Answer me a simple question, please.. Options

[Oreo_bro]

Why is it.

That when it comes to friendship, it doenst matter what you look like, if your a good friend thats what you are, regardless of looks/personality.

But

When it comes to gf/bf, even if you have a great personality, and the person likes being with you, if your not hot/handsom then you have no chance with the one you love when compared to a supermodel type person?

The question is, in its simpilist forum, is why do people, guys and girls, let outwardly appearance affect their decision? When in all reality, looks are only skin deep and fade with time, yet the inner beauty remains the same?



i just..cant..figure this out girls, pls tell me why so many of you *and yes guys are included but im focusing on the girls for a moment, not saying all girls do this, but just in general* let looks be the judge?

why..

[Just_Dream]

You can't possibly tell me that you've never been attracted to a girl just becuase you notice she's cute, pretty, or hot (you name it)? Don't lie to yourself and say that looks don't matter because deep down, everyone is attracted to someone and notices them by the looks first. I'm not saying that everything is based on looks, but that's what people will notice, unless they're blind (and I really DO mean blind, as in they cannot see, NOT in a derogatory way). But it's the personality that keeps the relationship going. I'm not a good-looking person, but I did think my bf was cute, when I first met him. But then I wouldn't have loved him if he didn't have a good personality.

But even so, looks aren't that much of a big thing to me. Yea sure I can think guys are cute/hot/handsome, but I wouldn't dare like-like them unless I was for sure that they had a good personality. I guess what I'm trying to say is looks and personality are an important factor. But IMO, poersonality should ALWAYS outweigh looks, no matter what. No offense, but it seems as if guys are alot more picky than girls. No offense or anything, but yea sometimes I do see pretty girls who are dating not-as-pretty guys and sometimes I think "she can get better, look-wise." But then I realized, that the pretty girl saw something wonderful in that guy, that it greatly outweighed looks.