Gah! Perverts!!, i need help. =[ |
 Apr 4 2005, 02:54 PM
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yerp!  Group: Member Posts: 3,489 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 66,454  |
Okay, I'm sure most of you know that I have a four year old daughter, Geena.
Well, she has a best friend named Lindsay, and I don't mind her, but it's Lindsay's parents. Every time I set up a playdate for my daughter and Lindsay, I have to see her dad (Lindsay's mom works most of the day). He's okay sometimes, but lately he's gotten really perverted and I feel REALLY uncomfortable around him. He makes uncomfortable remarks about my body, tries to touch me, etc. One time I bent down to get Geena's toy and he tugged at my underwear and complimented me on it!  I've tried to talk to him many times about it, but he just ignores me. And I don't want to tell Lindsay's mom because she already dislikes me. (I overheard her call me a 'skank' because I had Geena at such a young age.) But I don't want to make Geena stop hanging out with Lindsay, since she has such a great time with her, just because of me. I'm not really sure what to do. 
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Apr 4 2005, 08:25 PM
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 o.x Group: Member Posts: 89 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 78,026 |
Sue for sexual harassment, tell him no when he's doing it. Embaress him in front of his daughter, make him think your ugly, etc.
Just make him think of you as unattractive and glamourize his wife in casual conversation. Make him feel guilty for not loving her more? |
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Apr 4 2005, 08:28 PM
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QUOTE([f]eleeza @ Apr 4 2005, 2:44 PM) If only I could do that...  of course you can do that. If there is a will, there is a way. 
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Apr 4 2005, 08:39 PM
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 rwar (; Group: Member Posts: 590 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,308 |
.. im not sure what to say. i wish i could help >T
QUOTE 1. be very nice and kind to her mom. 2. change her thoughts about you 3. if she start trusting you, tell her that her husband is doing something wrong ( a form of cheating ) 4. she will no longer be his husband 5. your daughter will still contact her daughter 6. the end ! you just got rid of the little girl's daddy =] ^ that could be great advice except if i were you, i wouldnt try to make the wife & husband to divorce. think of the impact on Lindsay? ive seen too many children with family problems [divorces, parent died, etc] & when they grew up [like in fourth grade] they start stealing things from other kids, not doing their homework, bad temper, attitude problems, etc. all sorts of things. its kinda scary. So if i were you, i wouldnt try to make them divorce cause the outcome for Lindsay wouldn`t be too great >T good luck ! 
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Apr 4 2005, 09:06 PM
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 sunshiine Group: Member Posts: 1,080 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,360 |
maybe you should get all the needed numbers to press charges and then the next time he does it.. i guess you probably need evidence so .. gather evidence press charges put him in jail. but then again.. maybe his wife might hate you for it.. so maybe you should talk to his wife. maybe things would go better?
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Apr 4 2005, 09:13 PM
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rape : Abusive or improper treatment
lets jump him |
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Apr 4 2005, 09:14 PM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
talk to him about it, be firm. if he still ignores you then slap him and make him listen
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Apr 4 2005, 09:17 PM
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QUOTE(ficklenesswhatever @ Apr 4 2005, 9:25 PM) Sue for sexual harassment, tell him no when he's doing it. Embaress him in front of his daughter, make him think your ugly, etc. Just make him think of you as unattractive and glamourize his wife in casual conversation. Make him feel guilty for not loving her more? Oh, that's a great idea. Yeha, it's sorta sexual harassment. yeah.. that happened to me. my crush made himself look reaaally idiotic and bad so i dislike him now. So.. just probably make your hair messed up and look like crap one day.. ignore what the wife thinks about you at all times.. and just concentrate on making yourself look like an idiot, but not a mental one. hope it works out. WHAT A BAD DADDY. |
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Apr 4 2005, 09:28 PM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
Tell him you'll press charges if he keeps it up...
tell him you aren't interested and that you don't care what he thinks about your body.. or....just deck him or slap him....maybe that'll stop him from ignoring you....when you say something he doesn't want to hear... 
