In love????, >.< I doubt it. |
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 Mar 13 2005, 07:22 PM
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 Soft drinks are my high  Group: Member Posts: 157 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 34,149  |
My best friend just sent me an e-mail saying how she thinks she's in love because she keeps thinking about him (the word 'him' is bolded & in italics which is really annoying), misses him over the weekend, blah, blah, blah. She ends this letter asking me what I think. I said I think it's just hormones, but you never know. Now all of a sudden she's angry at me. She says I'm clueless.
    So my questions for you people are: a)Is she really in love? b)What did I do? c)Am I really that clueless? Help me! She's not really a bad friend...she's just kind of caught up. |
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Mar 13 2005, 07:30 PM
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 my pet rock doesn't like you Group: Member Posts: 258 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 4,866 |
How old is she? I doubt shes in love - but you never know. Some people believe in love at first sight. The other day I met this guy at my school and for some reason I wrote that I was going to marry him in my diary. I didn't even know where that came from because I don't even know him. Anyway, she probably wants to have someone to talk to because she's confused about how she really feels and thinks that if you support her, she'll feel less confused. Just be a good listener even if you don't agree with what she says or feels and she'll probably change her mind on her own through expressing how she really feels.
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Mar 13 2005, 07:47 PM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
a. if she was in love then it wouldn't be "think". It'd be "know"..I also doubt she is in love.
b. you didn't do anything wrong except tell her your honest opinion....to tell you the truth...you just kinda ruined her infatuation. She thought you would support her..and in the end you just totally went against her judgement or in other words theory that she's "in love" with this guy... c. No, I don't think you're clueless. You just said something that was truthful and unfortunately for you...she wasn't waiting to hear you say the truth..she just wanted to hear you agree with her that she's "in love". She called you clueless probably because she thinks she's right and you're wrong to not know the obvious signs of love from her point of view. |
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Mar 13 2005, 07:50 PM
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 i've never wanted anything rationale. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 8,449 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 19,045 |
if she was really in love, she wouldn't second guess herself and ask you
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Mar 13 2005, 07:50 PM
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 uoyevoli Group: Member Posts: 177 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 81,430 |
of course you didnt do anything wrong. she asked for your opinion, and you gave it. she has to deal with what YOU think. just cuz shes thinking about him and misses him (lol) doesnt nessecarily (sp??) mean shes in love...
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Mar 13 2005, 07:58 PM
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 Serious As A Heart Attack. Group: Member Posts: 2,292 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,344 |
no one can say whether or not she is in love because no one knows what she is feeling. Yeah, maybe shes young, but that doesnt mean that shes not in love. Love doesnt come with an age. Love is a feeling that one or two people feel about another. Maybe she loves him as much as a girl her age could love. I know I am in love. Yeah I am 18 years old and maybe i dont know what "TRUE" love is yet, but I know that the feelings i have for my boyfriend are feelings that i have never felt before and it is the most wonderful feeling in the world. Thats what I think love is at this very moment because like i said, I am 18 years old, and I never have felt this way before, so as much as an 18 year old girl can love, I love him. Maybe she feels the same way about him.
You didnt do anything wrong tho. You told her what you thought and you were honest about it. If she was gonna get upset because she didnt hear what she wanted to hear, then she shouldnt have asked. And no, you arent clueless. You just have a different opinion than her. |
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Mar 13 2005, 08:13 PM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
i agree with xxcrazyjewxx i mean if she is in love, then why would she be asking you
i don't think she is |
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Mar 13 2005, 08:27 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 499 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 109,961 |
I think that you shouldn't have said nething to her you have juss been like okae...and then she could experience on her own if it is real love or not...cause if she won't listen now...you can make a reference in the future!!!...if she tells yu diff not to speak your mind...cause yu tried to help her...juss apologize and let everything go back to normal..and then yu can say I told you soOo...
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Mar 13 2005, 08:36 PM
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 when we speak, we breathe Group: Member Posts: 1,635 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 91,760 |
Like someone says, she wants your opinion on the guy. Friends are usually skeptical about guys unless they get the "go" from their friends.
