i am gay. what do i do ?, plaze help |
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 Apr 1 2005, 04:02 PM
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if your gay, your gay. tell them and see what their respond is and if their like, OMG your gay!! and starts spreading the rumor, then you see his true side of what he does to friends.. find newer ones after.
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Apr 23 2005, 03:16 AM
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 Be yourself. Unless you suck Group: Member Posts: 135 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 129,315 |
You shouldn't be ashamed of being gay. Ever. I know what it's like and if you get all guilt ridden and uncomfortable with yourself your life will be hell. I think you should ask them what their views on gay people are. If they are positive come out. If not find new friends even though it may be hard to do. You just have to know that if they don't accept you theyreally aren't your friends and they are holding you back.
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Apr 23 2005, 05:29 AM
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Just start hinting and if they start getting awkward then maybe you shouldn't tell them, if you know you can tell them and they accept it, then more power to you, otherwise, get new friends.
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Apr 23 2005, 08:45 AM
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 SCHGEB!SCHGEB! Group: Member Posts: 1,786 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 66,217 |
just tell them.. or keep it to urself
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Apr 23 2005, 08:48 AM
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let them know your gay
it may be hard for them at first but they will come around and eventually respect you for being open about it i didn't know my best friend was gay so i was always asking him about girl he liked or sometimes try to help him out with a girl until one day he told me and i was like "oh that makes sense" 
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Apr 23 2005, 09:01 AM
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 College Dude Group: Member Posts: 177 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 106,527 |
ok... for me... tell them how u feel... then after that.. im pretty sure they'll accept u... after all.. they are ur friends ryt? tell them that u are not a stereotype gay person... that u are special... ur unique.. and i believe ur sexual orientation should not be an impendiment of ur friendship.
... take it easy! 
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Apr 23 2005, 12:19 PM
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 You can call me Jon Group: Duplicate Posts: 878 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 9,806 |
True. As a bisexual, it was a bit difficult to come out. It still is. Well, first off, tell the few friends that you know that will understand, if any. That'll give you something to fall back in case all else fails. But telling everyone else will cause your life to change a lot, very, very fast. Take it in stages. Slowly, it'll be easier.
You can try to change your orientation, but it's pretty damn hard to. Why and how you became is less important than accepting and dealing with what you already have. It will seem brooding over a while, especially in the stages of coming out. You might ask yourself "Why am I this way?" or "Why do people treat me that way?". Unfortunately, we can't help it. Best of luck, and Life's Speed. |
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Apr 23 2005, 03:23 PM
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 This bitch better work! Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 13,681 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 28,095 |
either tell them that you are gay or just don't say anything at all. therefore, you aren't lying and you aren't letting them know that girls don't turn you on. but being is nothing to be ashamed of. you have to tell everyone sooner or later.
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Apr 23 2005, 03:57 PM
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QUOTE(IamRad @ Apr 23 2005, 8:45 AM) just tell them.. or keep it to urself  umm thats helpfull  I know it's hard but you should really tell them, and if they can't accept it then maybe you should find new friends =/ |
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Apr 23 2005, 05:04 PM
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QUOTE(15boyAus @ Mar 27 2005, 5:49 AM) wen i go to one of their houses wen look at "magazines" and they r always getting hard and i just have to pretend i do hahahaha comedy right here... |
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Apr 23 2005, 05:11 PM
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if they are ur friends they wouldnt care if u were gay or not
the rite thing to do is to tell them ur gay.this will help becuz u will be able to get it all off ur chest good luck man |
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Apr 23 2005, 06:26 PM
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QUOTE(FoOd @ Mar 27 2005, 1:01 PM) I agree, but the downfall is that your "friends" might become homophobic of you and your secret of you being gay would come out and eventually reach your parents. Unless your parents do not know about it. But if they really are your friends, they were your friend because of who you are, I mean, if they started to not like you anymore because of you sexuality, then they really aren't friends, are they? thats a terrible explanation. thats like someone saying "im a serial killer and im afraid to tell my friends because theyll be scared of me!" and then you responding by saying "well if theyre really scared of you and your murders, then theyre really arent your friends" people make friends under certain circumstances, and when something happens that crosses a large boundary like a persons sexuality, its a rather good reason to break off a friendship |
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Apr 23 2005, 06:45 PM
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RaWr! Group: Member Posts: 603 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 90,404 |
heh i smell a troll
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Apr 23 2005, 06:58 PM
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Hm, now is it that important to tell them that. If they're truly your friends, then they wouldnt care if you wanted to look at porno's with them. You would be able to exclude yourself out of it. However, if their the ignorant a-hole type, naw, they wouldnt be any real friends. Those are the type of friends that are shifty and that you can't trust. I wouldn't tell them however. Think about why it would be important to tell them, and you would find much less reasons to find than not to tell them.
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Apr 24 2005, 05:06 AM
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No Matter What You Do Or Say People Will Always Judge You...
