Jealous boyfriend Options

[COLDasICE]

My problem is that my boyfriend is to the point where he's really caught up on being his jealous old self and I dont really like it because it makes me push him away and it makes me soo mad. When I talk about a guy friend the first question he'd always ask "Do you like him? Do you think he's cute?".. The first couple of times he started doing that were okay because it was a joke you know, but it got to that point where he was really serious about it and he knows that he really hurts my feelings when he does that to me but he still continues to talk about it and he wont stop until I cry. And when I cry that's when he stops the whole thing and apologize. But then the next time, he does it all over again.. I mean he knows that I love him and all but I dont really see the reason why he still feel the need to ask me when he tells me he loves me back and trusts me. He tells me that he just doesn't trust the guy but I mean it takes 2 to tango right?? This whole thing has been going on for like a few months and I'm really fed up with all that. I keep telling him how I feel towards that and still he keeps doing it... Last night, I told him that if it ever comes up again then I think it's time that we should just go on our separate ways because I don't really deserve that out of a relationship... Oh may I add that it's not always about a guy friend or any guy but he talks about me too.. Like when I want to dress nice he's against it but it's not like I show anything really sexy or whatnot but rather casual/dressy than I usually dress.. Love isn't fair...

Errr.. I dunno what else to do now...

[LilVi3tGrlTLT]

awwie.. yu noe dat he's just doing dat because he cares ryte? but then it sounds like he's really pushing it.. even tho yu two already talked about it and it didnt work.. itz best if yu two keep talking about it.. but if yu really love him.. it shouldnt be too hard to just answer him and just say "no i dont like 'so and so' and i dont think he's cute".. dat simple ryte?

same thing about wat yu wanna wear.. talk to him.. it looks like he cares.. just too much..

just really, really let him noe how yu feel..

take care now.. kk? =]

[conster]

i agree that he really does care.... but i have a problem with guys caring overboard... i think ur bf is a little over protective... but u have to knoe that he always asks those questions cuz he doesnt trust the guy friends u have ... well maybe a break between u two is what u guys need.. and a serious talk over it... face to face talk.. cuz ur relationship looks to be pretty long and its a shame to just ruin it lik ethat

[mznina]

My problem is that my boyfriend is to the point where he's really caught up on being his jealous old self and I dont really like it because it makes me push him away and it makes me soo mad. When I talk about a guy friend the first question he'd always ask "Do you like him? Do you think he's cute?".. The first couple of times he started doing that were okay because it was a joke you know, but it got to that point where he was really serious about it and he knows that he really hurts my feelings when he does that to me but he still continues to talk about it and he wont stop until I cry. And when I cry that's when he stops the whole thing and apologize. But then the next time, he does it all over again.. I mean he knows that I love him and all but I dont really see the reason why he still feel the need to ask me when he tells me he loves me back and trusts me. He tells me that he just doesn't trust the guy but I mean it takes 2 to tango right?? This whole thing has been going on for like a few months and I'm really fed up with all that. I keep telling him how I feel towards that and still he keeps doing it... Last night, I told him that if it ever comes up again then I think it's time that we should just go on our separate ways because I don't really deserve that out of a relationship...  Oh may I add that it's not always about a guy friend or any guy but he talks about me too.. Like when I want to dress nice he's against it but it's not like I show anything really sexy or whatnot but rather casual/dressy than I usually dress.. Love isn't fair...

Errr.. I dunno what else to do now... 

ive been thru it too!....you begin to push him away from you...becuase of those things. thats what happened to me.

I think guys do that because they r so insecure of himself, maybe he thinks you will leave him..for someone better...but he knows you love him, you need to tell him to Chill OUT!, u dont give him the 3rd degree do you? so there is no for him to be asking u all those questions either. You are probably a beautiful girl, and he doesnt want to lose you, and him up ur butt like that isnt going to make you stay any longer, tell him that. He needs to TRUST you more. without trust theres no relationship. and a girl needs to feel pretty too, so wear whatever you want...and if he has somethin negative to say about it..maybe he isnt worth your time. because you know damn right, if some other girl were to walk by with a mini skirt..or what not he would be staring!...but noo he says you cant wear that? you see what i mean..because he doesnt want guys to stare at YOU!? ahh tell him to get a hold of himself, and that you love him and only him..and if he still seems to be askign those questions...yeh i think a break is the only thing..see where it goes from there..maybe he will realize hes doing u wrong. well good luck hun.

