Yep. I'm pretty much pissed. Options

[inthemudhole]

Yeah.. so..

Okay.
I'll start here.

My best friend that I've known for about 10 years just got a boyfriend.
But my issue is.. I introduced her to him, pretty much, and I liked him first.
I guess it's my problem, because I didn't try harder to get to know him and such.. but anyway.
So he's pretty much her first boyfriend.. and she won't shut up about him.
They've been going out for about 5 days now.. and they've already made out and shit like that. It's pretty sickening, if you ask me.
But whatever.
Anyway.
She just won't shut up about him.. she never stopped to think if I was just a little bit disappointed because I liked him first, and she never thanked me for introducing him to her.
She's my best friend.. and I still <3 her, but she's getting on my nerves.
And whoa, ho, ho. I'm not even done.
Nowww she keeps flirting with my ex in woodshop class. Then she tells me all about it.. uhm, excuse me.. but do you seriously think that I want to hear about her flirting with my ex?! No. I really don't. I'm barely over him, as it is at times, so why would I want to know about how much fun she's having with my ex.

Yeah. And then another issue is.. well, I sort of tried to bring this up once.. I was very subtle and pretty polite, if I do say so myself.. then she got all defensive and said, "Yeah? Well, this is how I felt when you and Alec were going out!" And not to be all.. defensive towards myself, but I never acted like this when I was going out with Alec.. I never talked to her about him, and I certainly never snuggled/hugged/kissed/made out with him while she was around.. and for that matter, while ANYONE was around. So she can't exactly pin that on me.

I really hope I'm not coming across as a conceited, egotistical bitch.. but all of this is really annoying the shit out of me..

I've tried bringing it up in very subtle ways, and it's obviously not working.. but I really do not want to be reminded about how giddy she is and how they've already made out and shit. I don't want to be reminded that she got the guy I saw first.

I guess I should be happy for them, but it's pretty hard to be, you know?
I congratulated them, and smiled for them for the first few days, but it got old really quickly, you dig?

And now there's a dance coming up on Friday.. thank GOD I got Liz [sporadic] to come with me.. or there'd be no way in Hell I would go. I see enough of her hugging him and shit after school.

Okay, anyway. I guess I should wrap this up, since it's getting a bit lengthy.

I suppose this was more of a rant than asking for help and such.. but I do have one question.

How do I basically tell her all of this without her thinking I'm jealous and being a bitch?
I want her to know that I'm sick of it, and it hurts.. but I don't want her to get all defensive and possibly pick a fight.. I really do not want to come across as a bitch towards her, I mean.. I've been best friends with her for ten long years. I don't want to soil our relationship over this..

So.. how can I bring it up?
Obviously being subtle isn't working, but I don't exactly know how to summarize all of this into a friendlier manner.

[sheddingtears]

omfg. seriously. when my best friend was single and crap, she always tells me stories of her flirting everyday with guys. she would get all GIDDY about it. & she also tells me how the people i used to like touches her there and there or whatever. sometimes it does hurt to know that, but i can accept the fact that i never really spill my innermost secrets about the guys i like because i can't trust her very well.

i totally understand why you feel so annoyed. well, i told her that she always talk about guys and how she needs to stop. it's not like i really care or can relate to her. i mean like she's giving me all the details of how some certain guy said hi to her. i mean like WHO GIVES? then she begins to assume that i don't like guys or like talking about them AT ALL. gosh it was very narrow-minded of her.

anyways, i was subtle to her but that still got me nowhere in letting her be quiet. i'm glad now she has a boyfriend and yeah only concentrates on him. i guess you should say how you feel in a calm way, but not in a way that she might think you're jealous or a total bitch.