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 Dec 30 2004, 05:33 PM
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As some of you may know, I have a 4 yr old daughter (Geena, look at sig for pictures) and if you read this post I made a while ago you already know about my ex boyfriend, Tom.
I couldn't really get advice from my friends, because they got really weird on the subject and weren't much help, but I figured since you guys don't really know me, it'd be easier for you to say what you think. I followed your responses about my problem with Tom (I left him), and ever since then, now he wants to see his daughter, Geena. I'm really scared to see him again, because every time we do talk it turns into an arguement and I end up crying and Tom manages to revert back to his old self and he hits me. A week ago, Geena asked me "Why does Daddy hurt you?" and I really didn't know what to say. I don't want Geena to see this stuff, especially at such a young age, but last night Tom and I got into a fight on the phone, and he thinks he should see his daughter. (BTW he's 24). Of course I don't trust him and Geena alone, I'm afraid he'll hurt her, but I don't want to see Tom again. Do you think he has a right to see his daughter? I mean, he did pay for a lot of her necessities when I was pregnant and when she was just born... Sorry if this is too long. I just wanted an opinion/some advice.  EDIT // I didn't think this should be in relationships, since it's about Geena's sake. |
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Dec 30 2004, 11:24 PM
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No, he shouldn't be allowed to see her. He ABUSES you. That will traumatize your daughter. She will be scarred with memories of her OWN father beating her LOVING mother. Avoid him as much as possible. But if he does force his way to see her and beats you up, sue him. Bring up your past with him and how he beats you up and leave you bruised and crying to court. I'm sure the judge will give him a restraining order and if he ever gets close to you, he will be put to jail. Jackie Kennedy did the same thing because she had a deranged stalker. But what's more dangerous? An unknown stalker or an abusive ex-boyfriend? He should be sued. Be in the protection of your family. He has no right to see his daughter. He may have provided money when you were pregnant but that really doesn't matter. Your life may be at stake if he gets to you and beats you up. He may argue to you about him being the father and him having a right to see his daughter but if you disagree in any way, he may fight back, leaving you hurt. If you are abused too badly, you may die from god knows what. I know I am not much of help to you since I'm only 12, but take precautions. If you have a good friend that is a guy, he can take on the role of a god father and protect your daughter just as a father would. He would be there when your daughter needs a father. Just take precautions against him and be in safety hands of your family. If you have no more resources of help, go to the police.
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i heart john My daughter... Dec 30 2004, 05:33 PM
inlonelinessidie No, he has no right to see his daughter if he beat... Dec 30 2004, 05:51 PM
chickenshlt QUOTE(inlonelinessidie @ Dec 30 2004, 5:51 PM... Mar 1 2005, 07:10 PM
xd0rkette QUOTE(inlonelinessidie @ Dec 30 2004, 5:51 PM... Mar 11 2005, 05:18 PM BEBEx_iNFAM0USS first of all, i think you are an extremely brave p... Dec 30 2004, 05:52 PM pikimoo Ask your daughter. It may seem silly, but children... Dec 30 2004, 06:09 PM Skyline Drive Thank goodness you got out of that relationship.
... Dec 30 2004, 06:24 PM Skyline Drive QUOTE(inlonelinessidie @ Dec 30 2004, 5:51 PM... Dec 30 2004, 06:28 PM toodlepops. ur daughter is adorable!
yes, bak to the p... Dec 30 2004, 06:34 PM xSqueekyMexicanx QUOTE(inlonelinessidie @ Dec 30 2004, 5:51 PM... Dec 30 2004, 06:50 PM Nicolatofu i grew up watching my father continuously hit and ... Dec 30 2004, 07:11 PM cmgchica717 QUOTE(XKali_chik_4_lifeX @ Dec 30 2004, 7:11 ... Dec 30 2004, 08:34 PM M1SSxCHR1SSY well i guess i basically agree with everyone else.... Dec 30 2004, 07:35 PM imadorkabledxd i dont think she should see him especially since i... Dec 30 2004, 07:39 PM LEDO_D0RKETTE i think he has no right to see his daughter. i thi... Dec 30 2004, 07:52 PM LEDO_D0RKETTE i think he has no right to see his daughter. i thi... Dec 30 2004, 07:54 PM inquisitive_ He is the father of your daughter and he has the r... Dec 30 2004, 08:02 PM audory No, I don't think he has a right to see your d... Dec 30 2004, 08:06 PM KRicoBoriqua Like everyone else I dont not think he should she ... Dec 30 2004, 08:17 PM LiLaZnGirL122 OmG GurL!! block his Number OR change ur p... Dec 30 2004, 08:29 PM I.Luff.Emo.Boys. Aw. im so sorry to hear about that.
