really confusing situation =[ Options

[aznguy711]

im in kind of a bind rite now..im not sure what i should do...ok like my gf lives kinda far from me and i dont see her that often...its been fine for 6months now but recently it feels like we're drifting apart. she has a bestfrend who livess near her and is in love with her..he's always there for her wen she needs it..and yst she told me that her aunt was telling her that the bestfrend was a better choice then me because i was too far away and it seems like he cares more...so i asked her and she sed that she does love him..i gess the time they spend together has grown into something...but she also said that she could never leave me, like theres a force inside her that will not let her leave me, even though she loves him she couldnt be with him, like she cant see herself doing that..its just the feeling of "love" that she has for him...so i told her that she has to choose since if she doesnt chose and keeps it the way it is now, its like she has 2 bfs, one official and one who really does the part, if she doesnt choose then we'll just run into a larger obstacle later on cuz we could continue to drift...i dunno i dont want to lose her, yet i cant see myself making her unhappy...honestly i see that he could be a better bf then me, but i cant let her go, and she wont let me go...she's really confused rite now and doesnt kno what to do....if we do stey together, i still wont be able tosee her frequently until im in college which is in another year..so yea...im so lost rite now

[Shattered_Hope]

you did pretty good telling her she had to choose. I mean if u left it for a while more...you know that you two would've had more problems...why dont you just take a break from the relationship and just continue it when you finally go there next year? I mean..sometimes couples take a break from each other to try and wonder if they're with the right person. But..I guess your way is nice too...though kinda err...harsh? I mean if someone is there for them..they will develope some type of feelings toward that one person...it could be that she loves that guy like a bro.