PLLEEAASSEE HELP ME!, I'm SO CONFUSED!! Options

[captain_screw_up]

OOkay. Well. I started going out with this guy Thurdsay. I felt bad cause my friend and I liked him at the same time.. but, apparently he liked me. I talked to him on the phone for a really long time the night he asked me out. His friend was on three way and we had a really fun conversation. My friend got mad (jealous, I guess) at me cause I didn't tell my boyfriend to call her so she could be in on the conversation. And also, she won't let us do anything together because she 'isn't over him' yet. I feel really strange and tied down because I feel like I have to ask her permission to even talk to my own boyfriend! I hate this. I wanted him to go to the movies with us last night, but she didn't approve. I got kinda mad and just didn't say anything. She then got mad and was like, "JUST CALL HIM! I don't care!! Who cares about my feelings anyways!! All ya'll are gonna do is make out right in my face!" So, yeah. I got mad, and said.. "Well, obviously I care cause I'm asking you for your permission before doing anything with MY boyfriend! It seems like you don't care about MY feelings!" We didn't end up taking my boyfriend. Just me and her..

EUGH! This is just so annoying. I HATE having to ask her to be able to take my boyfriend places with us. I feel so tied down. She is prolly just not letting him go so he'll break up with me cause we don't spend any time together. She doesn't really have a conscience and doesn't really realize when she's guilt tripping, but she does it ALL THE TIME!!!!!!

PLEASE HELP ME!!!! What do I do!?! I really like this guy and I actually want a serious relationship right now. I feel ready for it, but at this rate it's so not gonna happen.

Thank you so much.

~Lacey

[heyyfrankie]

i think that whenever a best friend dates their best friend's ex is a REALLY, REALLY, REALLY, REALLY bad idea. i think that you should asked your friend if she would of cared if you went out with him. or at least waited until she was "over" him. i guess all you can do now is tell your friend that he is your boyfriend now and she will just have to get over it.

the worst part about this is that it could of all been avoided. =/

[captain_screw_up]

She never went out with him. We just both liked him. He just moved here from another town. I'm his first girlfriend from here.

[heyyfrankie]

okay, now i understand!!!

tell that bitch that is yo man and she betta get the hell ova it!

[Shattered_Hope]

She can't tell you what to do.....since she's never dated him or anything...or even in general. You don't need her permission to do anything. I do suggest you tell her off....before the relationship ends...you need to decide if having a best friend that won't let you do anything with your boyfriend is important....or a guy that you like and that likes you...

[misz_ica]

if she really is a 'friend' then she should let you be happy and BE happy for YOU. also she must come to terms that the guy didn`t like her like that and he likes you instead. being jealous of you and your guy isn`t going to do anything for her except turn GREEN. in all reality you shouldnt be asking her permission in stuff concerning you and your boyfriend because its you and your boyfriend not you, your boyfriend and her. if things dont change i think you should just really talk straight up to her.

[loljuliana]

well you could try hooking her up with someone.

also, if she's going to act like this, then just make plans with your boyfriend. only you 2. she has no right to be mad because they never went out and she doesnt own him. if anything; you should be the one mad at her.

[_sarcastic_]

if she was a real friend she would understand. but that girl is just a b!tch. don't listen to her next time, she has no right to control what you do with your bf. tell your bf about it, ask him if he can help you through this.

[yukichan]

hmm..
first of all, i dont get why u asked ur friend for permission..i know that she liked him, but still u dont have to ask her for permission to do something with ur bf..dont let ur friend control u and ur relationships..
if she was a real friend she would be happy for u..i guess u should just give her time...

[angelrevelation]

did she like him first? maybe she feels like she has the right to 'have' him.

but since you're with him anyway, you shouldnt listen to her. and it seems like you made your point really clear to her and she still didnt listen so... give her time. she's just being really selfish now, but she should finally realize that she should be happy for you

[aera]

hes YOUR boyfriend. dont ask your friend for permission to do anything with YOUR boyfriend. she seems pretty selfish, talking about how youre hurting her feelings by calling YOUR boyfriend. and dont take him places with your friend. go places with him alone. and if she gets mad, then tell her that its not your fault that he likes you and not her. and shes acting like a jerk.

[gladz612]

i think that if she's your true friend she'd try to at least understand and respect the fact that your bf likes u not her.. it's impossible to foce 2 people who don't like each other (or one sided) to be together plus ur friend shud really stand in your shoes to think for a sec. if u want to keeo your friendship.. u shud talk about it asap if not it's either gonna spoil your friendship or your relationship.

[kyuubi319]

just say: haha i won, you lose, kiss my ass and get over it.

no, dont do that. but seriously, theres nothing to be mad about. you both liked him and chances are one of you were gonna go out with him.

[EmmalieV]

Tell her that hes your boyfriend now , that you shouldnt need to ask you permission for anything , you stated she was your friend not best friend.

Tell her to put herself in your postion , come on.