My daughter... Options

[Looow]

He does have the right to see her.
But who knows..
Uh. Restraining order or supervised visiting.
That's all I can say

[DanielleMaria05]

I would say talk to the cops, and even, go to court about it. If hes abusive, he should have no rights to her, even if he doesn't hurt her (yet) and even if he is her father. TOO BAD! Yeah, I hope you get him away from her.

[5ayuri]

yea she is really cute
well i dont think you should leave her alone with her dad because some people run away with their children when they are having problems like that (not trying to scare you)
also its not tight that he is hittiing you tell the police

[Animelover113]

I think you should let your daughter see her father because she's never going to know about him and it'll be a big mystery to her.....that exact same thing happened to me....only, a little different. (dont wanna talk about it...sorry) but anyway, i think you should let your daughter have the opportunity to see her father because, even though maybe you dont want your daughter to see her father, i think maybe deep inside her heart, she really wants to see who her father is.....i hope this can help you in any way.....i'm so sorry for what has happened to you...

P/s-your daughter is very beautiful! she is very pretty!

[angel-roh]

Hm, how about this. In the future, your daughter will not know who her own father is and she will probably get very upset about it. I mean I know few friends who grow up and founds out that their father who is living with them is not their real father. Their real father broken up with their mother. So not to disappoint your daughter. I think it's okay to share her to your boyfriend. But Um just a warning sign. These days I hear that girl's boyfriends wants to see their daughters/sons so they can seduce/masturbates/rape them... if your boyfriend had an anger management problem or he always had an abusive problems...he could be one of them.

[pixiedust309]

He may have a right to see her because shes his daughter too, but it doesnt mean its right to let him see her. If he beats you then your right to believe that he may beat Geena. If he wants to see her and will try and do anything to make that possible you could report him to the police or something. To ensure he wont hurt you or Geena. hope this helps.

[LiPsTiCk_KiSsEs]

scince he is her father he has the right to see her but maybe u could talk to like a child services and try and see if you can arrange a person to watch him while he is with her.. ihope everything works out! BTW your daughter is sooo cute

[nevernothere]

I think he should be allowed to see her. I don't think you really need to worry about her safety with him... 'cause she's half him. You could threaten him that if he hits you, he doesn't get visitation rights anymore.

[starlette]

I say you should possibly get legal intervention. I admire that you want safety for you and your daughter. You are very strong for being able to leave him. My mother went through the same thing, and I lived my entire life without my father. Because she didnt want him to turn and beat me later. So I suggest that if he does want to see her, you should get a shaperone. Someone to keep you safe and your daughter safe. because a man that hits is not safe. And if you have to call the police or something, do what you gotta do. But dont risk you and ur baby girls safety. It may be hard, but you need to make it clear that if he wants to hit you, he wont see that little girl. She doesnt need to be raised in that kind of environment, and if he really wants whats best for you, hell keep his damn hands to himself. I really wish you the best of luck. you are so beautiful. You do not deserve to be trated that way. good luck. hope everything works out.

[aznxdreamer]

you had your baby when you were 13?? 14?? somewher around there..wow.

he has the right to see his daughter. but if you really dont want him to be around her, then take it to court.

[ItzOnlySydney]

i think he has a right to see his daughter BUT only w/ supervision from a responsible and stable adult

[shortiiex]

he has the right but i don't think he should see his daughter....you need to keep her away from him....what makes him deserve to see his daughter?

[tarachangsays]

honestly..him being the father and all. he has full rights to see his daughter, but since you don't trust him..maybe you guys should go to court and give him supervised visitation rights. he's her father..later on you don't want your daughter to try and find him and something bad happen..i think it's best she knows who he is and she makes her own choice. pikimoo is right. children are much smarter then we give them credit for. i hope this helps.

[iwalkbackwards]

You should definatly let him see her, but maybe you shouldn't see him. Maybe you should have someone take her to him, or have someone you trust that knows him come get her. And try not to talk to him on the phone. Maybe, talk to him over the internet, or letters, any way that you don't have to see him. Your daughter is best off not seeing that. I have partial custody of my neice and nephew, and their father was an alcoholic, and they're a lot better away from him and their mother while their together.

[DORKalicious]

Like alot of the other girls said, I think you should go to court and ask for custody of your daughter. Or what they might do is give him visitation rights for every few weeks or so and have him pay a check every few weeks for you and your daughter, and you should tell them that he is abusive to you so if he dares to do anything after court he won't be allowed to see you or his daughter.
I think you are very strong person for leaving him and taking care for your daughter good luck with everything

[swe3ttemptasian]

cute daughter =]. Well in my opinion, if I was in a situation like that.. I wouldn't risk my daughter just to see her father-- even if he paid for child support or w/e. But then again... it ISSS her father. This is a really complicated situation, because you are the mom and you have to make the choice for her since she's so young.

