my ex... Options

[Chii]

you never know the value of something until it's lost..
and now i realize.. how much you meant to me.. now that you're gone..
i wish i could turn back time.. and fix my mistakes..
i'm sorry...

that is my ex's away message and i know it's about me because he has said those things to me...it's scaring me...

awhile ago we started talking again then out of the blue he blocked me. i just noticed that he unblocked me. when we were talking before, he told me it took him a year to get over me...and i don't think he's completely over me yet, even though it's been almost 3 years. i like talking to him because i have all these weird questions and he knows everything, i just don't want him to be so sad...

when we talked a week ago, i guess it reminded him of us...of our relationship. our relationship lasted 8 months and he was my first boyfriend and i was his first girlfriend, i broke up with him because he was too clingy and wanted to see me all the time, plus i was only 14, i was young and didn't want to be tied down.

i have a boyfriend now who i love so much...it's like i want to be friends with my ex because he's a great person...but at the same time, it hurts him. i hate hurting people...i don't know what i should do...the obvious answer would be to leave him alone but i don't want him to remember me and be hurt i want him to move on...

[my_sunshine]

yay i`m the first! \m/^-^\m/

but anyways, i don`t know what advice you`re asking for, but i`m going to give you my opinion. i think he`s acting this way because you`re his first girlfriend. from what i know, most people can never get over their first. but, he needs to realize that you moved on. other than that, i think he just needs to go out and meet new girls. as for now, keep your friendship going, but try not to give him mixed signals 0_o;;

i have a lot more to say but i think i`d be typing forever >_<;;

[xkimlaura]

aww, i know it's tough hurting people u once loved. believe it or not, i think that by keeping distance, ur helping him more. i mean, if he still loves you, goodtimes with him would only bring back memories and he would feen for u more, right?

[y0urelectrikk]

I know it feels really bad doing that.. but you just have to do what your heart tells you. Hopfully he'll find someone of his own and stop hurting. You should try to hook him up or something!

[--x who0ps]

find him a really hot girl

[aznhunnie6o1]

find him a really hot girl 

Hott girls can't cure everything....

BUT ANYWAYS,
Try to find him another girlfriend. One that is somewhat like you?

[rememberme]

dayum...

I thought u was my ex for a minute. Lol. My ex and me had teh SAME EXACT situation. I mean, SAME THING, it was scary for me to read through that.

Ne ways... Over time, he will move on his own way. My ex just labeled me as being an a-hole and blocked, and removed her old email names, aim names, everything. I'm sad, but I try to move on.

[*stephinika*]

hmm...tell him that he needs to move on. it could help actually hearing it from you.

[Just_Dream]

It's always tough, with the firsts' and yea... I know that my first relationship was sort of.. BLAH. I'll tell you how I feel about this situation, but my words could mean nothing to you as I've never been through this predicament.

Yes, like stephinika stated, it would help more if you actually told him... None of this internet stuff. Tell him how you truly feel about this ordeal, that you don't feel the same way he does. Admit to him that you do think of him, since you do want to still hold some kind of relationship with him in the form of friendship. But tell him that you've moved on and that you have someone that you're deeply in love with and given your heart to.

Tell me, do you believe that things happen for a reason? Do you believe that people go through different relationships and experiences in love, only to find out that it will sooner or later lead to "the one," the one that is truly meant for you? Past relationships will help find "the one." Do you believe in that possibilty?

If you do believe in that, tell him that things happen for a reason, that you probably aren't "the one" who he is meant to be with. Tell him that there's so many wonderful people out there, that he should try to move on... It may take some time, but it's best that he does. Sure, it will hurt him deep in his heart, but he must realize that you don't feel the same as you did in the past. It's been three years.

And anyway, you broke up with him because he was clingy? Don't you realize that there are so many people who have to deal with long distance relationships? If only you truly knew how it feels to go through every day, knowing that the one you love is at least a thousand miles away from you. Yea, in my past relationships I felt tied down and my second boyfriend was clingy, but I was luckier than others because I got to see him every day, while other couples went to separate schools and it was way tougher. I regret my decisions in the past, but I can't change what happened. But remember just how lucky you truly were, to have someone to love and be with you. I'd rather see someone every day than seeing them once a month. I'm NOT saying long distance relationships don't work (They DO WORK!), but that you should feel lucky, that is all. I'm glad that I get to see my current boyfriend every day... If I don't see him for more than 3 days, I start to get clingy, lonely, etc. I'm so acustomed to having him around that I'd miss him too much if I didn't see him for a week.

[lilJdawg]

Hm, i think that happened to me before but it was to my crush (he liked me too). i told him that he deserved better & that he should move on & find someone better. i guess you just got to tell him to move on & look for someone new. believe it or not, hurting someone can actually help them.

[whomps]

Aww give the guy time. You have to respect his feelings, if he's hurting and he still likes you, to stop talking to him is for his own good. He's trying to get over you, help him. You can do your part by not talking to him too. Once he's completely over you, you should talk to him.

[perfectxflaw23]

I was at the other end of this once. It really does hurt. The only thing that helped me was a break from talking to him. I talked to him every day when we were together, and every day after we broke up.. and that was killing me. I just took a break, and then we started talking again and I was fine. Then he killed himself..

[kayiiem]

I was at the other end of this once. It really does hurt. The only thing that helped me was a break from talking to him. I talked to him every day when we were together, and every day after we broke up.. and that was killing me. I just took a break, and then we started talking again and I was fine. Then he killed himself..

he killed himself?!?! awwwhhzz thats soo sad .

well anyways i know what ur going through, i had broke up with my ex a while ago and he still hasn't moved on but i guess i should be happy because now he has a gf. so really dont get too close with him or too distant.

[h0y_Kalbo]

my gosh, guys should toughen up more, i had 2 gf, that both broke up with me when they liked me first, i got over it my gosh. juss tell the guy to date some other dude or go to "wanna come inside" go on there if they havin too much problems geeze haha

[lilxaznxpryde8]

uhmm....well....i guess he still feels 4 u...just gib it time...he'll realize ur just not into him nemore....it's fine! relax! i hab a problem well not rly a problem....i broke up w/ maii old bf nd now i am dating his best friend he is all jelous...help?

[Shattered_Hope]

you were his first girlfriend....give it time...I think he'll move on. I think it's a nice thing that you're doing..trying to be friends with him again. But give it time and things might change for the better and he won't be so hurt anymore.

[karrar]

get pimpin , keep one on your left and the other on your right.