should i break up with him?, he's mai first |
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 Apr 14 2005, 07:03 PM
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okay me and mai boyfriend have just hooked up for a week. we're each other's first too. and in the beginning he and i were like holding hands and hugging and stuff. but then after that we nvr do anything. we were good friends too before we hooked up and would talk to each otehr a lot. but now ever since we hooked up, we barely talk to each other. should i break up with him?
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Apr 14 2005, 07:05 PM
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 Day's Nearly Over Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,553 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 45,183 |
... he's your first .. doesn't mean he has to be your last.
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Apr 14 2005, 07:06 PM
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 whaaaaaaat? Group: Member Posts: 2,293 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,660 |
wow. one week, and ur gonna give up?
ur relationships are never gonna last if u don't work at them. |
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Apr 14 2005, 07:14 PM
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 Being happy...is all that matters Group: Member Posts: 765 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 102,284 |
Give him some more time and space...he has to adjust to the fact that he's your bf now instead of just friends...but if you want to break up with him...it's your choice. Do what you think it's right.
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Apr 14 2005, 07:24 PM
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 My name's Katt. Nice to meet you! Group: Member Posts: 3,826 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 93,674 |
It's only been a week. I think that if you guys don't talk to each other, it's not a reason to break up with him. There's a simple solution and that is for you to be assertive and talk to him first. Or invite him over. Do whatever you think is right for yourself. If you feel that you two are better off just friends, tell him. If he hasn't been talking to you, most likely he won't mind. But things probably won't be the same. Just go with the flow. It's not neccesarily breaking up, it's just reconsidering.
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Apr 14 2005, 07:32 PM
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 HAAAAAAAA. Group: Member Posts: 4,472 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,068 |
One week? That's too early hun.
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Apr 14 2005, 07:35 PM
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awww. just hold on fohr a lil while longer and THEN see iff he's an ass : )
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Apr 14 2005, 07:37 PM
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 Litt0 Mi55 T@rA! Group: Member Posts: 185 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 111,734 |
well if you guys were good friends you should be able to talk to him.....it shouldn't change things just because you guys are together now.....it never changed anything with me and my exs....maybe you should talk to him......
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Apr 14 2005, 07:37 PM
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I don't think you should break up with him. I mean c'mon you've only been together for 1 week, and you already wanna break up, and he's your first. Don't break up with him. You guys will get a chance to hang out some. Just give it time, just wait... You'll see. I bet you guys are perfect for eachother. Good Luck! I hope that helped!!!
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Apr 14 2005, 07:38 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,531 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 18,624 |
Give it some time. Try to work things out with him.
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Apr 14 2005, 07:43 PM
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 `non;chalance Group: Member Posts: 700 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 95,113 |
especially being friends before actually "hooking up", it takes a while for things to be normal again since you guys just aren't FRIENDS anymore, you're BOYFRIEND/GIRLFRIEND. girl, give it some time. he's probably just really nervous and scared of what to do since you said, you are each other's firsts. hold it out a little longer and see how things are. if things remain the same, talk to him about it- and see what he thinks. maybe he is thinking the same thing but communication wise, yall cant talk it out. let him know first then decide on whether or not you two could be better off as friends or remain bf/gf. (:
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Apr 14 2005, 08:53 PM
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 *scribble scribble* Group: Member Posts: 1,314 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 119,610 |
talk to him. dont break up yet.
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Apr 14 2005, 08:57 PM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
You should at least try and make it work...
 It's only been one week...give it time...he might just be too busy..or whatever...but if you don't want to try to make your relationship work...I guess you could break up with him...it's not like he's your last... 
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Apr 14 2005, 09:17 PM
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QUOTE(dahding @ Apr 14 2005, 7:06 PM) wow. one week, and ur gonna give up? ur relationships are never gonna last if u don't work at them.  he's right wait it out, he's probably getting used to it, yeah me and my bf (he's my first too) and it was like that in the beginning too, but he got over it, and on sunday we are gonna be a year. Time, and patience helps all relationships. You gotta make it work honey, talk to him, he won't know its a problem if you don't tell him. |
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Apr 14 2005, 09:33 PM
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what! no way its your first this takes time alot of time and your guys are good friends thats a really good foundation to suport your relationship... so just give it alot more time :-D good look
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Apr 14 2005, 09:33 PM
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QUOTE(lilangelgurlpnai @ Apr 14 2005, 7:05 PM) ... he's your first .. doesn't mean he has to be your last. TRUE.. THERES MANY FISHES IN THE SEA... AS IN MANY BOYS OUT THERE IN THE WORLD SO I GUESS YOU SHOULD IF THERES NO 'CHEMESTRY' |
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Apr 14 2005, 10:44 PM
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If it doesn't feel right, don't settle for it.
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Apr 15 2005, 01:15 AM
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 Yawn Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 9,530 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,772 |
QUOTE(dahding @ Apr 14 2005, 7:06 PM) wow. one week, and ur gonna give up? ur relationships are never gonna last if u don't work at them. agreed. You gotta give him more time. It's probably weird for you guys cuz you were such good friends before, and now that you're dating you guys don't know what to say. But don't give up on him after a week, c'mon now. Talk to him about it. That's the best thing. Talk to him about it |
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Apr 15 2005, 01:18 AM
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Who stole my pants Group: Member Posts: 20 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 83,933 |
one weeks kinda short id give it some more time
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Apr 15 2005, 01:29 AM
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AsianUniQ Group: Member Posts: 77 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 50,713 |
Do not break up with him because hes too quiet. iF YOU DO Bbreak up with him, things arent gona be the same either. bcuz freindship arent the same after a relationship. confused? let me clear it up.
first off, it is a totally natural process to be quiet at first. Think about the first time you met him b4 yall became freinds. Thins were quiet then. Its the same concept when you both are goign out, becasue ur beginning something new and you will soon learn alot more about him that you culdnt when you were just freinds. Like everyone says, give it time. I guess the reason why things are quiet and you didn like it is because when you were freinds, you can pretty much tell him everything. You could even tell him your guy problems?? But then, he became your bf, wut if you have a guy problem with him, you surely couoldnt talk to him about ur guyproblems wen hes ur bf right??? thats how weird it gets. I guess when you are in a relationship, maters of issues arent about you anymore, its about *us*. Thats teh beauty of being in a relationship. Thigns are quieter because you both became emotional and so honest that you cant tell each other how u really feel as freinds.....but you show how u feel with the touch of his hands or when he holds you........verbal context is now transfered into physical contacts............i hope you understand, its a beautiful thing to expereince, nothin to worry about |
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Apr 15 2005, 02:10 AM
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well if your not willing to put any effort to recover the relationship then it doesnt seem like it worth it
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Apr 15 2005, 02:16 AM
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 I'll never be who I was again.. Group: Member Posts: 2,886 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 77,981 |
sheesh..one week and ur giving up?whats the use of being in that relationship if u r going to give up without knowing them well?
give him time...and make the effort to talk to him..good luck! |
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Apr 15 2005, 07:34 PM
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 yeah, whatever.... Group: Member Posts: 125 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 126,628 |
Maybe he just wants things to slow down a little, or maybe he just wants some space.
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Apr 15 2005, 08:20 PM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
dont' give up, it's only a week. maybe you should make the first move.
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Apr 15 2005, 08:22 PM
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QUOTE(lilangelgurlpnai @ Apr 14 2005, 7:05 PM) ... he's your first .. doesn't mean he has to be your last. SO TRUE. But you also have to look at the fact that you guys have only been together for a week. Give it a little more time and if it doesnt feel right then get out of the relationship. |
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