long distance relationships, ...? Options

[*AngelicEyz00*]

not really... you need commitment

[kae]

i'm in one and its really hard...
u better get used to writing long emails....


read 'what do you make of it?' for a sample!!

any advice would bemore than welcome.... it is real long so just read te 2nd half of it

thnx

[x3chrissyx3]

They do work out if you want it to. Usually works well if you're IN LOVE and not just ya know aww he's my bf holding hands and hooking up type deal. You need A LOT of trust, A LOT of love and A LOT of determination and the will to make it work. After it's all said and done distance really makes the heart grow stronger and fonder

[sammi rules you]

depends on the people.

[leogirl73089]

i don't think they do work. like i mean u needa lot of trust. and u hardly see the person. it could work but it's hard. u need to know the person well and it's hard to say....

[Dark Saga]

I've been with my girlfriend for over 5 months now, we are completely in love.. and it's the greatest thing that has ever happened to me.. also, it's the hardest thing in the world to do.. =(

[*tyedyefroggy*]

I believe that distant relationships do work out if the two make it work comfortably.

[XPLICITxDORK]

i have been with someone in pa for about 4 months and a couple of days....everything works out bewteen us except their is thsi moments we have wen we just fight,fight,fight and its really depressing but then evrything goes back to normal and we r cool with eachother again.So i guess all u need in a long distance relationship is ...love and trust.

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[Tung]

most likely it wont work out. i mean the guy/ or girl your going out with far away . you dont see them everyday. and you dont know what they do everyday. you figure the rest what im trying to say. =\

[nockey]

damn...ok i have a long distance relationship and i dont think i can go on anymore cuz im kinda losing trust.....its scarying me... ...whaa....

[BoogythatBe]

I'm in a long distance relationship. And I'm going to tell you this- It can work but it's HARD. I'm not going to sugar coat it for you and tell you that it's easy, because it isn't. As any human, I have the desire to see him and hold him and I simply can't for the fact of the distance. He's in California, I'm in Florida. Yeah, it's not easy. But next to caring for the person deeply, these are the three things that you essentially need-

One: Trust. If you don't have this, don't bother with it then. If you're going to be getting suspicious of every little thing he does (keeping in mind that he does have a life of his own that doesn't revolve around you 24/7) and reading too deep into little things... it'll go to hell in a hand basket in the span of a second. If he says that he has deep feelings for you and you know in your heart he means it, that's all you need to get you through until you get the chance to be with him.

Two: Respect.

Three: Loyalty. If you feel you won't be able to do it because your eyes might wander elsewhere or you don't think you'll be able to restrain yourself... you have no business in being in the relationship. Or if you attempt it and then find out you can't do it, it's better to step up and admit it then let it play out and causing damage later on.

[lilboriqua2006]

do you think it works? I need advice plz

[*Programmer*]

no it doesn't...only ends up with you both getting hurt so save your time.

[heyyfrankie]

probably not. only if y 'all can see each other like everyone weekend or something like that. because one of my sister's friends is in a long distance relationship with her boyfriend and she has been hooking up with other guys while he is away at college. he has no idea. but then again, i am sure that he is getting with girls over there, too! but they plan on getting married.

[sweetdreamsx3]

Most long distance relationships don't last. Unless you can see each other a lot.

[boing_avenger]

ya they can work, it just depends on how commited both parties are to the relationship. my boyfriend and i are 3 hours apart and i get to see him every other weekend and weve been going out for 7 months.

[Litobabygurl88]

it might work out sometimes if you can both see each other, but most of the time if you're not that committed into the relationship, it wont work out the way you want it to

[perfectxflaw23]

It really depends on how far the distance is, how much trust there is in the relationship, and how dedicated you are.

[racoons > you]

i dno. my best friend is in a pretty steady ldr, and they're both happy tho. sometimes its tough tho, they can tsee each other for ages and the like.

i guess ut depends on how much you like the gu.y if you like him enough, you will make the effort

[*AngelicEyz00*]

Some work, some don't. It all depends on the couple.

[_sarcastic_]

^ i agree.
you've got to put a lot of effort into it, and also trusting the other person. communication is pretty important

[Heathasm]

i dont think its good for young people but for older yeah (older like 20+)

[Just_Dream]

True, it does depend...

All relationships that involve love are built on trust and devotion.

Ask yourself these questions: Are you being true to your significant other? Is your significant other being true to you? Do you both actually trust each other? Are you both willing to do whatever it takes to be together [in the future]?

I've never had a long distance relationship, but it must be tough. But it's nice to have one because once you meet up with that person, it's like heaven because you finally get to see them after a long time.. That feeling.. It might even be the best feeling in the world. When I didn't see my boyfriend for a month and a half after freshman year (2 years ago), I almost died. We called each other everyday... Even though he only lives like a mile away lol. We go to the same school and luckily, during that summer there was summer school that we took so we could be together and take chemistry together, that way we'd get a class over with and I could see him every day. Summer is like.. almost 3 months w/o school, so good thing I only had to last 1.5 months.. :]

[cewinee]

if you love her and she loves you then it can work if u both try. you both have to have a real strong bond and an indescribable love.. i cant explain..
but ive been with my boyfriend for 2years, 2years long distant relationship.. n we visit each other every 2-3months, its not easy tho, we're both not that wealthy.. but we always try because we're in love and we're in such a serious relationship, serious enough to know we have a future together.. so it has to be that worth it u know?

if its not that serious but u do care for her, talk to her n ask her wat she wants.. see if she wants to try it anyway, but promise each other to be honest to each other cuz long distance relationships require a lot of trust and honesty.. so if u meet someone or vice versa wherever u are, u must tell each other asap before the pain is too intense.. if u want to truly avoid the pain for the both of u, then i suggest u remain best friends.. it depends how serious u are with her

sorry if i havent made any sense! its hard to explain..
gluck!

[*XLilAznGrl592X*]

My friend just broke up with a girl that lives far far away. He lives in CA and she lives in NY. His other ex was from NY to and they broke up. At first they were madly in love with each other... then i got home from fun and then figured out that they broke up... I felt so sad for him... He acted like he was fine with it but i could tell he wasn't... I knew he loved her dearly and he was crushed because if it was the other one I knew he wouldn't go and write a song about it... What do u think? will he somehow fall in love with his next long distance relationship or will it just fall apart like his last one? I know this is confusing but w/e... I know know weird