YOUR definition of true love, ..obvious Options

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I was thinking and i was just curious what you guys thought love means or what love is. Do we naturally love or do we learn to love?

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good question, there's lots of definitions to love. let's get some definitions =)
(if you really don't wanna read this long, you don't have to. but this stuff will probably surprise you, so i suggest you grab something to eat)

Wikipedia article on love
(some quotes here are straight from wikipedia)

Love has many meanings in English. It can mean an intense feeling of affection, an emotion or emotional state. In ordinary use, it usually refers to interpersonal love.

That's true, love is really intense.

Interpersonal love
Interpersonal love is love between two human beings, and is deeper than merely liking someone a lot. Although feelings are usually reciprocal, there can also be unrequited love. Interpersonal love is usually found in an interpersonal relationship, such as between family members, friends, and couples. However, people often express love for other people outside of these relationships through charity and volunteering.

Some elements that are often present in interpersonal love:

Affection: appreciation of other
Attachment: satisfying basic emotional needs
Reciprocation: if love is mutual
Commitment: a desire to maintain love
Emotional intimacy: sharing emotions and feelings
Kinship: family bonds
Passion: sexual desire
Physical intimacy: sharing of personal space
Self-interest: desiring rewards
Service: desire to help
Passion, or sexual energy, is probably the most important element in determining how a relationship is seen. This is because passion is often considered undesirable or unhealthy in love. In many religions and systems of ethics, it is wrong to have passionate love for immediate family, or outside of a committed relationship.

there's lots of types of ways you can love somebody, as said here.

Love is basically showing loyalty, faithfulness, and devotion towards another. Also, it shows that you are really attracted to somebody, in what I've heard. Love is also complicated, especially teenage love, since it sometimes causes a lot of drama.

I've heard a lot of drama from people who have experience teenage love. Here's something I got out of a Chinese show called Lady Stealer that is strongly true about love.

Kid: Teacher, what is love?
Teacher: Umm... Love is complicated. It's like when you see somebody, you're happy. When you don't, you are sad and you really want to see him/her. *starts crying*

Thats a deep line, man... But true in young love. Most teens (as I wanna suggest) aren't ready for love, because they think "ohh, my girlfriend/boyfriend will be with me FOREVER and EVER." That's pretty strong, yet there's a good chance its not going to happen. Here's an example:

2 teenagers: 1 boy and 1 girl
They are going out with eachother.
3 weeks later, they say "I love you and i will be with you forever!!!"
a week later, one of them (doesn't matter if it's the girl or boy), starts crying because they really miss the other person. The other person feels guilty, and it ends up possible like this:

- FEELS SO GUILTY THAT HE/SHE CRIES also

- can't stand a relationship, so breaks up

- really start talking to eachother more, and soon, they try their best to improve their relationship


yes, those are the possiblities.

teenage love is most likely too young for teenagers because they have pressures at home to learn/do other stuff and soon won't have enough time as needed to spend time with their boyfriend/girlfriend.

Let's go by a bible verse also I've found from the lounge fourms that is also true about love.

Love is patient; love is kind
and envies no one.
Love is never boastful, nor conceited, nor rude;
never selfish, not quick to take offense.
There is nothing love cannot face;
there is no limit to its faith,
its hope, and endurance.
In a word, there are three things
that last forever: faith, hope, and love;
but the greatest of them all is love.

1st Corinthians 13:4-13

let's define the terms one by one.

patient - able to wait (love is a very patient thing)
kind - of course is kind, how can you love if you can't?
envies no one - doesn't jealously want (yep, love is not a jealous thing)
never boastful - doesn't self-pride
nor concieted - not self-centered (isn't so obsessed about yourself)
nor rude - doesn't have bad manners
never selfish - doesnt want only him/herself
not quick to take offense - doesn't get angry quickly
There is nothing love cannot face - nothing can stop love
there is no limit to its faith - love's faithfulness can go VERY HIGH
its hope - no limits to it's confidence =)
and endurance - no limits to how you can withstand the stress you get, you can RESIST ALL THE STRESS you GET from love.

In a word, there are three things
that last forever: faith, hope, and love;
but the greatest of them all is love

amen to that manz..

faith is believing
hope is confidence
and love is faith and hope combined =)

pretty long ain't it?

oh yeah, to enter those questions. I think we SHOULD learn to love cuz MOST teenagers don't even know the meaning of love. just a little piece of advice.

Do we naturally love or do we learn to love?

depends on the person's personality. i've seen many different ways to love people.