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Apr 4 2005, 09:34 PM
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QUOTE(aznxboredxperson @ Apr 5 2005, 7:12 AM) 1. be very nice and kind to her mom. 2. change her thoughts about you 3. if she start trusting you, tell her that her husband is doing something wrong ( a form of cheating ) 4. she will no longer be his husband 5. your daughter will still contact her daughter 6. the end ! you just got rid of the little girl's daddy =] OR BRING A PEPPER SPRAY W/ YOU AND A HANDFUL OF KEYS TO SMACK HIM. ddaaaannnnggg you take my advice... but you can be nice to her... if some one is continualy nice to you you begin to like them... |
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Apr 4 2005, 09:38 PM
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hmm...well reporting him would end yur daughter nd his daughters friendship...but if yu dont something bad might happen...mayb yu should get a friend thats free that day to come over too? i dont know this is the best i could come up with
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Apr 4 2005, 09:39 PM
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 Hi! I'm Dani :) Group: Member Posts: 5,637 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,369 |
well i guess for now, u just gotta try to ignore it. if it goes too far then i think u should tell the mom
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Apr 4 2005, 09:44 PM
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if u REALLY don't wanna talk to his wife, call the cops. that's prolly the best thing to do
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Apr 5 2005, 12:06 AM
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^ too drastic. i mean really, what would the police do? -.-
i say to tell your husband, maybe he can go with you next time, or he can go himself. |
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Apr 5 2005, 12:14 AM
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just dont stand really close to him or something,or just ignore him.if that doesnt work then find your daughter another friend,i mean shes only 4.she'll get over it.thats just my advice.
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Apr 5 2005, 12:19 AM
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 HAAAAAAAA. Group: Member Posts: 4,472 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,068 |
Wear a thong and bend over the next time you see him, lets see what he says this time.
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Apr 5 2005, 12:28 AM
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 hi, my name is brianna! =] Group: Official Member Posts: 5,764 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 22,114 |
Even though Lindsay's mom may hate you, I think you should still talk to her about it, it is her husband..
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Apr 5 2005, 12:43 AM
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QUOTE(aznxdreamer @ Apr 4 2005, 6:20 PM) kill him. i mean..did i just let that slip?? call the police. its sexual harrasment. he could go to jail for that. so poo on him. BAHAHAH. stupid pervs. I say kill him with the underwear he tugged on! Use it to wring his neck!!  Just kick him in the balls. Hard...REALLY HARD. He'll get the message after he wakes up in the hospital after he finds that he was castrated. |
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Apr 5 2005, 06:33 AM
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 .:gossipgirl:. Group: Member Posts: 156 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 111,300 |
o....he's so terrible
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Apr 5 2005, 02:06 PM
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yerp! Group: Member Posts: 3,489 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 66,454 |
QUOTE(im_s0_sp0ngey @ Apr 5 2005, 12:19 AM) Wear a thong and bend over the next time you see him, lets see what he says this time. Haha that's what I was wearing. |
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Apr 5 2005, 02:23 PM
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Tell the guy that if he harasses you again, you'll tell his wife. And if the wife doesn't believe you, then just press charges.
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Apr 5 2005, 03:15 PM
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 Im as fake as a widow's smile ;) Group: Member Posts: 1,045 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 97,851 |
Oooh..that really is a bad situation..IDK I might tell the wife, but maybe I wouldn`t..idk..im sorry
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Apr 6 2005, 08:46 PM
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 Nobody Knows Your Heart. Group: Member Posts: 388 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 34,906 |
i was was thinking like bring a guy with you next time but i mean, you can't always bring a guy with you. i also thought about a hidden camera but those things may cost alot.
speak up to him. and yell; embarasse him in public. well, unless your daughter is with you.. which most of the time she is .. i'm sorry; i'm not much help. |
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Jun 5 2005, 02:32 PM
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 jiyOunnn~ Group: Member Posts: 692 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 109,706 |
you should tell the guy to back off. seriously.. i mean it's so wrong..
 and for lindsay's mom you should talk to her because she's jsut assuming things about you.
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Jun 5 2005, 06:23 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,098 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 143,687 |
woah thats dispicable i hate people like that, well try having sleepovers at your house once a week so you wont have to deal with her father and his bitchy wife, and try avoiding talking to lindsays parents other than about your kids... If it was me I wouldnt want my daughter around that guy i dont know perverted dads give me the creeps....Good Luck
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Jun 5 2005, 06:37 PM
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 i <3 peter Group: Member Posts: 350 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 147,825 |
Next time, bring a guy friend with you. And never go over alone, either, always bring someone so that he won't harass you. And if he still does, you can press charges with a witness.
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