Interracial Relationships, ignorant people these days... Options

[acidophilus]

Yeah, I'm currently in an interracial relationship, and I can barely get through a hallway without hearing some kind of remark. 90% of the time it's derogatory. Sometimes I feel like socking one of them. You'd think people wouldn't care so much these days what with nearly everyone trying for the "ghetto" persona. (Hence one of the reasons why I love her, she's one of the few that don't try to be "ghetto," and she acts nicely and everything) Have you ever been in this situation? (Note: I am NOT going to break up with her, so don't think that's what I'm asking)

[hi-C]

Just gonna say that they aren't "affecting" me at all for the final time.

I just feel like punching them sometimes to shut them up.

Well, punching them doesn't really solve anything. If anything, you've let them know that they've gotten to you, and that's all they really want in the first place.

I've personally never been in that situation because my community isn't diverse like that. My high school was (still is) around 97% Black (just an estimate, I'm not exactly sure of the exact percentages). But now that I'm at a college in NYC, being that it's a lot more diverse, the probability of me being with someone from another race is higher, which kinda scares me, just because I don't know how my parents would react. I'd like to think that they're open-minded, but something tells me that they wouldn't exactly welcome a non-Black boyfriend with open arms.

My parents are really old school, they were teenagers during the civil rights movement, and those old prejudices, stemming from past hurts, even though they should be long gone by now, are sill there. My mom still talks about this racist elementary school teacher that failed the six Black kids in her class and said that they would never amount to anything. My mom understands that the woman was just ignorant, but I guess that just proves that you can forgive but never forget.

So in short (not really, I know this reply is hella long), I really don't know if I would ever be in an interracial relationship. Not because I'm not open to the possibility, cuz I totally am, and I support all interracial couples since they have the balls to be put under such harsh scrutiny, but because it's a lot easier to be with someone of my own race, as bad as that sounds.