Tell me is this fair?, ....? Options

[*Programmer*]

man somtimes i think i get the short end of the straw all the time....yesterday i was chilling with my gf.....right......now she is very protective....about other girls being around me....yeah.....so today i see her hugging another guy..who happens to be one of her best friend's who i have no problem with..i mean i really don't care. i trust my girl friend. sure it makes me a little jealous but nothing to flip out over..(yes im a guy who actually admits i get jealous)..well yeah later that day i run into an old friend of mine back from middleschool....she runs up and hugs me... my gf walks out of her work and see's the hug..(i was at her work waiting to pick her up).. after putting on a false impression to my old friend that "we" needed to get going...that she had to get home and we had to go..once in the car....she chews me out...for letting her hug me.....i mean i like my gf ALOT........but somtimes i just feel like.... im not being treated fairly.. and i don't get the same amount of trust that i give her... . i mean in her past relationships she has been cheated on...but then again so have i....why should i have to get the bad end of that trust bracket. why should i be judged by what others have done to her before me. im not them.... i think this relationship is taking a turn for the worst.....cause im starting to get annoyed by it. Alot of my ex's are still good friends of mine....and this "gf" of mine is really starting to interfere with my relationships with my friends....please tell me what you think of this

[silver-rain]

Wow, that is the exact same situation that my boyfriend and I are in, except I'm like your girlfriend. I agree- it's not fair, and my boyfriend pointed that out to me today, so I'm gonna try to be more open and let him hang with his female friends, even though I'm not too comfortable with it. Eh, I trust my boyfriend, but I just get really jealous, protective, possessive and whatnot. And, same as you, he's good friends with most of his ex's, and that makes me uncomfortable.
Well, I suggest you have a talk with her, tell her how is it hypocritical of her to yell at you for hugging girls, yet she can hug her guy friends. Show her how much you care for her, let her understand that it's bothering you. If you really do care for her a lot, then don't break up with her, try to work it out. My boyfriend and I have that talk a lot, and everytime we talk about it, we get closer to an understanding, and it's useful. Maybe it's not that she doesn't trust you, but she doesn't trust the girls... But yeah, that is exactly what my boyfriend is going through...