Tom has no r... Dec 30 2004, 08:34 PM Endless_Symphony since he is the father, he sorta has the right to ... Dec 30 2004, 08:56 PM JessJR1022 has he ever hit her??.. that's a big question ... Dec 30 2004, 09:02 PM sw33t_rouge Bring your mother to see him at his hoouse he cant... Dec 30 2004, 09:14 PM Cake. He has a RIGHT to see his daughter, unless you go ... Dec 30 2004, 10:06 PM Chii QUOTE(inlonelinessidie @ Dec 30 2004, 5:51 PM... Dec 30 2004, 11:00 PM booger butt he has the right, but I would rather go through th... Dec 30 2004, 11:04 PM angel-roh Wow if your boyfriend beats you up. I don't th... Dec 30 2004, 11:06 PM x____duckii Let him see her, but be there when he does, unless... Dec 30 2004, 11:10 PM mouse_3k I think you should let them see each other but onl... Dec 30 2004, 11:21 PM Kathleen Nah - he has no right to treat you like that. Furt... Dec 30 2004, 11:43 PM seffie_o0x_143 i know this advice might sound stupid but tell you... Dec 30 2004, 11:44 PM TootsInTraining2 2 words
1) Restraining
2) Order
Its the only way (... Feb 28 2005, 04:31 PM Hiphop d[-_-]b i think he should be able to see his daughter, but... Feb 28 2005, 07:02 PM kyuubi319 He's raped and beaten you. If I were you, I ab... Feb 28 2005, 08:07 PM UrF4vL!pGl0Zz1212 QUOTE(kyuubi319 @ Feb 28 2005, 7:07 PM)He... Feb 28 2005, 08:31 PM priyas NOOO...hez abusive...dun let him see his daughter ... Feb 28 2005, 08:47 PM _confuzed_ my advice would be to get a court order, so you do... Feb 28 2005, 08:50 PM BitterSweetness Get away from him, seriously, even though he has a... Feb 28 2005, 08:53 PM potmonkeyjd I grew up watching my dad hit my mom, even though ... Feb 28 2005, 08:56 PM c0oki3_m0n$tah absolutely no no no no! u shouldn't let hi... Feb 28 2005, 09:45 PM angel_revelation hmm... maybe go to counseling or something with To... Feb 28 2005, 09:49 PM Litobabygurl88 Wow! first of all I would like to give you pro... Feb 28 2005, 11:55 PM perfectxflaw23 I think he gave up the right to ever see his daugh... Mar 1 2005, 03:39 PM njgurl412 thier right.. if u think u should go to court then... Mar 1 2005, 03:45 PM EmmalieV I think you should go to court seriously might tak... Mar 1 2005, 07:24 PM sunissed14127 I dont think he should see your daughter. If he hi... Mar 1 2005, 07:30 PM the_crox You should think what's best for yourself and ... Mar 1 2005, 07:36 PM snak3y3z1001 Get a restraining order against him. Mar 1 2005, 07:44 PM maia_dc I am so sorry you had to go through his abuse.
Thi... Mar 1 2005, 08:02 PM helllla jankyyyy He does have the right to see her.
But who knows..... Mar 1 2005, 08:15 PM DanielleMaria05 I would say talk to the cops, and even, go to cour... Mar 1 2005, 08:20 PM bab3egurl8o5 yea she is really cute
well i dont think you shoul... Mar 1 2005, 11:37 PM Animelover113 I think you should let your daughter see her fathe... Mar 2 2005, 12:21 AM angel-roh Hm, how about this. In the future, your daughter w... Mar 2 2005, 01:16 AM pixiedust309 He may have a right to see her because shes his da... Mar 2 2005, 06:42 PM LiPsTiCk_KiSsEs scince he is her father he has the right to see he... Mar 10 2005, 07:59 PM nevernothere I think he should be allowed to see her. I don... Mar 10 2005, 08:04 PM starlette I say you should possibly get legal intervention. ... Mar 10 2005, 08:06 PM aznxdreamer you had your baby when you were 13?? 14?? somewher... Mar 10 2005, 08:13 PM ItzOnlySydney i think he has a right to see his daughter BUT onl... Mar 10 2005, 08:20 PM Shortiiex he has the right but i don't think he should s... Mar 10 2005, 08:22 PM tarachangsays honestly..him being the father and all. he has ful... Mar 10 2005, 11:17 PM iwalkbackwards You should definatly let him see her, but maybe yo... Mar 11 2005, 03:49 PM DORKalicious Like alot of the other girls said, I think you sho... Mar 11 2005, 04:45 PM swe3ttemptasian cute daughter =]. Well in my opinion, if I was in ... Mar 11 2005, 05:13 PM xXMomoBubbleTeaXx He is the father and everything but he doesn't... Mar 11 2005, 05:14 PM cHuNsAbAbIe012 well i think u should definitely go to court n get... Mar 11 2005, 05:15 PM Yufoo He has no right to see little Geena. Who cares if ... May 9 2005, 04:36 PM ..:loveee.NuTTii Go.To.Court!!!!
Get a court liason... May 9 2005, 05:03 PM lil_gymnast6 Ok, listen up now. I've gone through almost th... May 9 2005, 05:27 PM literemix24 I suppose he does have the right, but I suggest (i... May 12 2005, 07:35 PM |
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