Where Do You Live? That Will have A lot To Do With How people Will React... Do Your Parents know? ... Tell Them First... They Should Respect Your Life Choices No matter What And if They Dont, dont worry, theyll come to their senses... the fact is that this is a major secret and i can guarantee your life will change a great deal once the truth is known... Friendships And Relationships Will Be Seriously Tested... I Doubt N E One Will Welcome It With Open Arms... But Its Not Right Of You To Hide It From Them Any longer... How Old Are You? ... Are You Emotionally Prepared For The Termoil This May Cause? If Not Then Wait Untill You Are... Just Stop Playing The Role Of The Straight Guy... Be Yourself... And Dont Hit on a straight guy... That Could Get You In Trouble.. lol Maturity Level Is Everything... If Your Dealing With Middle schoolers Theyll Hear Your Gay And Probably try and Beat The hell Out Of You or atack you Mentally And emotionally on a daily basis... ( Not True For Everyone But There are quite a few intolerant individuals in this world)... People Suck... Gay Rights Have Been heading The Tabloids Quite A Bit lately... It Has Always Been A Sensitive Issue... And With The Catholics, christians, and other assorted religions trying to ban gay marriage... Your Sexual Prefference will probably make you a target... If You Live In A large City... Or Around The West Coast You Shouldnt have Much of A problem... people In That area are generally speaking much more accepting... I Just Hope You Dont Live In Some Small Town With A Church Every 7 Blocks... Good Luck... ~ Grim_Sorrow (heterosexual) ( i'm bored... this sucks) 
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Apr 24 2005, 11:50 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 42 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 121,112 |
it kinda seems as if 15boyaus is making this up.
1. he has a single post and it was made to create this topic. 2. he registered in march and his only post was in march 3. his situation is so unlikely...guys watching porn together and all getting hard |
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Apr 24 2005, 03:20 PM
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QUOTE(wind&fire @ Apr 1 2005, 9:39 AM) i think hes putting first dibs on you when you come out... wow... you first boyfriend!!!!! ........ wat is going on.... |
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Apr 24 2005, 04:42 PM
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 Go on, hug me, I dare you... Group: Member Posts: 299 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 116,809 |
Hmm, hang yourself in the garden I guess?
I thought I was gay and I cam onto my camp mate so much and realised it did nothing for me. Let's just say I prefer my tacos to my hotdogs. (obvious will and grace quote) |
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Apr 24 2005, 06:05 PM
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 Class of 2005!!! Group: Member Posts: 1,132 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 93,080 |
You should tak to them. I mean, if they stop being your friends because of it, it's their loss. Don't pretend to be something ur not.
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Apr 24 2005, 06:19 PM
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 Hello my name is Yula, I'm a baller! Group: Member Posts: 329 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 125,918 |
What you should do is, never come near me or drop dead. Another alternitave is to tell them your gay and get hated on. Or move to prison and you know what happens there!
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Apr 24 2005, 06:27 PM
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to hell with you Group: Member Posts: 2,547 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,506 |
tell the.
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Apr 24 2005, 09:28 PM
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 Litt0 Mi55 T@rA! Group: Member Posts: 185 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 111,734 |
hmm...well i don't like it when people hide in the closet...but then i also know it's hard to have everyone look at you as the "gay guy"...i have gay best friends and people always ask me "is he gay" blah blah blah! I DON'T GIVE A FLYING RAT'S BEHIND if he's gay or not...he's the best friend i fell in love with when i met him...gay or not. you're who you are. if they can't accept that..kick them to the curb
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Apr 24 2005, 09:33 PM
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 Live Your Own Party Group: Member Posts: 1,261 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 7,489 |
QUOTE([f]eleeza @ Mar 27 2005, 2:26 PM) You go out, buy a couple of cans of fluffy whip, three male strippers and have yourself a party.  I second that. lol. Actually, that's a pretty good idea. Could you invite me, too?  I don't think you should go with the chick that said get new friends. Just because you're gay doesn't mean you need new friends. Just try being open about it. Maybe they're willing to do other things when they're around you rather than check out chicks. |
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Apr 24 2005, 09:37 PM
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Live Your Own Party Group: Member Posts: 1,261 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 7,489 |
QUOTE(WinterNights2 @ Apr 24 2005, 7:19 PM) What you should do is, never come near me or drop dead. Another alternitave is to tell them your gay and get hated on. Or move to prison and you know what happens there! You f*cking bastard. I'm bi and I totally accept other people's opinions and I usually don't mind homophobes but... when they start wishing bad upon gays/bisexuals/lesbians, that's where it just becomes wrong.  You know what.. f*ck you. No one can control their sexuality and if they can.. they're not that sexuality because it's never an option. Period. Just like you can't control being straight. You're the one who should just drop dead and move in with a sexy fat middle age man named bubba in prison and get ass raped. 
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Apr 24 2005, 09:46 PM
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 that heaven is overrated Group: Member Posts: 5,096 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 53,124 |
You shouldn't put yourself down just because you're gay. You should just tell your friends the truth, or else you'd just feel more guilty about it. =\
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