Be respectful of her feelings, you are not her, and you cannot tell her if she is in love, etc. You can tell her that you think it might not be worth it, but you can't say that she's not in love, you don't know her exact feelings. You can never know what she can only tell you in words. She honestly might be in love, BUT it could be just that she's really starting to let herself like him alot, and that could leave to love, you never know, you can experience love at an early age. |
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Mar 13 2005, 10:48 PM
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 boo Group: Member Posts: 5,512 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 71,765 |
QUOTE(xxcrazyjewxx @ Mar 13 2005, 7:50 PM) if she was really in love, she wouldn't second guess herself and ask you  Agreed. I think your friend has a little crush, nothing more. And no, you're not clueless. You're just voicing your opinion. |
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Mar 13 2005, 10:51 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,220 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 81,808 |
lol it sound lyk my lil sis nd her lil bf haha they say they're in luv but they rele dnt do nything ''luv'' lyk.. well it kina depends ..do u kno if they r serious bout their relationship? i dought it though
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Mar 13 2005, 11:26 PM
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 rwar (; Group: Member Posts: 590 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,308 |
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QUOTE if she was really in love, she wouldn't second guess herself and ask you exactly. ^ b) you didnt really do anything. even though you couldve broken it to her a bit nicer, its still the truth. she "cant handle the truth". c) i think she used the wrong word. cause clueless has nothing to do with this. |
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Mar 14 2005, 08:37 AM
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 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
^^ exactly. you were just honest with her. she'll get over it.
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Mar 14 2005, 02:27 PM
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 whaaaaaaat? Group: Member Posts: 2,293 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,660 |
u don't question love. u either know it, or u don't. that simple.
"oh, but i'm not sure, i love blah blah about him, but it's all so unclear." pfft. stop lusting already. |
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Mar 14 2005, 02:58 PM
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 <3 Deanna Leigh Irene <3 Group: Member Posts: 136 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 111,326 |
QUOTE(xxcrazyjewxx @ Mar 13 2005, 8:50 PM) if she was really in love, she wouldn't second guess herself and ask you I agree with her. She would just tell you she's in love...I think
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Mar 15 2005, 12:37 AM
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when we speak, we breathe Group: Member Posts: 1,635 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 91,760 |
Honostly, you are allowed to question whether you're in love or not. If a friend asks you if she might be in love, she's looking for your respect, opinion, and of course her approval.
It doesn't mean she might not love him. I've done that before; If I ever felt in love with someone, I'd go to my best friend for approval, and she'd always give me her side of everything, which would help my mind. Most of the times, she'd show me the wrongs I wasn't seeing because of the fact that I was most likely in love. 90% of the time, [best] friends are right about certain guys. At least, my best friend is. |
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Mar 15 2005, 02:37 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 889 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 42,392 |
she has gotta realize ur being a REAL friend...n not jus tellin her wha she wants to heear....
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Mar 15 2005, 06:16 AM
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 go go power rangers<3 Group: Member Posts: 321 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 76,457 |
She really shouldn't have asked you if she didn't want a certain response. If she was in love, she'd know it. She's mad at you for a stupid reason, you did nothing wrong.
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Mar 15 2005, 03:37 PM
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when we speak, we breathe Group: Member Posts: 1,635 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 91,760 |
You guys are really naive. The girl wanted her friend to accept the guy; friends look for acception within each other, she wanted her friend's support, and obviously got none, so she's upset.
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Mar 15 2005, 04:57 PM
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 `non;chalance Group: Member Posts: 700 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 95,113 |
QUOTE(xxcrazyjewxx @ Mar 13 2005, 7:50 PM) if she was really in love, she wouldn't second guess herself and ask you totally agree! and no, you're not a bad friend. first of all- i think she may be deeply infatuated with him. to me, it seems as if she is just.. in love with love. do you get me? maybe she hasnt felt this way about someone for a while now. |
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Mar 15 2005, 06:06 PM
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 dripping destruction Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 7,282 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,929 |
best go along with the hormone induced infatuation and say it's love.
it's not love, but unless she's going to do something because she thinks it's love, it's not really hurting her to let her think it's love. |
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Mar 15 2005, 06:10 PM
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 RAWR. Group: Member Posts: 2,585 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 102,641 |
wow. Well depending on her age she very well could be, but it sounds like enfatuation to me. I mean, I've wondered whather I'm in love before, but a lot of girls just like the attnetion, and the way they feel. Many girls have a habit of isolating their friends just to be with this guy so he wont stop loving her. Its crazy. So I would say theres no way for you, or any of us to tell, but love is more than an I miss him kinda thing. It runs deep. When you are in love with someone, you miss them, but in essence they are always with you. So I would say ur friend just prolly needs to grow up, and most likely will get over it soon anyway. I thought I was in love in elementary school, but I wasnt. So yeah. :D
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Mar 15 2005, 07:27 PM
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 Seien Sie bitte mein Geliebter! Group: Member Posts: 660 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 43,436 |
1. She asked you what you thought. It's wrong of her to be mad at you for giving her your opinion.
2. She's most likely mad because you "rained on her parade". She was all excited and thought she had something special and you were the one to burst her bubble. |
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