Change, my friend changes.... Options

[chongmaggie007]

I have a friend. She is a TB (tomboy). Before, she studied really hard and got As in all of her subject ( quite good , yeh ? ) . However, she now becomes very lazy .... She did not study at all and her grades are only fair... Moreover, she does what she wants to do without thinking, such as skipping lessons.

What should I do ? I have asked her what's wrong but she said she doesn't know either. She just wants to do this. I want her to change back to the one I know before...

[racoons > you]

let her get on with it. her life she's messing with, no yours. i understand your concern, bt if shes so determined, let her f**k up. she'll learn from it

[dahding]

u want her to change? sucks to be u. its her, deal with it. people change. if she doesn't know why, but is still gonna do it, she's screwing herself over. whatever.

[xj_liana_tx]

people change, maybe she is depressed, maybe she is just tired of working so hard without any quick rewards. we've still got a lot of school years before us, it's quiet daunting

[*stephinika*]

yeah people do change over time so you can't change them back...and you should try to help her but don't tell her how to live her life.

[Litobabygurl88]

being a tomboy doesnt mean studying hard and getting A's.

anyway you cant change a person. i've learned about it from own experience

[Wishful_Dream]

my friend's a tomboy. she doesn't study hard. she still gets fairly great grades. =x better than i'd ever do even if i study =p

i have this other friend. she study really hard. at least 5 hours every single day. she studies from 6 til 3 am most of hte time. it scares me. she gets straight A. but last term, she was ONE percent from an A.. because she got a B in pe. >< 89.4. heh. =/ she coulda gone on principles list.. x.x

^if that girl changed. I'd be afraid, and scared. y'know? i know how you feel.. >< she was pissed off at everyone when she got ONE wrong.. out of this REALLY hard test T__T" anyways, i don't know how to help you.. but try to remind her of the memories..

try to show her what's she doing to herself..? before she screws up worst..? tell her, "i liked who you were before. i wish you were back to the way you were, but i know it's impossible." then just leave. =/ iono what you could do. i don't think you can do anything.

it's her. it's the way she is now. you can't change her back.. unless she wants to change back herself. =)

[sweetdreamsx3]

You can't change anyone even if you want them to go back to the way things were before. They changed because they wanted to. Maybe it was the better for her even though she won't tell you what's wrong.

[yukichan]

u cant change hu she becomes....maybe shes tired of doing homework..even smart ppl sometimes just dont want to work..just give her some time...and try to be there for her..but dont try to change hu a person is..