am i selfish? Options

[Ombra]

am i selfish? my boyfriend has to do a band festival this year on my boyfriend. this is the first ever birthday that he would have been with me.. here ill show you the coverstation just a while ago.

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Ryan: Ilove you
Me: i love you too
Ryan: remember when you said that everyone always has to do something on your birthday?
Me: yea
Ryan: I was looking on the calender to see what day it was on..and in big letters it was like BAND FESTAVIL!!
Ryan: I was like
Ryan: shit
Me: *looks down at her hands* its alright. i guess.
Ryan: no its not....I want you to have a good b-day this year.. i know your past meg..
Ryan: *takes her hands and kisses them*
Me: really. its alright. i-i-ill just go on a walk or stay in my room or something.
Ryan: *looks down* meg.. love.. honey.. i really want to be there for you.. but.. ugh.
Me: its ok ry.. ill find something to do. maybe draw a new picture or something.
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i cried. my past has been really dificult for me.. i've never really had a good birthday. something always goes wrong, and everyone always has something to do, even my parents and sister. sometimes they dont even remember. ryan knows all about my past. i really wanted himthere for me.. and im angry with him for not being there with me, i cried.

am i selfish for being angry with him?

[xj_liana_tx]

no.. but he is a good bf.

[_sarcastic_]

i don't think you're selfish, just don't be too angry with him. he's really sweet though
maybe you guys can celebrate your bday a day earlier or later. just a thought

[Shattered_Hope]

Because of your past, I don't think you're being selfish...but you two could always do something like before your b-day..you know, as an early b-day thing.

[InvisiblePopcorn]

Why do you have to celebrate your birthday ON your birthday? I usually have my party on a different day. You should celebrate with your boyfriend on a different day. Don't be too upset with him, he tried, and he's really sorry about it. He seems like a keeper.

[espionage]

Does he really have to be with you on your birthday? Rather than being pissed off over him not spending time with you, celebrate your birthday by wishing him luck at his festival. =)

[leeniex3]

Why can't you go to his band festival thing to support him (:! One. you'll get to hear him play, and two you'll still spend time together (; I think that would be the best birthday

[aznhunnie6o1]

Of course your not selfish hun', you just wanted something good to happen on your birthday for once. How about you go to the band festival with some friends and watch him do his band stuff? Then after go to a movie? I dunno.

[Skyline Drive]

Why can't you go to his band festival thing to support him (:! One. you'll get to hear him play, and two you'll still spend time together (; I think that would be the best birthday

I totally agree. Go with him

[*jooleeah*]

No, you're not being selfish. What you should do is go watch him at his band festival. It would make him happy and I think that you being there for him would make you happy too. If you can't or don't want to do that, then just plan your day with him another day. It doesn't specifically have to be on your birthday, right?

[cRaZiiXbEauTiFul]

Because of your past, I don't think you're being selfish...but you two could always do something like before your b-day..you know, as an early b-day thing.

^^ i agree

[whomps]

Omg that's so cheesy.. hahahhaaha.

Anyways, you don't seem selfish to me. I can see how you feel because of your past. I'm sure you'll have a good birthday soon.

[Chii]

Why do you have to celebrate your birthday ON your birthday? I usually have my party on a different day. You should celebrate with your boyfriend on a different day. Don't be too upset with him, he tried, and he's really sorry about it. He seems like a keeper.

do this^^

i know that old story about how all your other birthdays were sh*t...but nothing can top the sh*tty birthdays i've had

after all...it's just the day you were born...wow...

[ilauqh]

i dont think you're being selfish because of your past and stuff but remember how much a good of a boyfriend he is.. he seems awesome. don't lose him & hold it against him that he wasn't there for you for your birthday because you know how much he cares.

[silver-rain]

Hah, that's like situations I've been in before with my boyfriend. No, I don't think you're being selfish at all. But like everyone said, celebrate it with him on another day, and go to his band festival.