[xXMomoBubbleTeaX...]

He is the father and everything but he doesn't deserve to see his daughter until he can show some action towards you that shows hes not abusive I wouldn't let him see your daughter at all...he may have the right to his own daughter but he doesn't have the right to hit you...and if this gets serious go to the police cuz if you keep on waiting its goin to be to late and you won't have ne evidence that he hits you and then he'll be able to see his daughter!!!... well good luck w/ that...and don't ever let another man touch you or do those things to you again...he may have some rights but he doesn't have the right to you...but only on yur time..and when your daughter grows up you can explain it to her...right now try to ignore the question and bring up another one...and if she asks about her father and she decides she wants to see her daddy then let her see him and then she can see him for who he realli is soOo she doesn't end up mad at you in the end...and if he does nething to him or yur daughter get a retsraining order...I love you girly..and your daughter is prolly the precious thing on this Earth to you...treasure her and be careful when hes around her and keep a close eye on him...never stop looking at her!!...I'm glad yu stop goin w/ him cause the guy who loves you will never hit you...watch the Movie Enough maybe that can asnswer some questions for you!!!....and I'm sorry you have to go through this...no one should have to deal w/ the anxiety of a father who beats them and and in the future their own daughter...keep your chin up and keep your spririt lifted!!!...and never look down and if he knocks you down get back up cause your the only one whose keeping yourself down!!...

[cHuNsAbAbIe012]

well i think u should definitely go to court n get custody of ur daughter. it may use up a lot of ur money but that is the best options. have any friends or family who have witnessed the abuse to testify for u. im not sure if ur daughter's testimony will be allowed since she's only four. but i do think he has full rights to see his daughter. a father can treat his children decently even if not the mother n lawfully he has the right but morally...he doesnt deserve to see his daughter if that's the kind of person he's gonna be. n u could report domestic abuse if u lived with him bfore...i dont know if u lived with him or not. i think u really should take this to court. so wat if he provides physical neccessities for her? there's a thing called mental abuse. even if he doesnt do it directly to her he's still doing it to her by the way he treats u in front of ur daughter or if she even hears ur arguements.

[to-devastate]

No, he has no right to see his daughter if he beats you. Do you have full custody of her? If you don't, go to court and state that he beats you and that if Geena were to stay with him for a few days that wouldn't be a fit environment for her. As to what sweetreat91 stated about it being hard for a child to grow up without a father, well look at it this way, it is even harder to grow up seeing a father hit his/her mother.

I totally agree. He shouldn't see his daughter if he can't even respect the mother. Seriously, Tom needs a relality check. I'm glad you broke up with him.

[Yufoo]

He has no right to see little Geena. Who cares if he payed? Do you really want to take the chance of him hurting her?

[..:loveee.NuTTii]

Go.To.Court!!!!
Get a court liason to come to meetings.
Meet in a crowded place, preferably near security gaurds.
If this guy raped/abused you-he's dangerous. But, then, he's her father. He does have some right to see his daughter. Warning-Until he proves hes changed-be aware.

[JustAnotherTeena...]

Ok, listen up now. I've gone through almost the EXACT same thing that you are. But here's a twist: I was the daughter. My dad used to hit my mom, so she left him just before I was born(she was scared that he would hurt me too). I grew up without a father. It was hard at some points..it's confusing when you're young, you have difficult quetions like-"All of my friends have dads...do I have one too? Where is he??" But in the longrun, it's the best decision my mom ever made by leaving him. I still grew up a normal, perfectly happy child. Actually, it made me better. I respect things more, take less for granted, I do better in school, etc. So it may be hard at first, but your daughter WILL be okay growing up without a father. And my dad used to try to see me too. I've never actually seen/heard him, but I heard my mom arguing on the phone with him a couple times when I was little. But she was smart...never gave into him.

Seriously, if the guy beat/raped you, do you really want him around your child? Do you want your adorable little girl to be near a rapist? He could hurt her..or even worse- kidnapping is a possibility too. It's a harsh reality, but it must be faced. You need to get (if you don't already) full custody of her. Don't let your kid near him, the outcome will most likely not be good. Do the thing you think is best for the safety of both you and your little girl.

Good luck, and God bless. I'll be praying for you.

--Tori

[literemix24]

I suppose he does have the right, but I suggest (if you do let him see your daughter) to be there. If you feel really.."nervous" or "worried" bring a friend along w/ you.