[*jimmyjackiechan*]

Usually. ANd usually, sorry to say, these relationships dont work, but they DO benifit after the post breakup. Reason why... After breaking up, experiencing the hard times, ect ect,.... Your b/f will start to relieze what he has done wrong, and lost something to him that he cared about and slowly feel guilt, then regret, then he will start to heal.

It's in a book some where and besides, I used to be like that, but I learned and I guess matured. Lol, that's why some girls like older guys~ Ha. but yea, if ur young, like still a teen, you guys are still in the experiment stage and learning from break-ups and hook-ups, seriously.

[LoST SouL]

uff my b/f is the same xact way it bothers me i tlked 2 him bout it n its improved slowly... u shud seriously tlk 2 him bout it like yes uve tlked 2 him bout it b4 but get mad serious or do the same thing bak 2 him tat warked 4 me!

[COLDasICE]

if some other girl were to walk by with a mini skirt..or what not he would be staring!...but noo he says you cant wear that? you see what i mean..because he doesnt want guys to stare at YOU!?

I told him that if I don't get to wear something girlish.. He can't wear shorts either.. Haha. But that was a joke, I dont really have a problem about what he wears.. I like it when he dresses nice.. =)..

Anyways, it's so hard to get through to him though.. So that's why I tell him if he doesn't trust as much then it's time to just take time off until he does change his ways. Did I mention that we've been together for almost 3 years?? You think he'd be wayyyy over that by now?? Ehhh..

[Mireh]

Sorry to put it like this, but your bf is way too controlling. Talk to him and tell him that you love him and that you would never ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever(ahh...my fingers are hurting from typing "ever" so many times ) even think about cheating on him. Ask him why he feels that way.

Either that, or you should dump him. Relationships don't go good if the 2 down trust each other

[xjjajeengx]

My problem is that my boyfriend is to the point where he's really caught up on being his jealous old self and I dont really like it because it makes me push him away and it makes me soo mad. When I talk about a guy friend the first question he'd always ask "Do you like him? Do you think he's cute?".. The first couple of times he started doing that were okay because it was a joke you know, but it got to that point where he was really serious about it and he knows that he really hurts my feelings when he does that to me but he still continues to talk about it and he wont stop until I cry. And when I cry that's when he stops the whole thing and apologize. But then the next time, he does it all over again.. I mean he knows that I love him and all but I dont really see the reason why he still feel the need to ask me when he tells me he loves me back and trusts me. He tells me that he just doesn't trust the guy but I mean it takes 2 to tango right?? This whole thing has been going on for like a few months and I'm really fed up with all that. I keep telling him how I feel towards that and still he keeps doing it... Last night, I told him that if it ever comes up again then I think it's time that we should just go on our separate ways because I don't really deserve that out of a relationship...  Oh may I add that it's not always about a guy friend or any guy but he talks about me too.. Like when I want to dress nice he's against it but it's not like I show anything really sexy or whatnot but rather casual/dressy than I usually dress.. Love isn't fair...

Errr.. I dunno what else to do now... 

he nneds to back off. you should tell him how its really bothering you. i know how you feel tho, because my last bf was like that... and i would cry too... and we endedup on a break. guys who are too over-protective can really irritate and bore a gurl, and he needs to realize that. its YOUR freedon whether you wear this or that, and it's not up to him. also, he needs to make sure to think of YOU rather than HIMSELF since he is being selfish like a modder by being so damn nosy. NOSY BFS= usually dont last that long
so make shure to talk to him and tell him straight out. dnt try and be nice, or like round-about way talking where you try and be as nice as possible. it doesnt work like that. since he is demanding, tell him that he needs to stop being so damn over-protective and that he needs to build something called TRUST.

hope everything goes well!

