breakup, after 8 months Options

[banthisaccountno...]

yeah... I was going out with this girl who I truly, honestly loved. With all of my heart. She said that she loved me, too. We went out for 8 months, and about a week ago, she just said that it was over. We were through. She didn't have a reason for ending the relationship. I've tried to ask her, but she won't even speak to me. I've asked her friends if they knew, but they say that she won't tell them.

wtf is going on?
what would cause this to happen?
...any idea?

[Chii]

there are lots of things that could've happened...she could've had second thoughts about being in a long term relationship, she may have found someone else, she may not like you any more and not know how to break it to you, the possibilities are endless...

but since she was the one who broke it off, you deserve an explanation, keep asking, get other people to ask.

i broke up with my boyfriend after exactly 8 months and a day...it was because he wanted to see me a lot but i couldnt' see him on our 8th month anniversary because i went out with friends. i felt that he smothered me because we saw each other so much. is this the case with you?

look into the problems you may have had with each other...maybe you'll find your answer

[mouse_3k]

it means she wants to be independent and that you should move on. I know it takes a while to move on but once time goes by, you will see urself moving on.

[*jooleeah*]

There are a lot of possible explanations for this. Maybe she feels nervous, cause she was in a long-term relationship. Or maybe something major is happening in her life and she can't handle a relationship. A girl can have a lot of reasons =/ Try to find possible explanations that are reasonable. If you can't find one, then try to talk to her. Like chii said, you deserve an explanation.

Btw, I'm sorry about the breakup. Hope you'll be okay

[banthisaccountno...]

it was because he wanted to see me a lot but i couldnt' see him on our 8th month anniversary because i went out with friends. i felt that he smothered me because we saw each other so much. is this the case with you?

No; we saw each other every day at school and we went out somewhere once every other weekend.

It takes me a long time to move on...
I'm not sure if that's a good or bad trait about a person...

oh, and thanks for the help. I appreciate it

edit// and I forgot to mention; she seems like she honestly didn't care that she broke up with me, and broke my heart. She doesn't seem sad at all. It's like she's glad that I'm out of her life.

[Nicolatofu]

^ DOn't think that way. I'm sure she enjoyed the relationship. Maybe having a boyfriend and always doing things together got to be too much of a routine and she needed to be just herself for a while. Healing a broken heart is never easy.

[*mzkandi*]

hmmm.....that the trouble with love, one day there is "i love yous" exchanged and then the next day you are barely speaking. Its hard to pick up the pieces and move on but that is how life works. It seems she has moved on and so should you...but dont worry there are other fish in the sea

[The 1 and only J...]

yeah that has happened to me to. it ended up she thought i was cheating on her. pretty stupid right cause i wasn't even cheating on her cause i loved her so much.

[vampireduster]

alot of things could happen. my friend becca was dumped after one year and about a month by her boyfriend

[yeseulx3]

i'm sorry to hear that, but you're better off without her.
there are plenty of fishes in the sea, and someone else perfect is bound to come along.
move on with your life; show her that you're strong enough to recover quickly.

[pinayprincess]

quote from a list of 'what girls wish guys knew"

44. silent treatment, shoulder shrugs, tears, yelling and nasty looks all add up to . . . YOU DID SOMETHING WRONG!

[SimplicityGirl]

Sometimes, people will hurt you like that. My ex bf didn't give me a proper reason for breaking up with me either; out of the blue, he just said that it was over and through with us and that there were never anything really that special going on anyway. But move on. Get over her. Find someone new and nicer than her. Even though she might seem like the best girl you could ever have, there's always someone better.

[icy_angelx]

I think she's getting worried about your relation ship cuz it's getting too strong she's getting scared of if it get's deeper the more it'll hurt if you break up with her...she doesn't want to take hat chance send her a note but just say her name on the envelope....and don't put ur name unless you think it'll be okay if you did but before you do that let it dye down a little

[Mireh]

that happened to me. Went out with my boyfriend for almost a year, and then we broke up. And i will honestly say that i truly did love him with all of my heart.

I didn't get over him until recently (after 3 months of wallowing in my sadness). I know it sounds harsh, but you'll get over her eventually.

[cHuNsAbAbIe012]

we wouldnt know but just let it go. you'll heal through time. she wont tell u the reason but maybe its cuz she's ashamed of the reason she broke up with u for? like...maybe it was cuz of selfish reasons? n e way...u need to move on. forget her cuz it looks like she's not coming back.

[177emories]

your probably horrible in bed and she found someone else...

lol i'm jk, hey man only she would know! she wa sthe one that broke it off with you! we can all guess all we wnat, but that wont be the truth =)

talkkkkk to her... face to face! how can she ignore you? if she does slap her a few times... haha jk don't hit girls =P

[177emories]

we wouldnt know but just let it go. you'll heal through time. she wont tell u the reason but maybe its cuz she's ashamed of the reason she broke up with u for? like...maybe it was cuz of selfish reasons? n e way...u need to move on. forget her cuz it looks like she's not coming back.

no no don't let it go!! you HAVE to find out why!! or it will come back to haunt you1!! don't let it go pass you don't let her forget why find out!!!!

and ummm thats not true some time in the future you may get back together again you never know...

[illuminessence]

I think she's being really unfair about not giving you an explanation, but don't blame yourself.

[yukichan]

keep on asking for a reason..when you find out the reason, it will be more easier to move on..something similar happened to me..things were going really good for about 3 months and all of a sudden he starts being cold and mean..he never told me a reason...i found out by another person..ok well my point is dont give up on trying to find the reason..if u feel like talking, feel free to pm me...