mannerisms., your perspective Options

[tmauze]

Lately, some of my friends have been saying things that I would never say because I've been raised not to say such things. What do you think basic manners are and what do you do when people are what you consider very unmannerly and rude?

[lilphoenix]

Manners are basic politeness acts, at least what I think.

[Soleil]

ive been brought up with manners all my life....please...and thank you are things i say without thinking.

[Guhk]

with todays society its hard to differentiate whats rude or ignorant.
i think having tact would be enough to get by these days. its not required anymore to address people as sir/maam etc.

edit: a large part of it is where and how you were raised

[jennyjenny]

Yeah, I think some basic manners are please and thank-you. Manners could be as simple as not being rude and offending anyone.

[aera]

-please and thank you
-do not critisize on looks, body; f.e. "youre ugly" or "youre fat"
-do not say "i like everyone except for you" or say anything offensive like that
-be polite

people these days are just plain rude. my parents brought me upto be polite.

[--x who0ps]

-please & thank yous
-dont critisize others. no matter what.
-dont ask for food
-dont talk too much, esp if its obvious you`re being annoying.
-eat with your mouth closed
-dont touch anyone, esp if you have dirty hands o_o
-never call adults by their first name.
-respect elders
-dont say anything is the other person`s fault. ie if someone is annoying you, and you want them to go away, you say something like - "im sure you have alot of work to get done. im so sorry for wasting your time"
-dont look like you`re superior to others, cause you`re not.

ahh i can go on forever cause my parents are frckn` strict on these things -______-x

[tinababy143]

i dont know..i always say thank you when im complimented..even if like 10 ppl compliment me at the same time i say thank you like 10 times..chew with my mouth closed..never talk back to anyone older than you..dont interrupt ppl when they're talking..ummm..i dont know what else..a lot of my friends tell me im like wayyyy too polite sometimes..but oh well..i was raised that way..so yeah...

when i think ppl are being rude i'll tell them..i'm always like "dont do that..thats rude" thats why everyone tells me im way too polite..so yeah..

[blah122986]

for da first couple times just say like daz wrong or u shouldnt do that but if it consist den dun worry bout it...just make sure u dun pick up da bad habits...

[vampireduster]

please and thank you are mine. and never cuss but now its like everyone here is cussing

[angelrevelation]

umm basically saying thank you, sorry, being friendly, no sarcasm (with adults anyway) normal table manners... lots of things. swearing is something that i consider rude, most of the time

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

my friends say im the one with the most manners out of all of them o_O well i think manners are.
-Not Littering.
-Saying Thank you/You`re welcome
-Excuse Me when you burp
-No elbows on the table
-Bowing down everytime you pass an adult.

[redpeony]

Everything that was said above, and IMO holding doors open for people is a common courtesy.

[Spirited Away]

Basic manners... for everyone (not just kids):

1. Waiting their turn and not interrupting other people when they are speaking. No one can be heard if there are too many voices at once. Gently tell them to wait until someone is done speaking, and then ask their question. Be sure and give your child your full attention when you are done speaking so as to reinforce their positive behavior of waiting their turn. While your child is patiently waiting, hold their hand or put your arm around them to let them know you are aware of their presence.

2. No name calling. Even if it's in "fun", name calling hurts. Instead of labels, ask your child to explain what the behavior is that bothers them.

3. Always greet someone when they come over to your house. Depending on your level of formality, you can teach your child to shake hands with adults who come over, but it's not necessary to shake hands with other children. But, your child should always say, "hello" or "hi" when someone visits so that the guest feels welcome.

4. Say, "Please" and "Thank you" often. It shows respect and appreciation.

5. Clean up after yourself. Whether at home or at a friend's house, always pick up after yourself. It's their mess, so they need to clean it up. If your child does leave a mess, remind them that they need to clean up before the next activity can begin, and stick to it.

From http://www.drdaveanddee.com/manners1.html

[lovescream]

I'd say, people not saying 'thank you' or 'sorry.' A lot of people say thank you, but not many say sorry. This one girl keeps kicking me accidently in lunch and she never says sorry or any of that crap.
Rude!

[..:loveee.NuTTii]

Alana's guide to politnes :
Use the "magic words".You have to mean it too. These words gain you respect. You wouldn't want to respect someone who said, "Sorry" as if it was a waste of their time.
Smile and be opened. When you seem opened, you put people at ease.
If you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all. Lying is something a lot of people do. My parents wanted me to be honest, so they said to either change the topic, say nothing at all, and if you must tell them the truth, tell it in the most polite form, but say what you mean.
Listen to others and respect their ideas. No use just breaking into a conversation and getting everyone confused. No body likes to see their ideas ridiculed.
Be considerate towards everyones feelings and personal belongings. Clean up after yourself. Try to hold back that sharp tounged comment.