thinking she doesnt care.., about me Options

[SpedMonkee]

ive been going out with this girl for about 2 months now. it seemed like everythingw as going well, then all of sudden everything started going bad.. we would keep this notebook and write to each other then give it to the other in between classes.. then all of a sudden she stopped writing in it..since then she has sort of drawn herself away a little...i only see her in between classes now..

it seems like she is using me alot too..it seems like im her scape goat for anything. when she is out where she isnt supposed to be she tells her parents that she is out with me, when of course she isnt.. and she got some money and bought herself an ipod shuffle, but didnt want her parents to find out how she got the money(nothing illegal or bad to get it), so she told them that i bought it for her..

she never calls anymore, i cant call her because im never sure if she is telling her parents she is with me at the time or what, i barely see her.. and the weird thing is that before we started going out i would ALWAYS see her on the train afterschool..but all of sudden when we start going out she decides to take the bus all the time after school...
i dont think has anything to do with it but in all the time we have been going out we havnt made out or even french kissed once...everytime we are in her room and im about to make a move she always does something stupid like play cards, play her piano, or look through her photo album (ive seen it 7 fking times now!!).

i dont know whats going on really...
even if no one responds to this or has anything helpful to say it was still good to get what i had to say out..

(and yes i plan on talking to her about it if this keeps up)

[whyohsokind443]

break up with her her.
its obvious she doesnt care about you.

[UrF4vL!pGl0Z...]

good, talk to her! and then, if she has no valid explanation and goes breakkkkk up with her. You'll feel better once out of that relationship.

[SpedMonkee]

but im feeling the same way i was when i wasnt in a relationship as i am now.. and i only think it will be worse if i were to break up with her... plus she is my first girlfriend and i dont know if i would be able to put up with being alone again...

[Ington]

Dude, this is my view. Your relationship was a good thing, and eventually all good things have to end. Sorry man, just let her go.

[twelveislands]

Talk to her. If she doesn't have a good explanation (which I doubt she has) then break up with her. It's better to be alone then to be with someone who doesn't care for you.. or does but not in the same way as you care about them. As you said, she's your first girlfriend, you'll get another one and she'll probably be more 'girlfriendish' then this one is.

[Shattered_Hope]

If she doesn't care..and you are aware of it....why are you still with her? It's obvious you need to end the relationship...or she'll just continue using you..

[silver-rain]

Yeah, talk to her first. But if she has no good explanation, break up with her. Like everyone's said, you'll get another girlfriend, who will care for you as much as you would care for her. Don't be stuck in a relationship that's going nowhere.

[SpedMonkee]

the only thing that she might even give me a reply to would be about the notebook..everything else would be the same thing that she said above..i dont even know how to bring it up to her... hell its even hard to write all of this stuff... i dont know how i would get through even talking to her firectly about it

[xBEBE]

break up with her cause it really does sound like she's using you

[Chii]

whoa, what is your problem? maybe she doesn't want you to be all over her, stop thinking about yourself for a change she would probably like your relationship to be more meaningful, instead of making out and whatnot all the time, it's nice that she shares her photos with you, she's showing you her life. playing cards is how she wants to have fun with you and when she plays her piano she wants to impress you

with the school thing...
maybe she wants to do better, some people don't have time to write in a notebook (which by the way is a girl's thing). it's not even a serious thing about how she's "using" you. is it that bad that her parents believe that you bought her something instead of nothing like a cheap bastard?

maybe you're not ready for a meaningful relationship, so do her a favor and break up, then you can go look for some girl who'll let you put your hands all over her

[LiL_LDY]

WELL .. LIKE EVERYONE HAS BEEN SAYING, YOU SHOULD DEFINATELY TALK TO HER ABOUT HOW YOU`RE FEELING. SHE SHOULD HAVE A REASONABLE ANSWER .. MAYBE SHE NEEDS HER SPACE .. `CAUSE EVERY GOOD COUPLE HAS THEIR OWN SPACE. IF THAT IS WHAT SHE NEEDS, YOU GOTTA RESPECT THAT. RELATIONSHIPS AREN`T ALWAYS ABOUT MAKING OUT & THAT JAZZ .. ITS MORE THAN JUST THAT ..

[WrathOfOnigo]

You poor boy please break up with her. She seems like a horrible person to just start doing that and not confront you.
But Lil_LDY does make a point. She might just need her space.

[liloandstitchx3]

Dude, this is my view. Your relationship was a good thing, and eventually all good things have to end. Sorry man, just let her go.

*nods*

[xlaydee_v]

what a piece of shiet =x lols.. what a nice girlfriend.. maybe she's..shy? it's possible. but yeah.. talk to her. IMMEDIATELY. tell her if she doesn't like you anymore, she should tell you, cause then it would hurt more..

[extravaganzahh_]

boy shes using you. get out quick. you dont deserve this crappe go get a nicer girl.

and i cant believe you two hafnt madeout / frenchkissed once. for two months.

[mouse_3k]

dont be to pressed and obsessive. Its a real turnoff. She probably just wants her space.

[lilshelil]

Well, shes not exactly using you if she told her parents that you got her the ipod shuffle. Maybe shes the kinda girl that takes it slow or was she really loving/caring before? Not calling you is completely wrong. She might be waiting for your call. Did she tell you that you can't call when her parents are home?

Talk to her about it if you wanna save the realtionship
If not, then just break up w. her nice and clean before she does it to you.

[megan_x3]

its obviously that she was using you to get what she wants. and also, you gotta explain to her and telll her everything.. and how you feel . =D

[FiLapanese]

well yeah ok she might be usein you and all...OR she is just tryin to tell you that she is not ready to take it that far...or maybe she is tryin to let you down real slow...cuz she doesn't want to hurt you...but my guess is that she might "like" you but after going out with you for a while..she might like you as a friend and not a bf..but not to sure just talk to her...in person it's always better...

[illuminessence]

You definitely need to end it with her. She doesn't appreciate you nor does she seem to want your attention. She's using you buddy. She's not worthy.

[xlovenyoux]

talk to her NOW, dont wait because time will only hurt you. she may have her reasons why shes acting this way and she may not, its up to you to find out. just dont hold back and tell her how you feel and make her speak the truth. if she cant, then you have to leave her. dont let her back into your heart until she can speak the truth to you.

[KELLYYY]

Break up with her. She's using you.

[Chii]

it's funny that so many people don't really read into the story and say she's using him

[aera]

ask her why shes doing this and if you dont think the reasons good enough, then break up with her. another thing- try calling her. if shes not home and her parents say shes with you, her parents will know something's up. she could be doing stuff shes not supposed to be doing.