just another problem., hope you can solve this one. Options

[extravaganzahh_]

sorry if this is too long.
so two years ago during the SARS (im from hongkong) schools had a really long holiday bcuz of the virus. nobody had nethg to do and so all kids from my estate went down to the podium garden downstairs to play evryday. and theres this girl gang and a boy gang - and ofcz im in the girl gang. and the two gangs are enemies. i never told anyone but i fell in love wif this guy in the boy gang. we both lived on the first floor (tho in diff blocks) and i culd see his home from my window.
May came and the holiday ended. the kids still went down to play some of the time. two months later summer hols started, and the atmosphere resumed. but the boys gang started to hurt the girls physically, like tripping them on purpose while they were on rollerskates and spraining their ankles and blerh. and so me and my frds got the phone numb of the guy i like (XXX) and we phoned him and asked for peace. and it worked.
for a while the girls gang hung out downstairs wif XXX evryday. i used to b on the phone wif him all day. it was rly sweet. on the bad side, the other guys didnt know that the girls gang and XXX were alredi friends. so evrytime the other guys came down aswell (which was little), XXX always ignored the girls.
september came and evrybody went back to school agen. we still went down to play weekly. but when november came, XXX moved away all of a sudden - without telling anyone or nethg. he still came back to play once evry two weeks for the next few months but then the visits stopped. i was really surprised when he came back on valentines and on his birthday.
a few days bfore his birthday, i talked to him on msn. he forced me to tell him who i like. and i told him. he didnt have any reaction tho. so a few days after his bday, i told him that i was only playing on him. big mistake. he has been hating me ever since. he ran away from me evrytime he saw me - the visits were alredi very rare. when my friends asked him why, he wouldnt tell.
i guess i knew why. perhaps he rly did like me - i was only too stupid to notice. perhaps he was too shy to say nethg when i told him that i liked him. perhaps i rly hurt him when i told him that i was playing on him.
this february, he immigrated to shanghai. i sent him an email telling him evrythg. he unblocked me then. when i asked him agen, he said that he only hated me a little bit.
he blocked me agen these few days tho.
so i guess i rly hafta ask for advice.
i screwed evrythg up.
i dont know if theres any way out.
and please dont say forget him or blah. ive tried. for a year. no work.
and btw. im now having another crush on a guy who lives on 2ndfloor. he's really tall and he plays wif my bestfriends lil bro. problem is my bestfriend is hafing a crush on him too. and he just cant give me the feeling that XXX gave me.

im so confused.
boys.

[bravodancer04]

With your little XX things..it`s really annoying, and it`s too long to read..

[twelveislands]

You may not forget him but you can get over him. Maybe you have screwed it up by sayin that you was just playing and therefore you lyed so he may not trust you again since it took you so long to confess that you wasn't really lying. Meh, I dunno really.

[KELLYYY]

The XXX things make your post harder to read.

[_sarcastic_]

apologize to XXX, i mean you did say the wrong thing, you shouldn't have told him you were playing if you really meant it. you could've hurt his feelings. try and get over him.

[baller30]

this i really Romeo and Juliet-ish.

you really shouldn't lie about your feelings. tell people the truth if you are going to tell them at all. maybe the guy before liked you back and felt hurt when you said you lied about liking him that way. Don't ever play with people's feelings. people will start to distrust you and they won't believe you when you tell the truth.

and of course you will never forget this guy. he was really important to you and still kind of is. try to apologize to him, but i warn you the relationship will never be the same after that.

[Shattered_Hope]

I think you should move on....you shouldn't have feelings for two people at the same time..and since it's not really a sure thing between the two of you anyway...and he has a tendency to get mad at you..You probably don't know him that well for him to give you the same feeling that XXX gave you....Give it time.
Oh...and that is long...and for future reference...can you like try putting names in there instead of XXX?

[aera]

apologize and tell him everything. give him a complete explaination like the one you just gave us.

