girls being mean, //* regret Options

[vz_danielle]

ok, in our school.
some girls are always calling others sluts or bitches
or something which are really really rude.
there's a girl sitting beside me,
she is fat.
and u know what those girls said to her?
they said:
' f_ _ k off, fat ass!'
the girl was hurt and she cried for almost half day.
i hate them,
wht cant they be friendly?

just wanna know do u guys have this problem at school?
what should i do? should i stop them
or just leave them alone?
=(

[starlette]

that sounds horrible. Unfortunately there isnt much you can do about. You could try talking to a teacher or councelor...maybe even to the administration, because that behaviur is unacceptable...but all I can say is make sure you arent like them. Some girls have low self esteem and put others down to feel better. they feed off of eachother. just dont get caught up in the way they behvae cuz it makes you no better than them.

[*mzkandi*]

Females can be cruel to each other sometimes. I have seen that type of situation you described all my life. There was even a lifetime film called ODD GIRL OUT, that dealt with the pressure of being an outcast and picked on by your female classmates.But I say if you see that someone is picking on her try to come to her defense or at least if you see her in the halls crying give her some comfort

[yeseulx3]

well...
harassment and bullying is a violation of a school code.
if it really gets to you, tell an adult.
those asses are probably on crack, and have nothing better to do.
you shouldn't let anyone ever affect how you feel about yourself or others.

[wincyyellow]

hmm...im a fat one too
but my classmates are good ones and treat me well...
but i heard i other classes there are problems like that(in chinese)...
i just cant bear people talking to others in this way,but i wont shout back or anything because those people dont deserve any friendly talks...well...see!one day they have to pay for that!

[ryfitaDF]

i usually ignore them. people are only mean when they have problems with themselves. don't let them share their troubles with you.

[twelveislands]

We used to have some but when we went into higher years there wasn't much of that. If you step in and stick up for her or something then you'll probably start getting stuff from them as well. Talk to the person who gets insulted and make her feel more happy or something and tell her that if things get really worse or even now then she should tell someone.

[Litt0_TeeZy]

you can't stop problems unless YOU step up to them...that's what i've learned...if you step up..others will. so i think you should put those buttheads in their places...i hate people like that...we have girls like that, but people don't mess with me kuz they know i'll fight...which isn't good, but yeah.....

[AngelTears]

Havn't you ever heard the quote,

'women could rule the world, except we all hate eachother.'

*shrug* I kinda live by that.. I mean of course we all have friends but there are ALWAYS someone who girls talk about behind there backs, I dont care how nice of a person you are you still think pourly of others.

There isnt anything you can do to help, except be the girls friend, and if they say anything to her, or anyone else tell them off or knock the shit out of them.

I like the last choice better! ^^

[KELLYYY]

Yeah, those girls that are desperate for guys always wanna be cool and call other girls sluts and bitches. Sigh. It happened to me before, just because I was wearing a halter top, they called me a slut, well, probably because they don't own halter tops.

[mouse_3k]

If some girl call me fat, I would just respond back by saying *Id rather be fat then a anorexic B*!tch, go eat a sandwich!*

Idk, I only be mean when I need to or when Im backing myself or my friends up.

[EmmalieV]

Girls are perras ( bitches ) and thats the story.

Even though it was mean.

[*bright eyes*]

Yeah, like most said there is not really much you can do about. Just maybe you could comfort the girl who was being picked on and be her friend.

[..:loveee.NuTTii]

Oh-that's so horrible. If it really gets to you you should stand up fer her. Help and encourage the girl.

[i can break]

Some girls are mean because they are insecure about themselves. I hate when they have to say stuff can be damaging to another person.

[angelrevelation]

if you really want, you should tell them to stop, back off, stop being (err... lol yea you know)'s themselves, etc. (like act on the spur of the moment ) if not, tell the teacher, because no one deserves to be made fun of

[MiLKDUD_DOKiE]

yeah i know how you feel, it sounds silly but tell a teacher and have them explain it to the girls who made fun of her to not laugh at them because what if they were in that situation? having no friends and people making fun of you, it worked out for my class

[iheartjohn]

I was called fat, when I was pregnant. Dumb people.


Anyway, I don't know why, but girls are always evil to each other. They're even worse than guys. They always feel like their in competition, and always feel they have to put others down to feel better about themselves.

*shrug* I guess that's the way it is.

[Shattered_Hope]

Mean girls are everywhere..they're mean because they feel that the other person might be inferior to them...they feel insecure about themselves...or hate that the other person has something they don't..or they just want to take their anger on someone they know would cry if they got picked on.....
The only thing you should do is stand up for the person being picked on...it's the right thing to do.....you might feel better afterwards...

[*stephinika*]

there are people like that everywhere, and yeah its really sad...my school isn't TOO bad but they've been cracking down on bullying and whatnot more, so its not too bad. our school isn't so "loud" about it, its more the "behind-the-back" stuff, which is just as horrible.

[s0pnayish]

Girls are vicious. But luckily, I don't see too much of that at my school. The most I've seen is when people are messing around.

[gOODpIRATE]

when i was younger, girls used to pick on me all the time. i guess they always chose me because i was the quiet friendly one. but anyway, when i told teachers about them they would tell me the only reason they make fun of me was because they had low self-esteem, and by putting weaker people down, they feel much better about themselfs. and which i completly agree.

you can try and comfort the girl that was called names. maybe she needs a new friend, tell her things are going to be alright.

[the_crox]

woah.... that is frickin messed up. But ya know there are girls like that everywhere. I just learn to deal and grind my teeth. *sighs*

[pingpang_0811]

mm... it's not happened at my school usually... they usually talk behind someone's back.
but i think your fd should ignore them, sometimes they bully her as they want to see the feedback, if she give a response like cry in front of them , they will think they succeed and be very powerful in the class.just leave that stupid bitches away ^^" and comfor ur fd.
if this happen continously, talk to a counselor is a good solution. they know how to solve that kind of problem. sometimes talk to teachers can't solve it, they usually send the case to counselor. so, just talk to counselor directly.

btw, wish ur fd become happier.

[kryzcoak47luv666]

Kids can be so cruel, they think its funny, I have so many emotional scars.
You should tell the girl to take a stand for herself, don't let those girls get to her, if she doesn't learn to fend for herself now, people will be walking all over her the rest of her life, maybe you should defend her, but its your choice, she may want a friend, and if you help her, she'll feel a bit more confident and eventually take care of things herself, maybe you can be her stepping stone.
God I hate girls, I hate those types of people, damn it. They are just insecure and get off by making others feel bad, its the only way they can make it through a day and feel better about themselves, they are jealous of something that the girl has.

Sorry for rambling, but its a sensitive topic for me.