[inn0centmarianne]

this WAS the situation i was in,look at us now, WERE O-V-E-R, but now, its true, he has learned his mistakes, they also do this because they often care a little too much, and sometimes want the best for us, but it just got pushed over the edge, and this is what happend to me, it was an great experience, being with this guy for a year and 4 months, *sigh...

[justin_park85]

HAHAHA oh man nice topic hahahaha I'm always jealous too! HAHA I'm a jealous boyfriend of Susan's hahahahahahahaha.... shes just like " " haha....well you know... sometimes she likes to flirt...well not really hahaha

[ichiban]

He's not jealous, i think, he just cares! Talk to him

[*AngelicEyz00*]

a lil jealousy is good once in a while, but not too much, ya know?

[LoST SouL]

Did I mention that we've been together for almost 3 years?? You think he'd be wayyyy over that by now?? Ehhh.. 

hes ova protective i guess its a guy thin kus like i sed my b/fs like tat 2 ... i asked my b/f once n he sed it was a guy thin... i guess its kus hes scared 2 lose u?

[conster]

hmm maybe u can assure him that ur feelings for him wont change and if he trusts u then he hsouldnt be so over protective

[ThePrincessofTKD]

maybe that boyfriend of yours had a previous relationship and he was cheated on...so he has a grudge..

if that`s so...tell him this is a different girl that`s your girlfriend..it`s no longer that girl who cheated on you..

if you don`t want to leave him...just tell him you want a break...maybe like a month to tops it..?

just hang out with your girlfriends and if you happen to meet someone better...that`s up to you..

and maybe over that month your boyfriend will FINALLY realize he was a bad bad boy..

or record what he does...when you start talking about you seeing another guy...have a hidden camera somewhere..

then...when you two are alone and relaxed..show that video to him...he wouldn`t believe himself..

people do things and don`t realize it`s wrong...they can`t realize what they`re doing..

[COLDasICE]

maybe that boyfriend of yours had a previous relationship and he was cheated on...so he has a grudge..

if that`s so...tell him this is a different girl that`s your girlfriend..it`s no longer that girl who cheated on you..

I'm his first girlfriend and so far a serious relationship..

[ThePrincessofTKD]

maybe he doesn`t want it to happen ever...he doesn`t want to be the guy who had a girl that cheated on him..maybe that`s what`s going through his mind..

hmm...

guys these days..

[brian_deegan]

i let my girlfriend where whatever she wants to...i let her be herself...and she respects it...she asked me if it was ok for her to where skirts and i said if you want to...shes realy ko0l about stuff like that...he should give you more space...he should trust you that you wont cheat on him...and you should trust him to...

[angel-roh]

HAHAHA oh man nice topic hahahaha I'm always jealous too! HAHA I'm a jealous boyfriend of Susan's hahahahahahahaha.... shes just like " " haha....well you know... sometimes she likes to flirt...well not really hahaha

lols...haha JUSTIN! yeah ur one jealous boyfriend haha but it's ok~~ lols

[COLDasICE]

1. im the luckiest dude in the world but for how long. - 2. omg, she looks happier talking to him. 3. oh no he did not just scope her out (yeah a guy can keep his eye on your eye, but an eye can see a wide range)

My boyfriend is like that though but I had a really deep conversation about it to him and now we're slowly patching things up.. But he still shows some jealousy and I tell him that I dont have anytime for that kinda thing because I really had enough and I really really want things to go back to the way they used to be.. He understood but he'll still do it here and there..

[conster]

welll at least hes trying rite

[177emories]

its obvious that he doesn't trust you, if he loves you he should be able to trust you and trsut in you taht u will love him regardless...

[NvieDi3ai3yGrL]

i understand completely how you feel. he's just very insecure when there is no reason to be. if talking doesn't resolve this problem then maybe it is beset that you go your separate ways. at least for a while, maybe he'll realize later that there was no reason to worry so much. some people are more overprotective/insecure than others..it depends on how much you can put up with. if it's too much for your liking than do what's best for you..

[anna_banana08]

talk to him and let him know he can trust you. just be open about everything. :)