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| *XLilAznGrl592X* |
 Apr 19 2005, 07:05 PM
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ok.. I have this friend, she is 2 years older than me and we have been friend for like forever... now she's in 8th grade and everyones getting a bf... a few weeks ago, she asked me to find her a bf... i was like ok........ of course i tried but no one matched.... then i saw her a week later and she said she got a bf... i asked her who and all she said was 'i met him online on a game' she said the game was runescape... i played it once and all the guys were nasty! they go around asking for 'it' ugh she wouldnt tell me sn or anything... she said when she ims him, he doesent even answer her... she is so in love with him, but by the facts her SISTER gave me about him, it just seems like he's just with her to get stuff from the game... im afraid she will get hurt... some relationships online work, but most dont... idunno wut to do... she is so in love with him she thinks they will b together forever...
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| *mzkandi* |
Apr 19 2005, 07:08 PM
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Life is about learning. Sometimes telling someone you care about that you think they are doing wrong or that they may get hurt runs you the risk of having that friend mad at you. I think you should tell her your concerns as her friend and then let her decide what she is going to do. It may not turn out bad but if it does, it will be a lesson learned for her
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Apr 19 2005, 07:14 PM
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 dakishimetainoni...  Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
her sister may be exaggerating...most people do that to express their opinion about some things...
get her to look at the big picture, does she turly believe in her heart that this will work out and they'll live happily ever after? actually, has she even met him in person before? you can't plan a future with someone you've never met, it's as if you're planning your future with someone who doesn't exist. he doesn't even answer her IMs, is that what she wants in the future? a husband who won't give a sh*t about convering with his wife? ask her things like that...don't attack her though she'll probably get pissed if you do, stay calm when you talk to her about this stuff. |
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Apr 19 2005, 07:15 PM
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t-t-t-toyaaa Group: Official Member Posts: 19,821 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,270 |
QUOTE(mzkandi @ Apr 19 2005, 4:08 PM) Life is about learning. Sometimes telling someone you care about that you think they are doing wrong or that they may get hurt runs you the risk of having that friend mad at you. I think you should tell her your concerns as her friend and then let her decide that she is going to do. It may not turn out bad but if it does, it will be a lesson learned for her  i really agree . talk to her first and what ever he desicion she makes its her decision but if something goes wrong and shes hurt just be there for her . like any good friend would do |
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Apr 19 2005, 08:27 PM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
You learn alot of things when events in life don't go your way... I think that it will be the same for her. Let her go through it herself because it's her relationship. Even if you did say anything to her now...she might get angry at you. But you can be there for her if and when the relationship doesn't work out. Note...she'll learn from this that nothing lasts forever. And that rarely any online relationship ever works out.
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Apr 19 2005, 09:24 PM
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 I'll never be who I was again.. Group: Member Posts: 2,886 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 77,981 |
QUOTE(chii @ Apr 19 2005, 2:14 PM) her sister may be exaggerating...most people do that to express their opinion about some things... get her to look at the big picture, does she turly believe in her heart that this will work out and they'll live happily ever after? actually, has she even met him in person before? you can't plan a future with someone you've never met, it's as if you're planning your future with someone who doesn't exist. he doesn't even answer her IMs, is that what she wants in the future? a husband who won't give a sh*t about convering with his wife? ask her things like that...don't attack her though she'll probably get pissed if you do, stay calm when you talk to her about this stuff. I agree.. Try to talk to her and tell her gently that the person could be 10 or 20 years older than her..And you don't want her to get hurt... If that doesn't work then let her go..Sometimes people learn a lot from their mistakes.. |
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Apr 19 2005, 10:00 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,220 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 81,808 |
your friend is crazy.. watch her get killed lol -- im sry but online relationships LIKE THAT is plain stupid
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Apr 19 2005, 10:24 PM
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gRaCiE Group: Member Posts: 350 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 96,997 |
sometimes u just have to let them make their mistakes so they'll realize how stupid they're being. u cant stop her from thinking that he's in love with her. trust me i would know. pple just dont listen to their friends wen they're in love.
but my friend met this guy online who lives like ten minutes away and she's going out with him. she got REALLY lucky. he's a great guy n he's really nice. she knows where he lives n stuff n i think they'll last for a while. he seems great. but then all stories are different. |
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Apr 20 2005, 10:11 AM
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 .bubblicious inspirations. @ www.bubbliciousoul.com Group: Member Posts: 466 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 112,228 |
u're still sooo young.. just have fun.
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Apr 20 2005, 10:15 AM
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Internet relationship`s NEVER work, even if you met them before and spent time together, you cant see them everyday, they meet other people, and it just makes it harder on yourself to let go, they dont work.... period.
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| *XLilAznGrl592X* |
Apr 20 2005, 02:02 PM
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yep i tried to talk with her but she just wouldnt believe me, just told me to back of her relationships... she lives in CA and he lives in Canada? or was it Boston iunno but all i know is he lived far away he might ust be pretending as i said earlier one day im gonna find that guys sn no matter wut... well maybe i wont... we'll just see about that...
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