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iheartjohn
post Nov 29 2004, 04:54 PM
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Okay, I have this older boyfriend who's in the military (he's about 6'3, musuclar) and lately he's been getting really violent. He'll have these odd anger outbursts and recently, we got into a huge fight and he pushed me down a flight of stairs. I broke my arm.

He's had a past of violent behavior when he was 16 or 17 (he's in his early 20s now) and he's taking it out on me.

This is my longest relationship ever (about 3 years) and I think I love him. Atleast I thought I did. I really don't want to end it, but my parents are getting suspicious of my injuries. I managed to tell them that I tripped down the stairs in my highschool.

But when he punched me in my face, I had a bruise on my cheek, my parents didn't believe me when I insisted I got hit with a soccer ball during PE.

But he says he loves me and he gets so upset after all the fighting stops. I'm just really confused.

So what do I do? I really don't want to end it, but I feel that I have no choice...
 
 
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jecissa
post Nov 29 2004, 11:00 PM
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You have grown attached to him, and it is hard for you to tell yourself that you need to end things with him. I think that deep down you know what to do. You know what is best for you. Sure, he may act like he feels sorry after he hurts you... but he he obviously doesn't feel sorry enough to stop doing it. You can't expect it to just end one day, because odds are it won't. You deserve a guy who will respect you!!