[love-issosweet]

you're not selfish with what you have endured in the past...try not to be frustrated with ryan...he's a great, sweet bf

you could always do a party after or before your real b-day, that's what i do

have a nice day

[cewinee]

hell no ur not selfish
i'm really sorry that u have bad experiences with ur past birthdays tho =/ and it does really suck to not have ur bf be there for you this time considering he knows bout ur past n all himself, so i can see where the disappointment and anger is coming from.. but hey from wat i can tell from the conversation, he really cares about you and wishes the festival wasnt on that day.. seems like a sweet guy. i'm sure if that band thing wasnt so important, he'd try to get out of it n stuff jus to be with you =)

how bout asking him if he can do somethin with you after the festival thing? or even go with him to it to watch him, atleast ull be spending time with him =) n bring ur friends so ur not alone whilst watchin him n u can have a good time =D then do sth alone with him after the whole festival thing.. cuz im sure u want some alone time with him on ur bday! =)

to get it off ur chest tho u should tell him how bad ur feeling.. dont say anything that would start a fight tho =( cuz remember, he's really a sweet guy who cares about you! its just everything's bad timing n stuff.. jus tell him like 'eh i jus feel like shit that every year sth has to come up on my bday' like tellin him ur unhappy bout him having sth to do on ur bday but not in a way that ur saying he's such an a-hole.. cuz he didnt do it on purpose! =) eh im like blabbing on n making an essay here SORRY!!! take care n have fun ok!! =) gluck!

[X-Zeifer]

Go to the festival for your birthday if you can't go out with him tommorow then.

[EmmalieV]

hell no ur not selfish 
i'm really sorry that u have bad experiences with ur past birthdays tho =/ and it does really suck to not have ur bf be there for you this time considering he knows bout ur past n all himself, so i can see where the disappointment and anger is coming from.. but hey from wat i can tell from the conversation, he really cares about you and wishes the festival wasnt on that day.. seems like a sweet guy. i'm sure if that band thing wasnt so important, he'd try to get out of it n stuff jus to be with you =)

how bout asking him if he can do somethin with you after the festival thing? or even go with him to it to watch him, atleast ull be spending time with him =) n bring ur friends so ur not alone whilst watchin him n u can have a good time =D then do sth alone with him after the whole festival thing.. cuz im sure u want some alone time with him on ur bday! =)

to get it off ur chest tho u should tell him how bad ur feeling.. dont say anything that would start a fight tho =( cuz remember, he's really a sweet guy who cares about you! its just everything's bad timing n stuff.. jus tell him like 'eh i jus feel like shit that every year sth has to come up on my bday' like tellin him ur unhappy bout him having sth to do on ur bday but not in a way that ur saying he's such an a-hole.. cuz he didnt do it on purpose! =) eh im like blabbing on n making an essay here SORRY!!! take care n have fun ok!! =) gluck!

agreed.

[yukichan]

Because of your past, I don't think you're being selfish...but you two could always do something like before your b-day..you know, as an early b-day thing.

ya i agree...hes a good bf...and u arent being selfish...

[Stupidxaimee]

Naw, i don't think you're being selfish. It's just you want to spend your birthday with the one you love and now he is kinda bailing out. It's okay to be mad, but don't go over board.

[Ombra]

hey y'all thanks so much for the advice. we've decided the day before the day after and my birthday we're going to spend together. teh day before we're just going to spend at my house goofing around and having fun, then the day of my birthday he said hes going to give me a wake up call at only god knows what time and hes taking me and my friend sierra with him since her boyfriend will also be performing. the day after.... well i dont know, he said it was a surprise. hehehe i love him so much. you all are right, hes a keeper!

thanks again.
-meg

[cHuNsAbAbIe012]

ur not selfish, u just feel let down and that's ok. but yea i think u should do it bfore or after. even if he couldnt make it u could have let him know how ur feeling instead of keeping it to urself. the relationship wont last if u keep these things to urself. u have to let him know how u feel. he definitely seems like good bf tho.

[shortiiex]

you're not selffish you just want to be happy

[jennyjenny]

Your boyfriend seems sweet lol.

Anywho, it's human nature to be like that. I know that if my boyfriend missed my birthday I would be real sad. Just reschedule it like before or after your birthday or you can even go to his band festival thing and spend time with him there. I know it's not the best thing to do on your birthday, but it's better than spending it alone.