im the other girl Options

[berry_lickable]

flowers for you if you read this whole thing =]
this is my case:

It first started last year, we had an acqaintance(sp?) we talk eventually because we had english class together. yeah we flirted, but back then i was a snobby lil bitch that thought that i was too good for him so i didnt really give it a possibility, and i knew that he only wanted me because he wants to get in my jeans. the schoolyear continued on with the same relationship we have. right before my eyes, its finally summer.

*SUMMER*

2 months later, we went back to school. and boy did he change. he changed A LOT ! he grew 3 inches taller, he turned somewhat light skinned, his face looks gourgeous, and especially his body looks so effin HOT . his muscles turned so damn huge and he got a six pack !(not bad for a 15 years old). we'll i was just like "hey hes turned fine" but didnt like him because i was still a stuck up lil bitch who thought i was better than him. months passed, and i found out that he has a girlfriend now ! they looked so cute together =]. another month passed, and i started noticing that we started talking again. weeks later, i started having feelings for him. i knew i couldnt let my feelings take over me because he has a girlfriend already. so everytime he'll come close, i think of ways to let him down because i already knew he had feelings for me again. so whenever he tries to walk by me and ask me when we gonna get "together" i just tell him to leave me alone and go to his girlfriend. eventhough my words kill me, i still have to do whats right and stay away from him. more weeks passed, his girlfriend confronted me about him and me. she was extremely nice to me and she knew what i was trying to do. she knew that i was trying to stay away from his boyfriend, who confessed to her that he's inlove with me already. i told her im sorry but i put him down in everyway i could to make him go away. she was like " i know its not about you, its about him." i guess now they solved their problems and it seemed that they loved each other more than ever.

okay here's when my problem comes in. he talked to me today and he said if i want to get with him, and god knows how much i do, but as my parents brought me up i know its unjust for all of us so i told him to go to his girlfriend and be happy. he pushed me up against the wall and said " you dont know how much i love you. i'll give her up to with you." it sort of tickled my dumb heart but i still told him to go to his girlfriend and be happy. now im here breathing my heartbreak away just to do the right thing. but no matter how i tried to forget him, he's always on my mind now. i want to be happy without breaking a relationship because what goes around comes around right ? i need advice how to keep my mind off of him.

thanks =]

[HoodieObsessed]

awwwwww, you sound like a nice person, even if you used to be stuck up

I'm the first response so flowers for me

to tell you the truth tho, I dont' think he sounds like a worthy person to fall in love with, I mean I don't know him at all ofcourse, just by your discription, so I really have no idea but if you loves you that much you'd think he'd break up with his girlfrined right? isn't this jsut causing both of you more and more pain?

besides that I think you're doing everything right, and as for keeping your mind off him I'm afraid I have no ideas there, I've never had a boyfreind

[Kneuklid Romance]

if you loves you that much you'd think he'd break up with his girlfrined right? isn't this jsut causing both of you more and more pain?

besides that I think you're doing everything right, and as for keeping your mind off him I'm afraid I have no ideas there, I've never had a boyfreind 

It seems like she has a good point here.....just doesn't know how to top it off...

...well what I'm seeing...this guy shouldn't leave his girlfriend for another...

and it seems like you've been brought up well and resisting it is very noble of you. Very noble indeed...but 15 years old? I'm sure you'll find someone when you're actually ready...because questioning yourself and trying to not think about him...it's a good start..

...but please don't give in...if you do...you'll cause much more drama between all 3 of you and it's just not worth getting into this hurt that she'll be feeling, the guilt you'll be feeling and just the impact it will have.

isn't this jsut causing both of you more and more pain?

That's the #1 highlight of her message..and what she was trying to say...it will bring more pain..I'll give her that one...

But anyway..

You never know...the girl friend might come after you for revenge...or something worse..you just never know anymore...

so I add all these things up and I get.....

-Drama
-Possible revenge / hate
-Possibly broken friendship with you and the guy
-Guilt on your part for getting with him
-Arguing
-Self doubt

and there's more...but I won't get into that...I've seen so many friendships broken because of this...and things like this.

Please don't do it...

...but from what you said about trying to forget about him in that relationship sense..that's good but there's always temptation.

How do I forget about people? I just dont talk to them. Or if I do it's nothing mushy.

[--x who0ps]

uhmm.. well the right thing to do is to back off, but that dude kinda sounds like a jerk.
i mean if he likes YOU, wth is he with her? o.O

anyways, start checking out other guys, it`ll keep your mind off =P

good luck<33

[_sarcastic_]

you did the right thing, pushing him away, telling him to go to his gf.

he on the other hand doesn't sound very nice, even if he did break up with his gf for you, and you get together with him. don't you think he could also do the same thing over again?

[misoshiru]

don't get together with him. you're doing the right thing, pushing him to his gf.

he says that he'll leave her for you. if he treats her that way, he could treat you that way.

