I'm really scared, I'm afraid of my boyfriend Options

[Pinkxstar]

My boyfriend lives like 30 minutes away from me. We started going out like 5 months ago. The first month was great he was really cool and nice. Then all of a sudden he was slitting his wrists and smoking. I knew that he was gothic and punk and stuff but he was just acting way too evil, though I am not implying that goths and punks are evil. Anyway, then his friends started talking to me and telling me that he's a "pothead". I thought they were just trying to make me break up with him. So I ignored them. Then one day we were all hangning out and he was wearing a black t-shirt and I could see the scars on his arms. It really scared me. And then he asked me if I wanted to smoke some pot. I said "No" and he got all mad and started saying that I just didn't like him and then he tried to hit me but I knew that he was going to so i moved back and he started yeeling and then his sister came downstairs and talked to him and I left. Now all of his friends and he are telling me how sorry he is and that he'll never do it again. But I know that sometimes people say that but it always happens again. But I really truly like him and I want to see him get better. But if I reject him I'm afraid he's going to continue cutting himself and be very hurt. Please give whatever helpful advice you have!!!

[kaytee_lou]

first, try and talk to him .. tell him that you wont him to stop doing all the bad crap thats he doing .. and just try and help him as much as you can .. if that doesnt work, then there isnt anything you can do .. you cant make someone want help, so if he doesnt want help .. just leave him alone .. tell him that you want him to change, because u dont think hes doing the right things .. if he doesnt listen, then just leave him .. if he really loves you and wants to be with you, then he'll stop what hes doing