005, 01:31 PM
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Ne0 Is The One Group: Member Posts: 1,348 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 24,349 |
QUOTE(onemanshow @ Apr 26 2005, 12:36 PM) it will never be cos of just 1 kiss, i think if u really want her.. go for it.. there's actually no rules violating as long as they weren't together when u kiss.. do your best, win the rest. haha not sure if I would want to pursue her after what she said and how she feels for him. I also feel we can't be friends in the end because of what she done to me and even thought I like her after I think about it, I also feel I wouldn't want someone who torn between two guys and she picks him over me. I can't have that in a relationship with a person who does something like this. |
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Apr 26 2005, 05:46 PM
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maybe it was just infatuation (sp?) between you and her.
you were probably just a substitute. but hey, you never know.. maybe someday.. ? |
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Apr 26 2005, 06:27 PM
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 Perfectionist, Loner, Confident, Mysterious, Imperfect, Kevyn Group: Member Posts: 370 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,095 |
......age and maturity go hand in hand thus...age does makes a difference when you are just teenagers. Most teenagers dont' know how to grasp a relationship when they see one because they are still experimenting with their sexuality, or finding Mr. / Ms. right.
As the old saying goes, "Young hearts run free." when does age not make a difference? well you'll have to figure that out... but go for it...if you two are interested in each other.....no use thinking about it..... One word, "communication." Ask her how she feels about you...her answer could be "yes" and next week she's off with another guy. Why? She's still immature and seeking herself. I'd say go for someone a bit older maybe your age. If her parents found out you two were going out (Hypothetically) it could spell disaster for you. Good luck! -Kevyn |
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Apr 26 2005, 06:49 PM
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Ne0 Is The One Group: Member Posts: 1,348 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 24,349 |
QUOTE(Kneuklid Romance @ Apr 26 2005, 6:27 PM) ......age and maturity go hand in hand thus...age does makes a difference when you are just teenagers. Most teenagers dont' know how to grasp a relationship when they see one because they are still experimenting with their sexuality, or finding Mr. / Ms. right. As the old saying goes, "Young hearts run free." when does age not make a difference? well you'll have to figure that out... but go for it...if you two are interested in each other.....no use thinking about it..... One word, "communication." Ask her how she feels about you...her answer could be "yes" and next week she's off with another guy. Why? She's still immature and seeking herself. I'd say go for someone a bit older maybe your age. If her parents found out you two were going out (Hypothetically) it could spell disaster for you. Good luck! -Kevyn That What I've Been Thinking After All This Happen. And I will try to find someone older. |
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Apr 26 2005, 08:20 PM
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well my x girlfriend was 3 years older then me so age no problem dont worry bout that
second i think you should just go for it if things work out for you you will be happy! dont afraid to take risks in life .:tonY:. |
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Apr 26 2005, 08:27 PM
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to tell you the truth to answer your first problem, you shouldn't remember since you're 3 years older you're more experienced, so she might be going through what you went through 3 years ago.
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Apr 26 2005, 08:36 PM
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Perfectionist, Loner, Confident, Mysterious, Imperfect, Kevyn Group: Member Posts: 370 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,095 |
QUOTE(MiLKDUD_DOKiE @ Apr 26 2005, 8:27 PM) to tell you the truth to answer your first problem, you shouldn't remember since you're 3 years older you're more experienced hmmmmmm I have to disagree on that one.....of course he remembers how he was 3 years ago...a teenagers mind is still growing like a sponge and memories are hard to get go..especially in soul searching however..... .....the second part you bring up does make sense...if he was immature 3 years ago..she might indeed be going through the same phase...but keep in mind boys and girls' minds are almost completely different thus having the mainstream of women's maturity higher than ours. Good point though...I'll give ya that one. -Kevyn |
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Apr 29 2005, 08:54 AM
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get to know her. let her decide on her own, she is going to have to make a decision
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Apr 29 2005, 09:25 AM
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My opinion i think it would be better off as friends tho, you`re 18 and more experienced she still has alot to see. About the second problem, I`m not really sure about that o_O
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Apr 29 2005, 10:51 AM
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i say. .dont really bother. she likes both of you, and it's going to be hard to love her when she likes someone else. that's what i think.
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