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grr... today me and my so-called "best friend" ruthie had a fight.
i walked into lunch and saw that she was depressed. so i sat down and asked her wat was wrong. she ignored me and didn't tell me...so i was pissed off and didn`t talk to her. Then, i started talking to my other friend about some random thing...and out of nowhere ruthie starts bashing me for no reason. She goes on about how what im saying is wrong...and when i say "ok...i made a mistake..." she keeps on going on and on. I know that she was upset and all [i still have no idea WHY!] but she has no right to tell me off. So...after she yelled at me i told her off. i said " all because ur upset about something it doesnt mean that u have to take it out on people and make them mad with you " she got all mad and said that i wasnt even a real friend. then on AIM we were arguing and she said that I don't understand her and don't help her with any of her problems. How am i supposed to know what her problem is if she WONT tell me? Whenever I say what i feel or think to her...instead of talking about it...she yells at me and says that im wrong/insists that she's right. I can't take it anymore! Ugh..now we're not talking right now. What should I do? If i apologize [which is the only way that she will be my friend again] then ill just feel stupid...knowing that i didn't do anything wrong in the first place. any advice? 
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Jan 26 2005, 06:54 PM
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hmmm... well mabye you should leave her alone for a bit and then mabye she will forget about what happend and then become your friend again...
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Jan 26 2005, 06:59 PM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
stand your ground. I think you're right and you shouldn't be the only one to put up with it...there are other friends you can make...why waste time on a girl who thinks she's always right and you're wrong? If she was your friend she'd apologize becuz from what you're saying.... she's wrong...
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Jan 26 2005, 07:10 PM
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 none of it seems real Group: Member Posts: 2,469 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 73,889 |
I get you.. I'm kind of going through a similar situation. My "best friend" isn't trusting me right now ? I didn't even do anything to make her not trust me.. she is acting different and I have no idea why because she won't tell. GOSH. Well I just suggest you wait until your friend comes along to talk to you or talk to her straight up and see how it goes. I don't think you should say sorry for something you didn't cause..
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Jan 26 2005, 07:50 PM
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You guys are dumb. Group: Member Posts: 1,252 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 25,094 |
Find new friends. :)
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Jan 26 2005, 08:52 PM
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QUOTE(Shattered_Hope @ Jan 26 2005, 3:59 PM) stand your ground. I think you're right and you shouldn't be the only one to put up with it...there are other friends you can make...why waste time on a girl who thinks she's always right and you're wrong? If she was your friend she'd apologize becuz from what you're saying.... she's wrong...  agreed. but leave her alone for awhile she's probably just upset...but yeah that sucks. |
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Jan 26 2005, 09:04 PM
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i am kinda in the same situatiuon with you. but its just my friend.. he was mad at me and i odnt even know why.. and yeah.. now it been 5 months since he tlak to me.. yes i know its a waste of my time.. lol
eventually she will get over it. but give her space. and try to talk to her and figure out what is wrong and what you can do about it, even if its not your fault.. |
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Jan 26 2005, 09:06 PM
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i am kinda in the same situatiuon with you. but its just my friend.. he was mad at me and i odnt even know why.. and yeah.. now it been 5 months since he tlak to me.. yes i know its a waste of my time.. lol
eventually she will get over it. but give her space. and try to talk to her and figure out what is wrong and what you can do about it, even if its not your fault.. |
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Jan 26 2005, 09:10 PM
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I think you should definetly stand your ground. She has no right being mad at you for something you don't even know about.
BUT You have to understand that something is bothering her. You don't know what it is, so you don't know how important it is yet. I suggest you just keep your distance untill things cool down and she is ready to talk, and then you can conversate like humans. Good luck. |
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Jan 26 2005, 09:14 PM
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QUOTE(ermfermoo @ Jan 26 2005, 9:10 PM) I think you should definetly stand your ground. She has no right being mad at you for something you don't even know about. BUT You have to understand that something is bothering her. You don't know what it is, so you don't know how important it is yet. I suggest you just keep your distance untill things cool down and she is ready to talk, and then you can conversate like humans. Good luck. ^ i agree with you. just leave her alone for a bit, if you don't things will be wayy worse than it already is. don't let her bring you down because you didn't do anything. good luck. |
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Feb 13 2005, 03:03 AM
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 the chick who is the alien Group: Member Posts: 106 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 42,327 |
back off for a bit. i did that with my friend. we are cool now. i apologized a couple times to her but quit because i couldnt keep apologizing to her so i just backed off for a bit
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Feb 13 2005, 07:28 AM
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Oh god, there are so many damn bxtches in the world like this, you shouldn't even PUT UP with her. Just stop talking to her completely. People like those shouldn't have friends.. because all they care about is there own little problems and when you try to help, they tell won't let you, but later on they yell at your for not helping at all.
If this is the first time, you should just stay away from her for awhile until she calms down; you don't need to apologize. If she has done this repeatedly you should just stop being affiliated with her and letting her screw you over. |
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Feb 13 2005, 09:35 AM
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1. stand your ground.
2. leave her alone for a while. 3. if she's still a bitch, send her a mail bomb and forget about her. |
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Feb 13 2005, 11:23 AM
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Give her time. Obviously she is going through some sort of personal problems and maybe going a little crazy about it. She'll get better soon.
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Feb 13 2005, 12:42 PM
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 Another ditch in the road... you keep moving Group: Member Posts: 6,281 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 85,152 |
leave her alone... she'll deal with it.
everyone fights, fact of life. i fight with my friends more than i get on with them. its why we like each other so much lol that sounded messed up but its true. seriously, give her time, and then talk to her clamly and rationaly without losing your temper, and tel her u can thelp if she doesnt tell you that it is wrong. |
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Feb 13 2005, 01:11 PM
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Don't give it. Do not apologize because you didn't do anything wrong at all. Just give it time and when she's ready, she'll talk to you about whatever, but for now. DON'T give in.
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Feb 13 2005, 02:18 PM
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 Oh babyy. :d Group: Member Posts: 616 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,708 |
I say, leave her. First off, she's your best friend, she should tell you when somethings wrong. Correct? Second off, she b*tches at you for no apparent reason. Third off, she says your not even a friend. Thats just plain low, theres no excuse for a best friend to do that. Ditch her, get a new best friend. If she trys to b*tch at you again, just get up and walk away. Wait till SHE appoligizes to you, even if she does, you probably wouldn't want to be best friends with her after that. And if she IM's you on AIM just to b*tch at you, ignore it.
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