[this_is_life]

wow that was long. ummm MAYBE ull get over him eventually... might take a while though... trust me im trying too lol um yeah and uhhh ABOUT THE NEW GUY... does your friend know that you like him too? if she doesnt... then tell her cause yeah.. my and my friends liked the same guy lots of times but all of us were too shy to ask him out and stuff and then we all got over him after he got a gf. u know, you should ask your friend if its okay with you asking him out and then ask him out, u never know he might say yes, and if he says no (he wont) then u can have a BIG CARTON OF ICE CREAM, my treat, umm... ill try to get it over there

[starlette]

umm...number one...get out of a stupid gang. Thats freakin rediculous. And 2...he sounds immature, so get over it. hes gone, and he wont even tell you how he feels, so move on.

[kryzcoak47luv666]

umm...number one...get out of a stupid gang.  Thats freakin rediculous.  And 2...he sounds immature, so get over it.  hes gone, and he wont even tell you how he feels, so move on.

agreed!

this i really Romeo and Juliet-ish.

you really shouldn't lie about your feelings. tell people the truth if you are going to tell them at all. maybe the guy before liked you back and felt hurt when you said you lied about liking him that way. Don't ever play with people's feelings. people will start to distrust you and they won't believe you when you tell the truth.

and of course you will never forget this guy. he was really important to you and still kind of is. try to apologize to him, but i warn you the relationship will never be the same after that.

*hope I copied that right*
well yeah also agreed!

[angelrevelation]

umm... gangs??

well err... immigrated to shanghai? wouldnt that just be called moving...?

just try to talk to him. confess that you lied about the playing thing, apologize, etc... maybe he'll come around eventually. if not, i guess you can just move on and you might forget all about him. love dies hard.

[extravaganzahh_]

wow that was long. ummm MAYBE ull get over him eventually... might take a while though... trust me im trying too lol um yeah and uhhh ABOUT THE NEW GUY... does your friend know that you like him too? if she doesnt... then tell her cause yeah.. my and my friends liked the same guy lots of times but all of us were too shy to ask him out and stuff and then we all got over him after he got a gf. u know, you should ask your friend if its okay with you asking him out and then ask him out, u never know he might say yes, and if he says no (he wont) then u can have  a BIG CARTON OF ICE CREAM, my treat, umm... ill try to get it over there

hehe the problem is. my best fwd knows and she told me that its fine if i do go out wif him but i know that deep inside he cares. she deserves him more than i do. she loves him so much.
and the problem is. we dont even know wt his name or even his age is. so its all screwed.
hehe thanks for the ice cream thing tho ^^

[extravaganzahh_]

haha i know that i screwed evrythg up... its a huge mess is it?
but i alredi sent him a long email explaining evrythg the day bfore he left. and he's still hating me a bit.
i was alredi rly relieved that he was willing to unblock me and talk to me.
but he blocked me agen.

i rly dont get him.

[cHuNsAbAbIe012]

well i would say...either get over him or explain to him y u told him u were playing him wen u really werent. n if u already did that then...tell him how u feel about him. tell him the truth n dont make up stuff to make it look like the truth was a lie this time.

[extravaganzahh_]

i just dont think he wuld trust me nemore...

damn im so scrude

[AsianUniQ]

wait..ur asking for an immediate advice, but ur already having a crush on someone else? well that makes this post useless.

anywyas, maybe you should tell XXX that you lied about lying? Even though you cant be with him. He's in another country. You can at least get his freindship back. Thats all you can have. Freinds is better than nothing. A guy tells you one thing, but means it more frm the heart. You really did hurt him. You will have to try very hard to to win his trust and get him back. Try using your freind's email, but dont let him know that you are you.......

[yukichan]

hmm...maybe u should give up..that doesnt mean u have to forget him...but then if u have a crush on someone else whats the point of this post?
and please dont double post...if u have something to say, edit ur post..thanx..

[misoshiru]

apologize and get out of the gang. and, maybe you should think of moving on. afterall, he's in shanghai.

[pinayprincess]

DUDE THIS IS SO LONG! .. I DIDNT FINISH....