[cHuNsAbAbIe012]

uhmm.. well the right thing to do is to back off, but that dude kinda sounds like a jerk.
i mean if he likes YOU, wth is he with her? o.O

anyways, start checking out other guys, it`ll keep your mind off =P

good luck<33

she's right. he should have already broken up with her if he really wanted to be with u. y IS he still with her?

n plus just think about it...if he is like this with the girl he is with rite now then do u really think he wont start liking another girl who starts flirting with him? i mean...it could always happen.

just look at other guys n keep ur mind off him. but i know how u feel. i been through the same shit...if u wanna IM me my sn is chunsababie012

[literemix24]

I think that you should just stop talking to this guy altogether. He doesn't sound like hes really a nice person. You're doing the right thing, I'm sure you'll forget him, after a while. Just give it time, and if he keeps on bothering you, just tell him to lay off and that you're not interested.

[aera]

if he likes you... then why is he with the other girl? i dont think hes worth your time. what if he sees another girl and leaves you for her?

[inthemudhole]

you did the right thing, pushing him away, telling him to go to his gf. 

he on the other hand doesn't sound very nice, even if he did break up with his gf for you, and you get together with him.  don't you think he could also do the same thing over again?

I do agree.
Also, you sound too wrapped up in his looks rather than his personality. I mean, you spent a while talking about how 'gorgeous' he got rather than how neat he is or something.

[HelloSunshine]

That's the #1 highlight of her message..and what she was trying to say...it will bring more pain..I'll give her that one...

But anyway..

You never know...the girl friend might come after you for revenge...or something worse..you just never know anymore...

so I add all these things up and I get.....

-Drama
-Possible revenge / hate
-Possibly broken friendship with you and the guy
-Guilt on your part for getting with him
-Arguing
-Self doubt

and there's more...but I won't get into that...I've seen so many friendships broken because of this...and things like this.

Please don't do it...

...but from what you said about trying to forget about him in that relationship sense..that's good but there's always temptation.

How do I forget about people? I just dont talk to them. Or if I do it's nothing mushy.

Aww, I really agree. I'm sorry to hear how much it hurts. I think if he really "loved" you that much, that he'd break up with his grilfriend. It's a bit weird, but just tell him that he should be happy to be with his gilrfriends and confront him about it. Tell him you don't want to ruin his relationship.

[berry_lickable]

I do agree.
Also, you sound too wrapped up in his looks rather than his personality. I mean, you spent a while talking about how 'gorgeous' he got rather than how neat he is or something.

the thing is i *was* wrapped up in his looks. it probably seemed like that because i was shocked about the drastice change in his looks. he is sort of a badboy, ahhh ima suckker for bad boys

[Kneuklid Romance]

he is sort of a badboy, ahhh ima suckker for bad boys 

Hey don't worry about that...there's so many girls in your shoes that are in the same predicament...

but ask yourself this, "Do you want to be like all the others?"

Perhaps it's time to find a phase change? But first before I do any serious dating I'd find myself and who I am...or at least get a slight insight on who I am as a person before doing anything life changing...it'll take time but it will prepare you for these predicaments.

-Kevyn

[MrElsewhere]

Don't do this.

Don't

Don't

Don't

DON'T

This cannot work out. All signs point to no. I know from a bit of personal experience, almost like your situation, except I was the guy. Don't cave to him, no matter how fine, nice, cool he is. You will be taking him away from his gf. Also, he shouldn't have gotten with his gf if he liked you. Okay? So, don't do it. I sense trouble in this guy.

[yukichan]

uhmm.. well the right thing to do is to back off, but that dude kinda sounds like a jerk.
i mean if he likes YOU, wth is he with her? o.O

anyways, start checking out other guys, it`ll keep your mind off =P

good luck<33

i agree...start looking for other guys..and feel better...

[whomps]

How can his girlfriend continue their relationship knowing that her boyfriend loves someone else? That's not right.

If you decide to get with him, and let him break up his current relationship, how are you sure he won't do this to you later on?

[berry_lickable]

thank you all for your advices =] i really considered it all.

*UPDATE*
they broke up today because his girlfriend`s friend busted her out and told him that shes been creepin around sucking people up while they were going out(sucks for him). they had big arguement at at school .so yeah everybody pretty much know that they broke up already. gahh i dont care anymore, i actually have no comment what so ever about them breaking up. i kind of figured out last night when he told me that he really want to get with me and that he wants to EFF me . dumb asswipe think im a piece of meat ! im kind of over it already because he got cheated on with his girlfriend that gives oral to random people.

[Kneuklid Romance]

thank you all for your advices =] i really considered it all.

*UPDATE*
they broke up today because his girlfriend`s friend busted her out and told him that shes been creepin around sucking people up while  they were going out(sucks for him). they had big arguement at  at school .so yeah everybody pretty much know that they broke up already. gahh i dont care anymore, i actually have no comment what so ever about them breaking up. i kind of figured out last night when he told me that he really want to get with me and that he wants to EFF me . dumb asswipe think im a piece of meat ! im kind of over it already because he got cheated on with his girlfriend that gives oral to random people.

I'm glad you didn't pull through with it then...your heart isn't worth breaking...good for you! I'm happy for you.

-Kevyn

Edit: You know.....it takes a real woman to go up against her feelings like that...but in time you'll find it makes you stronger as a whole...both inside and out...I'm proud of you. You made the right choice.

[Shattered_Hope]

for me.... ....
I was about to tell you...to move on....but I guess you have....I'm happy that you got over that "dumb asswipe"......

[loljuliana]

meet new people =) that's all i have to say.