Seriously..., damn Options

[HongKongDong]

Why is it so damn hard to find someone who can just listen to you vent? Why is it so damn hard to find someone who is willing to just listen and not expect something in return? WHy is it so damn hard to find someone who can listen without butting in and rambling on about thier own situation? I swear, im sure u all already probably know this but geez, if people took just an extra minute each day to listen to each other, rather then be so selfish, then we would seriously be much MUCH better off.

[*Azarel*]

I don't see you listening.

[lovescream]

Psh. Like anyone CAN ever listen. Someone I know hates nosy people, and she hella nosy herself. And she talks a lot.. she doesnt listen to me talk.

[angel-roh]

Yes, I agree haha.
My friend, Yumi wouldn't let me talk haha.
She had problems with this crush she likes.
But it's okay. I pretty much understand because
I used to be like her too. I mean you were like
that too, right? Yes, it's annoying when someone
does it. Anyways... these days I rather listen
and help. But when I try to help, they keep ignoring
me. It's like they are talking to an imaginary friend.
Eesh... like I'm not exist. If they keep ignoring me.
I use my high tone and change the subject.
Because when I get mad, I can hang up the phone.
Haha... I don't think that's harsh. They should know
that I'm trying to help and they won't let me because
they talk too much. Heh I like talking to my friend,
Yumi though, even though she talks too much and
won't even let me talk haha. I mean she's my friend.
I'll just listen... hehe. But I dislike people when I try
to talk about my problems, and they just change the
subject out of nowhere. It's kinda like what I said up there.
I would be like Yumi. And you know like I said,
if she ignores me too much, I will change the subject?
Yeah... so I would do the same thing and feel the same
way. So I don't know what to do about it. Just stay calm?
.
.

[yukichan]

its really hard to find someone hus willing to listen to u when u need to talk to someone about ur problems...i try to do that for my friends but they dont really do that in return..well only one friend does...everyone is caught up in their problems and dont notice others need help..gosh..it gets really annoying sometimes...

[DaTru KataLYST]

isnt that what xanga's original purpose was for?

[jennyjenny]

Yeah, I know...
I always tell people about my problems and their responses are all " oh ", "cool" or other crap...
And then they talk about their problems...

Well, I listen to other people's problems, ad try ti help them..
but I sometimes tell them about my story that's related to theirs to console them.. kinda...

[thait3n]

yah...i get probs like that to...I mean whenever ppl come to me to have them like spill it out, I will listen and help em..But when i ask for their advice...SOrry i'm Bz

GRRR

[iheartsimba]

god i know...
whenever i talk to my friends they always somehow put their problems in their or something as if it will make everything better. but whatever, talking to a wall mihgt be a better idea =/

[*stephinika*]

hmm yeah...for me its not so much finding someone to vent to, but the right person to vent whatever it is...

[EmmalieV]

because some people rather vent about there own problems

[Heathasm]

i just want to say im not one of those people
just the other day i listened to my friend vent for TWO hours, yes two hours about things that made me jealous and angry and some times bored but i listened and comforted her ~_~ any good friend would do that

[DaTru KataLYST]

heehee

I got a great friend that listens to me rant. =]

I listen to him, too.

mutual relationships!

[sunissed14127]

I know what your saying...I cant trust any of my friends with my big problems, so i can never really vent to them.

[MAXpowers1023]

yeah being able to just listen is a very mature quality...the older you get the easier it is to find some one who will just listen....

[krispy_kreme333]

ya i wish i had someone like that. none of my friends are like that. there all too wrapped up in their own shit. i try and talk to them and vent and whatevr but it doesnt really work and then they just ramble on about their own situation. it pisses me off.

[shortiiex]

ppl who are like that are like one-of-a kind....

[xj_liana_tx]

everyone in this world is self centered

[SarahxJoy]

^In a way, that is true.
S'just that people are more self-centered than others.

But if it helps any, I do listen.
I put myself in the other's shoes and see how things are from their point of view.
And if I can, I help.
Sometimes yeah, I do talk about my personal experiences, but that's only to let the other know that I've been through the same thing and that they'll get through it.

That's how I see it anyway.

[alone in the wor...]

i'll listen ..

[DanielleMaria05]

I'm not one of those people. I will sit and listen, and every once and awhile insert a "uh huh" just to show that I'm still listening, then, When they're done, we talk about it. Together. yeah, I know how you feel though. Sometimes you just need someone to vent to. Sorry you don't have that. i guess just depend on your xanga.

[DaTru KataLYST]

ppl who are like that are like one-of-a kind....

I agree, people who have friends among them who listen are truly lucky.

[slipper]

it's a give & take thing. you scratch my back, i scratch your back.

edit-if you still don't get it: you have to listen to someone, for someone to listen to you.

or if you're truely lucky, you'll find someone who'll listen to you..

vent it out on your xanga/whatever..

[HongKongDong]

^^Is it really? I try to, I end up not though. I do, I really do try to listen and help out but its really hard because I myself have my own problems that I want to talk about... meh..

[alienchik]

ill listen. i do that with all my friends!