is it really love? Options

[thebariplayer]

okay errgghh im cheesed over!!! well no, Ive gotten over the anger part of it. Now Im hurt and kind of embarassed and feel kind of betrayed.. anyways, i started talking to this guy, and i imediately started to like him because he was exactly what i want (and well, mostly what every girl wants lol) but anyways, so he started dating this girl, and when i found that out i was really jealous and then i realized that i was completely inlove with him, so i broke up with my boyfriend because that wasn't fair to him. well he broke up with her because i guess she "got around". anyways, so over winter break, he and i talked constantly, and we became really really super duper close, well more so than we were. anyways, so over the winter break i had asked him when i was going to be his girlfriend (which for me, was a really tough thing to do) and he said he wanted to explore his options. AH MY HEART BROKE lol.. but about 2 months ago, we started talking about dating, but he lives an hour away from me, so it was going to talk a lot of work (which no doubt, i was ready to put in) so we dont get to see eachother that much. so i was dating some other guy, just because i wanted to make sure how i felt about him was all true ... even though i basically knew it was. i had told him i loved him, and about 4 days after i was dating the other guy, this one said he loved me too. so i broke up with the other one, and started dating this one.. and since then, its been amazing. but the sunday before valentine's day he basically told me he didn't love me.. and then he got mad because he felt i was treating him unfairly, which the truth is is that i dont know how to treat him since im not sure how he feels about me.. umm.. yeah! lol.. and the past week hes been busy with this thing he does at school, so i havent been able to talk to him. I called him once really fast before i went into my lesson stuff, and he was kind of cold to me. but i talked to him last night and he was laughin and stuff, and now im really confused. anyone have any ideas? my friend said he might just be scared since hes never said i love you to anyone before, but i'd like some other peoples opinions.. thanks for your help, sorry it's so long

[*Azarel*]

I won't even bother to read your post, because the title is enough.
If it were love, you wouldn't even have to ask. So no, it's not.

[demolished]

He's shy and scare. He is lying to you, he probably likes you becuase you been contacting him for a longest time ever. Why would he not like you when he always having fun w/ you.

[aznhunnie6o1]

I don't think you TRUELY love him.. because if you truely love him, then you should be happy even if he is with another girl... As long as he's happy then you should be happy.

Maybe he's confused about the relationship? or he's PMSing...

[dahding]

okay, so lemme get it straight.

u thought u loved him because..he started to date a girl and u got jealous.
u broke up with ur bf because u wanted to be with him.
u asked him, "so when am i gonna be ur gf?"
ur going out with some guy and u tell the "guy ur in love with" that u love him.

right then.

how old are u? and, god no this ain't love foo'.

[Shattered_Hope]

I won't even bother to read your post, because the title is enough.
If it were love, you wouldn't even have to ask. So no, it's not.

agreed.

[_sarcastic_]

I won't even bother to read your post, because the title is enough.
If it were love, you wouldn't even have to ask. So no, it's not.

i agree.

[love-issosweet]

(Azarel @ Feb 20 2005, 2:08 AM)
I won't even bother to read your post, because the title is enough.
If it were love, you wouldn't even have to ask. So no, it's not.

^ what she said

[*mishyerr*]

No.

[Wishful_Dream]

^lols agreed. i read it.. and i don't think its love. i don't even think its anywhere near love.. actually, it's nowhere near love. be happy for him. =)

[espionage]

Just how many people did you break up with in that story alone? That tells you enough. So no, it's not.

[perfectxflaw23]

I won't even bother to read your post, because the title is enough.
If it were love, you wouldn't even have to ask. So no, it's not.

My words exactly.

[y0urelectrikk]

I dont think its love.. Just a really big crush!

[brokenskys]

call me a hopeless romantic but ive always believed that you can only truely love one time in your life. there will be plenty of infatuations and crushes and boyfriends, but there is only one love in a lifetime. and thats it.

judging from what you wrote i'd say no, but you are the only one who knows. but the fact that youre wondering is a pretty good indication that its not. you will never need to question love.

[lilJdawg]

I think you should take your "relationship" nice & slow. he's shy & yeah.

[wincyyellow]

i think thats not real love...
after sometime u would not care anymore about him...i guess
just wait

[h0y_Kalbo]

well lots of people consider true love as the following:

- when you can never let go of the person your with
- telling them constantly they love each other
- buy them flowers every visit
- make out a lot
- make sacrafices
- sex or intercourse
- doing many favors
- always visiting a lot
- talking on the phone many times
- doing crazy stuff for each other
- madly in love with each other
- two people loving each other

[wincyyellow]

[QUOTE](h0y_Kalbo@Posted Feb 26 2005, 10:50 AM)

i dont agree with those points,especially point 1
if yr lover turns to someone else,and you really love him to death,u would give up and let him go,because this can make him happy

[EmmalieV]

well take a while and think about it.

[misoshiru]

no. why would you have gone out with another guy if you "loved" him.

[*Programmer*]

ain't love homegurl....that's phsycal attraction....

[Ington]

Damn. I was going to agree with Anna but everyone did that. So ill just agree with Mishy. NO, that is NOT love. Not even close.

[heyyfrankie]

I won't even bother to read your post, because the title is enough.
If it were love, you wouldn't even have to ask. So no, it's not.

good one. if you are in love, you just know.