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 Dec 25 2004, 10:02 PM
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your bf
you knoe he likes hot girls (and yes every guy is shallow) and all that before he liked you. the reason he liked you was becaues you are the only one who can really talk to him and stuff. yall have things in common. after yall go out.. you really love him. Yet, you feel that you're not the type he wants.. and yall talk about this. You told him how you felt.. and he said that he loves you because of who you are. This is the problem.. these days.. i feel that i'm too ugly for him.. and all those things.. i feel that i'm not good enough for him or anything. sigh* plz tell me what to do.. |
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Dec 25 2004, 10:05 PM
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Brie Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 10,172 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,548 |
Well.
I guess it's just a case of low self-esteem. Does he think you're too ugly for him? If he does, get rid of that bastard. |
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Dec 25 2004, 10:08 PM
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 boo Group: Member Posts: 5,512 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 71,765 |
learn to trust. but if says that u are ugly, dump him
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Dec 25 2004, 10:09 PM
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yeh it's low self-esteem based on the way i feel about my looks. he doesn't think i'm ugly. and he told me that.. and i knoe what you would say to me.. you would say "well then don't care.. it just matters if he thinks u'r ugly for him" BUT it's me.. i dun feel happy about it.. i just feel that i'm too ugly for him and that i'm not hot like the others that he likeD.
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Dec 25 2004, 10:10 PM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
everyone goes through that phase..but one day..maybe in the near future you'll change your views...why don't you take a little break...and like spend more time with your friends.. and see what they say?
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Dec 25 2004, 10:12 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 212 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 59,075 |
QUOTE learn to trust. but if says that u are ugly, dump him it's not that i dun trust him.. i knoe that he loves me like he said.. but again... it's the way i feel about it. Before he liked me, he liked hot girls.. and all that.. you knoe what i mean.. like all guys do. I just feel that i'm that i'm too ugly for him and not that type that he really wants. It still bothers me when he says some actress is hot. Everytime he says that.. i feel really low. QUOTE everyone goes through that phase..but one day..maybe in the near future you'll change your views...why don't you take a little break...and like spend more time with your friends.. and see what they say? maybe that'll help.. thanks! |
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Dec 26 2004, 09:44 AM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
just think of it this way, he already tells you he loves you for the way you are not the way you look. and that's why you guys got together anyways.
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Dec 26 2004, 12:11 PM
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 sarcasm hides what you really feel Group: Member Posts: 550 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 37,105 |
well if he says he loves you then believe him....you cant do much more than convince yourself that hes happy...if all else fails...TALK TO HIM i mean hes the only one who knows how he feels...i mean he must have been attracted to your looks in the first place...
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Dec 26 2004, 02:05 PM
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 none of it seems real Group: Member Posts: 2,469 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 73,889 |
Don't let your self esteem drop because of that.
If his with you it's because he wants to be. If he said anything to make you feel ugly or feel bad then I say drop him cause you don't deserve that.  Otayyy ? Don't feel bad dear , be happy with who you are.
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Dec 26 2004, 04:36 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 212 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 59,075 |
i do believe him.. but once again.. i feel that i'm not up to his standards.
yeah i knoe what yall are thinking.. if he said he loves me, then i should believe that and i do. I don't know.. i'm confused. I know i'm ugly, but i also know that it's because of my personality that made him liked me. So, i'm not perfect for him, right? If he liked those other girls before.. because of their looks.. and i don't have that.. then i'm not the perfect one for him.. right? I don't know.. why am i changing topics? no no no... i have low self-esteem and that's what's... omg.. i don't know.. i just don't feel that i'm good enough for him no matter how much he denies it. thanks everyone for the advices.. i really appreciate it. i don't know.. i just can't think.. sigh* |
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Feb 23 2005, 09:54 AM
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its not always about the looks, its about whats inside or your personality, plus when i had a gf now shes my ex her friends ask if this tall dude was cute and she said yes, but it was alright, cuz i know that she loves me more but
 . my gosh, girls juss seriously think negative a lot, think positive look in the bright side or something haha 
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Feb 23 2005, 11:55 AM
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 chocolate luva Group: Member Posts: 265 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 85,450 |
i guess this is a case of low self esteem...but if you are normallly confident in yourself then this is sending you a signal.....you arent comfortable around him
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Feb 23 2005, 04:47 PM
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 go go power rangers<3 Group: Member Posts: 321 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 76,457 |
I definately don't think that every guy is shallow. But yes, I have felt too ugly/fat for my boyfriend before. But once we talked about it, I mean really talked (crying, you know the drill) I felt amazing.
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Feb 23 2005, 04:51 PM
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Running Group: Member Posts: 596 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 96,064 |
I liked this girl... and told her how I felt about her and she didn't like me cause she said I was too scrawny -.-... Oh well... You live and learn I guess...
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Feb 23 2005, 07:13 PM
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if he thinks you're ugly, woah, u better dump him and get over him
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Feb 23 2005, 08:07 PM
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 I do it so good, I don't need nobody else! Group: Member Posts: 644 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 39,752 |
many girls these days feel this way including myself but i try not to think of the negativities in the relationship and keep my head up, most girls feel this type of emotion but how do you know how HE feels about you? maybe your just making stuff up, and thinking way too much...relax
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Feb 24 2005, 12:49 PM
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 Class of 2005!!! Group: Member Posts: 1,132 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 93,080 |
I'm sure your not ugly, and you have to talk to him. If he says ur ugly, totally dumb him. You can be the ugliest person, and your b/f should tell you that your beautiful!
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Feb 24 2005, 01:50 PM
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ask him if he thinks you're ugly...if he just says 'no', then you're too good for him..if he says you're beautiful and he really means it, he's a keeper =)
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Feb 24 2005, 02:27 PM
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well he DID choose you out of 10000000000 girls to be your gf
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Feb 24 2005, 04:14 PM
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 LaLaLa =] Group: Member Posts: 350 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 94,170 |
QUOTE(wonders79 @ Feb 24 2005, 2:27 PM) well he DID choose you out of 10000000000 girls to be your gf  very true. he had a reason to choose u |
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Feb 24 2005, 05:02 PM
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 tower over me Group: Member Posts: 1,190 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 77,717 |
well, maybe he changed his definition of love.
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Feb 24 2005, 06:22 PM
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 Live Your Own Party Group: Member Posts: 1,261 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 7,489 |
I haven't ever felt that way... but here's the thing........
Like you said, all guys are shallow. If he was thinking that you aren't hott enough for him, he would dump you. Obviously, he thinks you're hott enough. Maybe he only thinks you're that hott because he's gotten to know you so well that even if you weren't hott to him at first, he just sees you that way now. But either way, he likes/loves you enough to be with you now. |
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Feb 24 2005, 06:41 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 57 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 82,407 |
looks don't really matter. it's whats inside that counts
 and i'm pretty sure you're not ugly. everyone is beautiful in their own ways. there must be a reason why he likes you.
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Feb 24 2005, 07:41 PM
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 Yea Yea. Group: Member Posts: 837 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 79,366 |
it's what he thinks, if he loves you & thinks your pretty... don't worry. wit my ex-bf i didnt understand why he liked me at sometimes bc i thought there were so many better people... but what you have to do is talk to him & really listen what he has to say bout you.
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Feb 24 2005, 08:00 PM
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 Ooh, Miranda. Group: Member Posts: 234 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 105,609 |
well...i would be happy if someone like that chose me. if he usually goes out with different, or "HOTTER" girls, and chose u, maybe he's maturing..lol...but if he thinks that ur ugly, kick his ass! and then break up.
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