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i heart john   Abusive Boyfriends   Nov 29 2004, 04:54 PM
_sarcastic_   i think you should end it, i mean you should befor...   Nov 29 2004, 05:34 PM
miss_asian   i think u should before u get beat up really badly...   Nov 29 2004, 05:47 PM
MyVermilionPlague   End it. You broke your arm? Wow. It could get ugly...   Nov 29 2004, 06:04 PM
angel-roh   well if you dont want to get beaten by your boyfri...   Nov 29 2004, 06:05 PM
bigpoppaproppy   he's a piece of sh*t excuse for a human being ...   Nov 29 2004, 06:07 PM
x____duckii   Talk to him. If he continues, end it (unless you w...   Nov 29 2004, 06:10 PM
pikimoo   He's not like really crazy in love with you, i...   Nov 29 2004, 06:20 PM
Nicolatofu   Maybe it was only a broken arm this time, but trus...   Nov 29 2004, 06:28 PM
mouse_3k   QUOTESo what do I do? I really don't want to e...   Nov 29 2004, 06:29 PM
aznhunnie6o1   well.. this is a toughfy cause u think you love hi...   Nov 29 2004, 06:50 PM
yummy_delight   you should definitely end it. i don't see why ...   Nov 29 2004, 06:54 PM
i heart john   QUOTE(aznhunnie6o1 @ Nov 29 2004, 6:50 PM)but...   Nov 29 2004, 08:35 PM
yummy_delight   QUOTE([f)eleeza,Nov 29 2004, 8:35 PM] he alre...   Nov 29 2004, 08:38 PM
EyeOfTheTiger5   Raped and beaten up, get out of there! If he ...   Nov 29 2004, 08:46 PM
Shortiiex   you really do have no choice.....but becareful whe...   Nov 29 2004, 10:04 PM
blowpops69   break up with him now. and request for the mafia t...   Nov 29 2004, 10:31 PM
jooleeah   holy crap....he's beaten you AND raped you? an...   Nov 29 2004, 10:45 PM
jecissa   You have grown attached to him, and it is hard for...   Nov 29 2004, 11:00 PM
helllla jankyyyy   is this a joke? How can you take this? I know you ...   Nov 29 2004, 11:39 PM
LiLaZnGirL122   uhh i noe u love him but break up with him hes not...   Nov 30 2004, 02:14 AM
aznangel4eva   it mite be possible that he loves you do, n' i...   Nov 30 2004, 03:18 AM
MyChemicalRomance.   if he really loved you, he wouldn't abuse you....   Nov 30 2004, 04:03 AM
bigpoppaproppy   QUOTE(aznangel4eva @ Nov 30 2004, 3:18 AM)it ...   Nov 30 2004, 04:03 AM
i heart john   I'm still kind of confused. Every time he hits...   Nov 30 2004, 07:59 PM
muffin dude 292   Talk to him to see what is wrong. But if he does h...   Nov 30 2004, 08:23 PM
LiNHy POO   get him some help! an anger management class i...   Nov 30 2004, 08:51 PM
airam   http://www.scarleteen.com/crisis/articles.html (oo...   Nov 30 2004, 08:53 PM
x Wolf Tearz x   You sure this guy doesnt have any metal problems??...   Nov 30 2004, 09:25 PM
jooleeah   QUOTEI'm still kind of confused. Every time he...   Dec 2 2004, 05:29 PM
mSz_dOrk_anGeL   Leave him. Now. I've been there, done that. If...   Dec 2 2004, 05:44 PM
imadorkabledxd   you need to break it off with him now! if he l...   Dec 3 2004, 03:51 PM
mirage   this relationship is not worth it... read this boo...   Dec 3 2004, 04:17 PM
lyin_in_wait   what will happen if he gets really angry and....we...   Dec 3 2004, 06:57 PM
bigpoppaproppy   QUOTE(jooleeah @ Dec 2 2004, 5:29 PM)Maybe he...   Dec 3 2004, 09:19 PM
KingdomHeartsFan   I would end it. Your friends and ur parents don...   Dec 3 2004, 10:51 PM
laur3nw   I seriously think you should end it even though he...   Dec 3 2004, 11:13 PM
teeners__15   end it now. doenst matter if he regrets it after ...   Dec 3 2004, 11:52 PM
feejayjay   I think you need to get out of there, girlfriend. ...   Dec 4 2004, 12:03 AM
alone in the world   ew ... wth is wrong with him. report him if i e...   Dec 4 2004, 12:05 AM
xSWEETxCANDiix   hm...talk to him about it first...but if he does i...   Dec 4 2004, 12:25 AM
eli5e   beat the shit out of himm ...wat the f.cuk u doing...   Dec 4 2004, 12:29 AM
DaToNeViEtBoI916   END IT...NOW he might get all depressed and what ...   Dec 4 2004, 12:36 AM
angel_revelation   wow... you really shouldn't take that from him...   Dec 4 2004, 01:03 AM
xheartbreaker   Doesn't he have enough violence in his life al...   Dec 4 2004, 05:28 AM
i heart john   QUOTEbeat the shit out of himm ...wat the f.cuk u ...   Dec 30 2004, 05:45 PM
BEBEx_iNFAM0USS   i think he loves you, seriously, like loves you de...   Dec 30 2004, 05:58 PM
BEBEx_iNFAM0USS   o yea, and i think you should tell your parents. S...   Dec 30 2004, 06:00 PM
inlonelinessidie   1. He might be bipolar. 2. I know you love him bu...   Dec 30 2004, 06:03 PM
xSqueekyMexicanx   you should end it and tell the police cuz i think ...   Dec 30 2004, 06:47 PM
LEDO_D0RKETTE   i think you should end it. later on, you will get ...   Dec 30 2004, 08:13 PM
cmgchica717   no man should ever ever lay his hands on you. Lea...   Dec 30 2004, 09:00 PM
lulu424   u suck   Dec 31 2004, 01:32 AM
xtransatlanticismx   didn't you ever have those sessions in middle ...   Dec 31 2004, 05:52 PM
swtlillaugher   you should seriously end it. forget about him. if ...   Jan 24 2005, 08:38 PM
lil_gymnast6   END IT   May 9 2005, 05:20 PM
tchotchke   ... this was a while ago. Are you still with him?   May 10 2005, 09:21 PM
angelshortipnai   gah, i REALLY think u should end it..i mean, it CA...   May 10 2005, 09:48 PM
xoxvietbabyy   I think you should end it, but who knows what he...   May 11 2005, 01:33 AM
yukichan   this topic was started a while ago..hu brought thi...   May 11 2005, 01:39 AM
x0xpaulax0x   about every persons reply sucked!! n...   May 11 2005, 04:47 PM
literemix24   I think that you guys should talk this over, if th...   May 12 2005, 07:31 PM
nothingless   you have a baby. you don't want someone like h...   May 13 2005, 04:43 PM
iiloveyou637   iii suggest you end it because he hurts you even m...   Jul 1 2005, 06:00 PM
Fallen Fairy   no you shouldn't take that from him or from an...   Jul 1 2005, 06:05 PM
pixamelon   ..   Jul 1 2005, 07:56 PM
CloudNine   QUOTE(pixamelon @ Jul 1 2005, 6:56 PM)...have...   Jul 2 2005, 05:17 PM
sheepy   well.. it doesnt matter if you love him, becus if ...   Jul 1 2005, 08:16 PM
enyceXaddiction   doesnt this belong in the relationship section?   Jul 1 2005, 08:56 PM
taggy505   run away and take ur daughter go distant and then ...   Jul 1 2005, 09:27 PM
WickedDreamer   A bruise can be covered with foundation and a brok...   Jul 2 2005, 01:28 AM
CloudNine   Okay. First off I've been in a similar situati...   Jul 2 2005, 05:00 PM
anubis   once or twice is forgivable--but multiple times--y...   Jul 2 2005, 05:21 PM
i heart john   Who brought this topic back? Well, most of you k...   Jul 2 2005, 05:46 PM
rx_azngirl   End it fast! And give him some help.   Jul 2 2005, 10:34 PM
Mizz Rizza   i dont get why you still love him he abuses you an...   Jul 5 2005, 01:32 PM
FailedSense   hmm. I have anger problems, myself. I have never...   Jul 5 2005, 01:47 PM
x0hAyLiE0x   hun u shoudnt be in a relationship like dat...he g...   Jul 5 2005, 01:49 PM
Kristinaa   I really dont think that's HEALTHY for you eit...   Jul 5 2005, 02:02 PM
PinkTrash   maybe his problem doesnt have to do with the relat...   Jul 5 2005, 04:02 PM
xxaznxgurlxx   I think you should don't go with him. If you a...   Jul 6 2005, 02:09 AM
3ssx   end it. dont risk your safety. one day something r...   Jul 6 2005, 03:25 PM
xaznxehgix   you should definately end it. You can't stay ...   Jul 6 2005, 03:28 PM
Smilessss   i think yoo should end it like wat otha says...dis...   Jul 6 2005, 06:17 PM
LeAnBaK   I think that even though u say u love him and u pr...   Jul 6 2005, 06:29 PM


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